Divorcees of rdrama.net, what do you even do in this situation? How do you get the ball rolling without getting all your money stolen away and your life ruined?
I can't bear her anymore. She makes me miserable when I'm around her. I look forward to her going to work because being in her presence makes me seethe.
She's unloving, she's involved in politics and that's all she talks about which makes me so bored. She has lost all sense of fun and humour. She's got a shit part-time job but is actually quite capable -- if she spent half the time she spent doing politics shite for free she'd have a decent career. If I dare raise the fact she's got an easy job and does nothing to bring additional income to the family, she gets angry and upset that I'm demeaning her.
She does nothing around the house so it's always a mess. I work full time and have a decent career in data. Currently manipulating behind the scenes for another promotion to director level and, no bullshit about male and females roles in household chores, I don't have the time to clean shit up when she has been at home all day doing nothing important.
Ideally, if she were to get elected as a politician -- which isn't likely to happen but that's what her focus is on -- that would be an ideal time for me to leave her because instead of earning 4 times less than me, she'd earn the same so I wouldn't get fricked with child support.
But it's so unlikely to happen -- she's failed twice before to get anywhere but just won't stop. So I'm stuck. Options are wait another 10 years for the kids to be 18, accept financial ruin and become a poorcel, live in misery cohabiting with a cold fish of a wife who I despise.
What would you do?
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If I wanted to avoid divorce (for now or indefinitely) then I would just stop caring so much. Complete indifference is a good way to kill a relationship while not causing massive arguments that would lead to a divorce.
This is made more difficult because you have a child or children. Got to make sure they are looked after but don't lift a finger for the wife.
Start funneling cash away from the wife/household.
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Hiding money is not good advice and could get you bussy blasted
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Do it sneakily. Start paying for everything in cash. Then if you funnel a couple thousand away you can say it was just part of your daily expenses
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But opening a separate account is a good idea. It's not hidden. It's just beyond the grasping b-word's daily reach.
Where is sirpingscrote when ya need him?
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It doesn't work unless the wife actually appreciates the indifference and leaves you alone otherwise you'll just end up dealing with endless "you've changed you don't love me any more" whinging.
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