He's been faithful, reliable, empathetic, supportive, caring. He's also objectively attractive on the surface (e.g. 6ft, 6 figures, 6 pack). Awesome dad. Does more than his share at home. He's like the total embodiment of a positive masculine man but I don't desire him physically and I don't really want to be anymore vulnerable or emotionally close to him than I've been.
Recently he had a dry spell of s*x. I know he wants to be physically intimate around two times a week but I got him to accept it once a month. But I wasn't even doing that for a few months because I just got busy with life and he stopped me to ask what's up. I tend to avoid these talks and eventually he asked me if I loved him.
I just told him what I felt was true - I actually never loved you and we're just playing the roles our religion and community expected of us. I know I broke his heart - he cried - and I told him I needed space and have been living in another part of the house.
He seems fine now. He's in even better shape now and has reconnected with friends. He's radiating great energy and I offered to co-parent with him as long as we don't have s*x but he needs to be exclusive with me.
I just want him to respect my decision. I know what I feel. I don't love him and no counseling is going to change that. I also need him to understand s*x is just something other people do but it's not something we need in our otherwise good marriage.
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[–]throwrasuits
[S] -20 puntos hace 4 horas
If we didn't have kids I probably would tell him it's over and we should split. But we have kids and they deserve to be raised in a happy home.
I'm happy with our situation. My husband needs to find a way to be happy with celibacy. I mean he was a virgin when we got married and was able to do it for the first 26yrs of his life. I have him 13yrs of s*x. He could manage another 13 without it.
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