Divorcees of rdrama.net, what do you even do in this situation? How do you get the ball rolling without getting all your money stolen away and your life ruined?
I can't bear her anymore. She makes me miserable when I'm around her. I look forward to her going to work because being in her presence makes me seethe.
She's unloving, she's involved in politics and that's all she talks about which makes me so bored. She has lost all sense of fun and humour. She's got a shit part-time job but is actually quite capable -- if she spent half the time she spent doing politics shite for free she'd have a decent career. If I dare raise the fact she's got an easy job and does nothing to bring additional income to the family, she gets angry and upset that I'm demeaning her.
She does nothing around the house so it's always a mess. I work full time and have a decent career in data. Currently manipulating behind the scenes for another promotion to director level and, no bullshit about male and females roles in household chores, I don't have the time to clean shit up when she has been at home all day doing nothing important.
Ideally, if she were to get elected as a politician -- which isn't likely to happen but that's what her focus is on -- that would be an ideal time for me to leave her because instead of earning 4 times less than me, she'd earn the same so I wouldn't get fricked with child support.
But it's so unlikely to happen -- she's failed twice before to get anywhere but just won't stop. So I'm stuck. Options are wait another 10 years for the kids to be 18, accept financial ruin and become a poorcel, live in misery cohabiting with a cold fish of a wife who I despise.
What would you do?
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I'm the American version of you. No like actually, even down to my job and her obsession with politics ruining everything. I had actually quit my job and gone back to school to change careers when she decided to divorce me. She paid ME until I graduated and got a new job. Now no one pays each other and custody is 50/50. I'm happier than I've been in 8 or 9 years. Met a new woman who I'm so much more compatible with and who hasn't mentioned politics once in the year we've been together.
Get a lawyer and see what they say about all the financials. It ended up draining most of my savings but I'm not sending a check every month.
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Are pre-nups not a thing? That's so insane.
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I got married young, so no.
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