Divorcees of rdrama.net, what do you even do in this situation? How do you get the ball rolling without getting all your money stolen away and your life ruined?
I can't bear her anymore. She makes me miserable when I'm around her. I look forward to her going to work because being in her presence makes me seethe.
She's unloving, she's involved in politics and that's all she talks about which makes me so bored. She has lost all sense of fun and humour. She's got a shit part-time job but is actually quite capable -- if she spent half the time she spent doing politics shite for free she'd have a decent career. If I dare raise the fact she's got an easy job and does nothing to bring additional income to the family, she gets angry and upset that I'm demeaning her.
She does nothing around the house so it's always a mess. I work full time and have a decent career in data. Currently manipulating behind the scenes for another promotion to director level and, no bullshit about male and females roles in household chores, I don't have the time to clean shit up when she has been at home all day doing nothing important.
Ideally, if she were to get elected as a politician -- which isn't likely to happen but that's what her focus is on -- that would be an ideal time for me to leave her because instead of earning 4 times less than me, she'd earn the same so I wouldn't get fricked with child support.
But it's so unlikely to happen -- she's failed twice before to get anywhere but just won't stop. So I'm stuck. Options are wait another 10 years for the kids to be 18, accept financial ruin and become a poorcel, live in misery cohabiting with a cold fish of a wife who I despise.
What would you do?
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I'm really sorry, this sounds like a nightmare situation. The biggest issue seems to be that you are already at the point of having contempt for her and it's hard to come back from that.
Research how much child support you'd actually have to pay (think there's some sort of calculator for each state). And remember she likely would be motivated to get a better job if you left because it's hard to support yourself on a part time salary. I can't imagine child support is enough for her to stay at home and continue in this status quo of barely working? You're already paying to support your kids now, anyway. You just don't feel it since you're not writing one check a month.
If I were you, I'd crunch the numbers and see if you'd actually be as fricked as you think you'd be.
I'm really sorry, bad relationships can take such a toll on your mental and physical health. You can DM if you need an ear.
Edit: didn't know you were British but still….crunch the numbers because it's probably better to be free from a bad relationship.
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Don't forget, he's a bong
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Oh I didn't realize that. Have no clue how it works over there.
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He probably gets arrested
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They suspend his peepee license in the divorce proceedings
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Empathy LOST
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Stop being so nice.
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Agreed, scrotes should be told "keep yourself safe" more often. Especially if they're having girl problems.
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Never, ever leave. Make her leave.
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