He's been faithful, reliable, empathetic, supportive, caring. He's also objectively attractive on the surface (e.g. 6ft, 6 figures, 6 pack). Awesome dad. Does more than his share at home. He's like the total embodiment of a positive masculine man but I don't desire him physically and I don't really want to be anymore vulnerable or emotionally close to him than I've been.
Recently he had a dry spell of s*x. I know he wants to be physically intimate around two times a week but I got him to accept it once a month. But I wasn't even doing that for a few months because I just got busy with life and he stopped me to ask what's up. I tend to avoid these talks and eventually he asked me if I loved him.
I just told him what I felt was true - I actually never loved you and we're just playing the roles our religion and community expected of us. I know I broke his heart - he cried - and I told him I needed space and have been living in another part of the house.
He seems fine now. He's in even better shape now and has reconnected with friends. He's radiating great energy and I offered to co-parent with him as long as we don't have s*x but he needs to be exclusive with me.
I just want him to respect my decision. I know what I feel. I don't love him and no counseling is going to change that. I also need him to understand s*x is just something other people do but it's not something we need in our otherwise good marriage.
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So I happen to be from the same Indian state (kerala) as this dude, and it doesn't surprise me he's racist to the rest of the indians, we're actually a pretty advanced society compared to the rest of India, with highest HDI (0.779), highest literacy rates (99%), highest post graduation per capita etc, and despite being 2% of the Indian population we contribute to 20% of remittances. We are also a proud communist state, also the only state to never have given a single constituency to the ruling hindu nationalistic party in our history, so you see we are a very educated society, pretty similar to Sri Lanka due to position and influence of the dutch and Portuguese from 15th c. Point is we have a justified superiority complex to the rest of the indians and we are not sexy Indian dudes
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