Divorcees of rdrama.net, what do you even do in this situation? How do you get the ball rolling without getting all your money stolen away and your life ruined?
I can't bear her anymore. She makes me miserable when I'm around her. I look forward to her going to work because being in her presence makes me seethe.
She's unloving, she's involved in politics and that's all she talks about which makes me so bored. She has lost all sense of fun and humour. She's got a shit part-time job but is actually quite capable -- if she spent half the time she spent doing politics shite for free she'd have a decent career. If I dare raise the fact she's got an easy job and does nothing to bring additional income to the family, she gets angry and upset that I'm demeaning her.
She does nothing around the house so it's always a mess. I work full time and have a decent career in data. Currently manipulating behind the scenes for another promotion to director level and, no bullshit about male and females roles in household chores, I don't have the time to clean shit up when she has been at home all day doing nothing important.
Ideally, if she were to get elected as a politician -- which isn't likely to happen but that's what her focus is on -- that would be an ideal time for me to leave her because instead of earning 4 times less than me, she'd earn the same so I wouldn't get fricked with child support.
But it's so unlikely to happen -- she's failed twice before to get anywhere but just won't stop. So I'm stuck. Options are wait another 10 years for the kids to be 18, accept financial ruin and become a poorcel, live in misery cohabiting with a cold fish of a wife who I despise.
What would you do?
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Divorce is an abominable institution of man that tries and fails to sever vows to God. You cannot and must not try.
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In the Bible, there is no explicit punishment for divorce. However, it is clear that God intended marriage to be a lifelong commitment (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:3-9). Divorce should be a last resort, not something that is taken lightly. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and it always brings pain and heartache (1 Corinthians 7:15). If you are considering divorce, I urge you to seek counseling and prayerfully consider your decision.
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If you give me a checkmark, I will work on my marriage.
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Gay catholic nonsense
Trans lives matter
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I'm really sorry, this sounds like a nightmare situation. The biggest issue seems to be that you are already at the point of having contempt for her and it's hard to come back from that.
Research how much child support you'd actually have to pay (think there's some sort of calculator for each state). And remember she likely would be motivated to get a better job if you left because it's hard to support yourself on a part time salary. I can't imagine child support is enough for her to stay at home and continue in this status quo of barely working? You're already paying to support your kids now, anyway. You just don't feel it since you're not writing one check a month.
If I were you, I'd crunch the numbers and see if you'd actually be as fricked as you think you'd be.
I'm really sorry, bad relationships can take such a toll on your mental and physical health. You can DM if you need an ear.
Edit: didn't know you were British but still….crunch the numbers because it's probably better to be free from a bad relationship.
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Empathy LOST
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Don't forget, he's a bong
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Oh I didn't realize that. Have no clue how it works over there.
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He probably gets arrested
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They suspend his peepee license in the divorce proceedings
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Stop being so nice.
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Agreed, scrotes should be told "keep yourself safe" more often. Especially if they're having girl problems.
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Never, ever leave. Make her leave.
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Take the Boomerpill
Hahaha I hate my wife too, are you gonna be at Jimmy's BBQ tomorrow night?
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I'm going to collate a load of the best advice and rank it, but this is the most practical so far.
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Objectively speaking unless you're very hot your life probably won't be particularly nice even if you divorce, I think if you spend a few decades with someone even if you aren't head over heels for them you come into a sort of mutually beneficial arrangement. Beats being old alone I think.
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you probably have no choice but to rope
Factcheck: This claim has been confirmed as correct by experts.
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Surely there's some other way?
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if you're dead then you won't have to talk to your wife, and your kids won't have to deal with a spineless loser :D win win
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wtf is wrong with you? Not even joking or being ironic anymore, why are you being such a c*nt?
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How is she wrong? The world would be a better place without NVMs, particularly
NVMs
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so true
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elfbinn is unironically fricked in the head lmao this is in character for her
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sorry I'm not going to pretend to feel bad for a loser who bitches about how he hates his wife but he's worried he'll have to spend too much money on child support lmao this isn't mgtow
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I mostly think you're fricked in the head because you enjoy taking pictures of roadkill as it slowly rots and decays.
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it's artistic photography
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I'm not asking for pity r-slur I'm asking for strategic advice. Typical foidbrained mong moment to completely misunderstand the brief and get angry in confusion.
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I didn't say you were asking for pity BIPOC just that I don't care about sparing the feelings of a shitty deadbeat
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Where I live, in a divorce the wife gets half of everything, plus child support payments.
The ideal outcome would be she just vanishes somewhere and I keep everything including the house and kids. Unfortunately, women have it all stitched up when it comes to divorce so that isn't an option.
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You're husband left you didn't he you old bitter twat
Trans lives matter
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When are u gonna
do more foid drama 
creation 
:(
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I actually would rather sneer at drama from the sidelines, and I'm sober now so (probably) no more messy b-word moments
but if you want you can stir the pot and blame it on me, and I'll go along with it 
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We've lost another great
shit maker 
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Please read the sidebar
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The dramatard fears neo-sincerity
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Please stop using words more than five letters long
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Sorry, will stop now
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Don't worry about it sweaty I appreciate a whole range of options.
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downgrade yourself to level 1
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Greupost, you should also keep yourself safe
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Wrong.
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Why not?
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You could also just kill her instead
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There are no other ways, and don't call me Shirley
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You should ask the Canadian government
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There is, it's right in front of you, but I can't say it cause fedposting etc
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type up a suicide note on her phone
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You have children. Suck it up. Get a mistress or frick prostitutes on the side to keep your life bearable. My opinion of your wife depends on if she thinks she is AOC or MTG.
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Imagine a woman with the politics of MTG and the somewhat decent looks of AOC
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anna_Paulina_Luna
unstoppable
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There is a word that describes what you're talking about: butterface
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Lol, like you could do better
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Judging by the way you've talked about her here in the past, I'm not surprised to read this. Have you talked to her and are you beyond trying to make it work?
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Maybe they should try polyamory to bring them closer together? https://fashionmagazine.com/flare/polyamorous-relationship-marriage
!slots129
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Im on my 4th marriage it's pretty easy to get divorced you just hire an attorney also she is gonna take your money unfortunately there is no way around that
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Darn, LLM's no of marriages > LLM's height in feet
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zoz
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zozzle
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Who changed Sir Zozalot's text font lol
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Now we know the answer to the enigmatic question: how do manlets reproduce? They marry Colombian hookers looking for a green card.
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Hi Anger against Mayor Wu seems to make sense now, he wants to marry her and make her the fifth
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holy crap this is like voluntarily jumping into a lava pit, but 4 times
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Does anyone even come to weddings after your second?
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For the open bar
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I only knew one guy who married two times and like 90% of our side of the family boycotted it cause his divorce was over an affair with the girl he married.
But they show up occasionally at get togethers and shit now and everyone acts polite, its weird.
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don't give her the satisfaction of divorce. frame her for infidelity or some worse crime like murder or treason
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Put on a wig and your wife's favorite dress and murder a trannny with whatever weapon the bong government allows you to possess these days. That's an absolute win-win for Aunty
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"What would you do?"
If I wanted to avoid divorce (for now or indefinitely) then I would just stop caring so much. Complete indifference is a good way to kill a relationship while not causing massive arguments that would lead to a divorce.
This is made more difficult because you have a child or children. Got to make sure they are looked after but don't lift a finger for the wife.
Start funneling cash away from the wife/household.
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Hiding money is not good advice and could get you bussy blasted
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But opening a separate account is a good idea. It's not hidden. It's just beyond the grasping b-word's daily reach.
Where is sirpingscrote when ya need him?
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Do it sneakily. Start paying for everything in cash. Then if you funnel a couple thousand away you can say it was just part of your daily expenses
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It doesn't work unless the wife actually appreciates the indifference and leaves you alone otherwise you'll just end up dealing with endless "you've changed you don't love me any more" whinging.
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Play the long game...
Tell your wife that you're struggling because it seems she is putting her political career in front of her family... And that you think you should go to therapy to deal with this because the marriage is so important, the kids, your dreams of a life together, etc. Make your 'dream' the dream she has when you guys got married... Guide her to the realization that she is choosing her 'politcal career' over her family. You both decided to start a family, then she decided to start her political career after all.
Go to therapy, learn the language and cowtools (I'm hearing you say..., This makes me feel like..., etc) or read someone like John Gottman. Once you find a therapist you like, then push for a marriage therapist. You're out here doing all this difficult work (in therapy) and she is being selfish; Let the therapist tell her that... It might help your marriage or it might get you a paper trail that will really help you in a divorce.
If she is cold/has other interests like trying to run a political campaign, there's a chance she is/will cheat on you. Don't be mad but don't be clueless either... Just document and always try to be the 'good guy'. Let her know that her actions are hurting her family... If she starts to get angry, throws a fit, etc., don't engage. Call your therapist. Create that paper trail that she needs help that she just isn't getting... Or maybe a 3rd person will help you two communicate and get you to a better place.
If it comes to it; No one is going to believe you in divorce court. But if you have a couple therapists talk about how much work you are doing, for so long; It will go a long way.
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Good job bobby, here's a star
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I'm the American version of you. No like actually, even down to my job and her obsession with politics ruining everything. I had actually quit my job and gone back to school to change careers when she decided to divorce me. She paid ME until I graduated and got a new job. Now no one pays each other and custody is 50/50. I'm happier than I've been in 8 or 9 years. Met a new woman who I'm so much more compatible with and who hasn't mentioned politics once in the year we've been together.
Get a lawyer and see what they say about all the financials. It ended up draining most of my savings but I'm not sending a check every month.
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Are pre-nups not a thing? That's so insane.
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I got married young, so no.
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