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How do I accept being stupid? : TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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How do I accept being stupid?

I'm trying to accept the reality that I'm a stupid person who isn't going to be able to make something of herself. From childhood to now people have told me how stupid I am, how I can't do anything right, how I'm a slow learner, etc. I believed it then and I have to believe it now. I can't learn things normally. My husband isn't happy with me because of this and lets me know all the time that I can't stop messing up. I can't cook without shit burning and him being unhappy with it. I don't know he puts up with me. I hate learning new skills because I can't learn them and I frustrate myself and whoever has to teach me. I hate it because it's true. I'm incompetent at my job despite it being an easy one. Sometimes I think I have brain damage or something. I'm worried my child will develop a negative image of herself because of how I view myself and failure but I can't help it. I try hard to overcome it but I can't learn faster or get better at stuff.

All the comments are just telling her that not only she isn't stupid, but that stupidty doesn't exist and she has ADHD. I would make this an effort post and link specific comments but it would be unreadable because they're all multiple paragraphs long

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This honestly just sounds like lifelong low self esteem. Wouldn't suprise me if her family treated her the same as her husband throughout her childhood. That can really frick you up in your formative years. She could still be stupid though but you have to be proud in your stupidity or you go nowhere. :marseywomanmomentpat:

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If burned food I might think

"Oh shit I burned it. HOW??? Ah... that's how. [takes mental note about the heat level, the pan, the time, and the properties of what I'm cooking]. Ugh. This burner heats up way faster than the other one and I thought the knob was turned to low! :( I am way too tired for this shit. Frick. REEEEE. Guess we're eating the cold sandwiches and salad tonight? >:( Ok maybe I can use some of this that is less burnt as like... a side to the sandwiches? :marseythonk:"

but if you think you're dumb you might think

"Oh shit I burned it. I must be dumb. IM SO DUMB AHHH. Why do things work for other people but not me? It's because I'm a fricking r-slur isn't it. [learns absolutely nothing from the situation, and actually fears learning for some reason] :marseyscared: .

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