Literally EVERYONE has ruined their lives having kids. Anytime I go to rehab it's like I'm the rare standout that has no kids. All the women want to talk about is their kids and child support and divorce and custody issues and all this other shit. Feel like I can't bond with women when all they want to do is commiserate about their kids and CPS cases and all this other bullshit and I can't relate at all. And of course all the men and just trying to frick and give you some gross disease like HEP C or something. It sucks. :( I want to make new friends but finding other addicts with no kids is like looking for a needle in a haystack. They all fricking obsess about their kids. I think the record was like some dude that had 8 fricking kids like Jesus Christ everyone was BEGGING him to please get a vasectomy, Lived in a group home for awhile with a woman that had 6 fricking kids and everyone joked that she needed to get neutered asap. Idk I'm the rare one that didn't frick up their life THAT BAD
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Idk how to make friends as a female addict
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I'm sorry you feel isolated by the mo-child factor.
I cannot blame parents for obsessing. Children usually present opportunities for parents to show off by being interesting. After you drop the baby anchor, that kid reflects you for both of your lives.
You could use normie apps like nextdoor to maybe farm for people with similar interests? A friend is a friend, after all.
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I think I'll look into that thanks for the advice
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When you have kids your life becomes about kids and it's the only thing you talk about because it's the only thing you do.
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You're probably old enough these will be problems in any social group you try to enter, but try outside of addicts. Not-addicts should be your goal. Or at least people who aren't culturally addicts.
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Okay sorry in advance for the normie answer, but what about a hiking group? I agree with
@Starfricked that you need to befriend non addicts to help keep you on the wagon. There are lots of female hiking groups you can join (literally just Google "my city" + hiking for women). It's likely that the people there are friendly. Possibly less likely they have kids, given the free time you need for regular hiking. At the very least, they will have less kids-related drama.
The physical activity is good for helping take your mind off substances and reconnecting with your body. I had a friend who got super into gardening while getting sober.
If you MUST have other addict friends, find some gay people. Their addiction rates are terrible and often they do not have children.
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thank you I'll look into that
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Get non addict
friends?
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Stop being an addict
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I'm trying but isolating isn't good for me. I need to make friends and have a reason to go outside. I have nobody that gives a frick about me. Not to mention addicts are scammers too and usually only use you transactionally. I'm really trying but I guess maybe I should try harder idk or reach out to non addicts too
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Pick up a sport or a hobby. Start a pillow business or sth like that. You're not going to drop that shit without something else to do.
You seem like an Appalachiancel, so you could just start hiking the Appalachian trail. You'll have something to do and no access to drugs.
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So have kids? Idk
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I don't even like cats cuz I think they are too needy. Idk why cat people keep saying they're not as annoying as a dog cuz they are.. more of a lizard person. Cold blooded I guess
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did you try to not be an addict and make normal friends
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just being real, do you really want more addict friends? habits are good fun and all but im not sure that surrounding yourself with people having 8 kids is productive for anyone. theres a million and one ways to meet nice friends outside of that plus you got a badge of honor they dont and a lotttt of funny stories. who knows maybe meeting some casual users idk ur doc instead of rehab residents who are going back as we both know could help u solve the loneliness. also ur absolutely gonna get a gorrillion stds fricking with addict guys or dealers but u already know that.
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You can start by getting off the Froot Loops, Toucan Sam. Drugs are no way to make friends.
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