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How do I accept being stupid?

I'm trying to accept the reality that I'm a stupid person who isn't going to be able to make something of herself. From childhood to now people have told me how stupid I am, how I can't do anything right, how I'm a slow learner, etc. I believed it then and I have to believe it now. I can't learn things normally. My husband isn't happy with me because of this and lets me know all the time that I can't stop messing up. I can't cook without shit burning and him being unhappy with it. I don't know he puts up with me. I hate learning new skills because I can't learn them and I frustrate myself and whoever has to teach me. I hate it because it's true. I'm incompetent at my job despite it being an easy one. Sometimes I think I have brain damage or something. I'm worried my child will develop a negative image of herself because of how I view myself and failure but I can't help it. I try hard to overcome it but I can't learn faster or get better at stuff.

All the comments are just telling her that not only she isn't stupid, but that stupidty doesn't exist and she has ADHD. I would make this an effort post and link specific comments but it would be unreadable because they're all multiple paragraphs long

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Dear... it sounds like you have a learning disability

yeah it's called being a woman

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Worse than being called stupid. I’d rather be called an genuine idiot than have someone think my behaviour represents a made up mental disorder

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a made up mental disorder

Women are real, dude.

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then how come my grandma don't burn shit when she cooks and learned how to caption memes very fast :marseyannoyed:

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post g-ma memes pls

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They're called image macros, slur

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🤓

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:#marseybaitretard:

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It does resemble basic foid compliment fishing :marseyhmm:

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Resemble?

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If you accept that you're stupid then you're probably not that stupid TBH.

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u kno the absolute worst think bout been my level

of stupid bb? i got enough intelligence to realize how profoundly dumb i am n there nothing i can do bout it besides just realize it ever single day :marseyrain: it ain't adhd tho

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Me too :marseysad::marseyill:

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lol I don't have that problem. In fact, I can't take ten steps without someone mentioning how clever I am. I'm multilingual, listen to 20th century classical music in my spare time, and have read three books so far this year. I'm also six foot one and have a sick jawline

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read three books so far this year.

>reading only three books in 13 days

lol fricking keep yourself safe u illiterate moron

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What's your favorite witty anecdote to tell at cocktail parties?

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Did you know that Coca Cola used to have cocaine in it? I love sharing that fact and people are always like "wow I've never heard that before"

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In the time before time (pre-dino) there were these 'things' that would eventually evolve into trees. These proto-trees would grow to massive heights and then topple into huge piles of proto-lumber because at the time, nothing could break down the lignin in their cell walls. Being plants, they also produced a shitload of oxygen, so massive firestorms were common, but not enough to destroy these mile-high woodpiles.

Eventually a fungus (progenitor of almost all modern fungi) mutated and produced an enzyme that could break down the lignin in these "trees" giving it a food source and creating byproducts that could feed various other species of plant. The massive piles of lumber were broken down over millions of years, clearing space and giving rise to a diverse host of new flora.

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Book 4 is a banger

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I'm dangerously clever, but about some specific aspects of life I can be incredibly r-slurred. For example, you'll never believe how long it took to figure out that my ex-wife was cheating on me, I'm still beating myself up over that one. Should have figured it out a lot sooner. My point is we all have shit we're dumb about.

The good news for you is that career advancement in our modern society isn't based on intelligence, it's based largely on networking. I'm trying to change that but until I get results you might as well exploit the broken system.

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Just to let you know, I just read your post on themotte.org and I upmarseyd you, king

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Awww

:#marseymarseylove::#marseyblush:

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Is that place still :marseylongpost#::marseylongpost#::marseylongpost#: ?

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The Socratic genius

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idgi :marseyitsaover:

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The Great Oracle said Socrates was the wisest man alive.

Socrates said this was strange because he knew very little.

The Oracle told Socrates that recognition of this fact is exactly what made him the wisest man.

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ancient butt cope imo bb but ty

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at least you're funny :#marseythumbsup:

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:@pennypat#:

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zoz

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zle

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zozzle

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You can tell the OP is a neofoid because XX chromosomes simply cannot coexist with self reflection like that.

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>Tradwife-Tardwife

:marseyderp:

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The eternal struggle of the dyslexic man :marseyitsaover:

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That's how you know it's fake.

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The special education kids that I shared a class with in High School knew they were r-slurred.

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I do not understand burning food and I really thought it was just a joke old heads made about their early married life.

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I guess she's just incredibly easy to distract...why she can't use a timer tho I'll never understand

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Use of a timer necessitates advance planning about when a task is expected to be complete and having an indepent objective conception about what constitutes a successful outcome to that task. IDK, that sounds like a lot of unequally shared emotional labor?

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This gotta be some sort of learned response, she's being r-slurred on purpose. I have a brother who is actually mentally disabled, like the dude is a certified sub 70 iq, nice guy but you notice that he doesn't think like a normal adult when you talk to thim.

He still manages to cook without burning shit and go through life performing every day tasks perfectly fine though. This is just foid nonsense.

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Some women like acting like helpless children who need to be taken care of and ham it up

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There's two kinds of r-slurred people. The ones that make a gimmick out of it and become "that r-slurred guy" on social media, and those who are normal. The latter do everything in their power to not become special in any way, thus they function normally mostly. :marseyshrug:

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If you're genetically stupid or brain damaged or whatever there shouldn't be any reason to feel bad about it. Just take the L and do what you can do to have a good life with what you have. Comparing yourself to others is miserable. For every normie out there there's some dude with a 160 IQ that looks at you like you have a chinchilla brain, and to him you basically do.

I prefer the type of stupidity that comes with someone deluding themselves or being so misinformed on a subject that they look like an butthole. That's delicious drama.

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Women can be stupid so long as they’re hot. What’s the problem?

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:marseywall: is the problem

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If they marry young they dont need to be bright. I know someone whose wife doesnt know what a quarter or an eighth is

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Pic for context?

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Probably not my :marseynotesglow: friend

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I'm goint to convert this into a smuggie

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it's easy to confuse being stupid with depression or low self esteem tbh

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Half the comments in that thread are just

you're not stupid you just mentally disabled. You should go see a doctor so you can be officially diagnosed as an r-slur

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This honestly just sounds like lifelong low self esteem. Wouldn't suprise me if her family treated her the same as her husband throughout her childhood. That can really frick you up in your formative years. She could still be stupid though but you have to be proud in your stupidity or you go nowhere. :marseywomanmomentpat:

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If burned food I might think

"Oh shit I burned it. HOW??? Ah... that's how. [takes mental note about the heat level, the pan, the time, and the properties of what I'm cooking]. Ugh. This burner heats up way faster than the other one and I thought the knob was turned to low! :( I am way too tired for this shit. Frick. REEEEE. Guess we're eating the cold sandwiches and salad tonight? >:( Ok maybe I can use some of this that is less burnt as like... a side to the sandwiches? :marseythonk:"

but if you think you're dumb you might think

"Oh shit I burned it. I must be dumb. IM SO DUMB AHHH. Why do things work for other people but not me? It's because I'm a fricking r-slur isn't it. [learns absolutely nothing from the situation, and actually fears learning for some reason] :marseyscared: .

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You don't break down my similes you fricker. I'm better than you in every way imaginable anyway. The tone you use in your comments is pathetic. It must be quite a touching moment of respite when you reach 100 percent method acting and if just for a moment, truly feel like you've accomplished anything of importance in your life. Before reality hits you like a wave of emotions and you realize you'll never amount to anything more than defending nazis on the internet. I feel sorry for you. By the way OP said he wanted to eat my shit so...

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I'm trying to accept the reality that I'm a stupid person who isn't going to be able to make something of herself. From childhood to now people have told me how stupid I am, how I can't do anything right, how I'm a slow learner, etc. I believed it then and I have to believe it now. I can't learn things normally. My husband isn't happy with me because of this and lets me know all the time that I can't stop messing up. I can't cook without shit burning and him being unhappy with it. I don't know he puts up with me. I hate learning new skills because I can't learn them and I frustrate myself and whoever has to teach me. I hate it because it's true. I'm incompetent at my job despite it being an easy one. Sometimes I think I have brain damage or something. I'm worried my child will develop a negative image of herself because of how I view myself and failure but I can't help it. I try hard to overcome it but I can't learn faster or get better at stuff.:

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poor woman

"from childhood to now people have told me how stupid I am, how I can't do anything right, how I'm a slow learner, etc. I believed it then and I have to believe it now"

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