I think my boyfriend may be planning to baby trap me : TwoXChromosomes

Original text because OP is a straggot:

I love my boyfriend and I have always thought he’s been so good to me, but lately some things I haven’t been able to get out of my mind and I would love a third party perspective to know if I’m making a big deal out of nothing.

I am on the fence about kids. We’ve discussed several times, and he’s been very supportive of either option and is very verbally pro choice. However, there’s just so many things that don’t align with what he says in those conversations.

In one of our first conversations about how fast we wanted to take things, he said something like “I want to marry you and put a baby in you but I know you need to take it slow right now.” He said it kind of jokingly.

We had planned to move in together this year after doing a year long distance. He wanted to move in together after just a few months but that was too fast for me. He’s interviewing for a new job in several different states, some of them being states where abortion is available and some where it is not. He’s really pushing the idea that he thinks the best one is in a state where abortion is now illegal. To be fair, his reasons for that job checking all his boxes are what he has talked about wanting since I met him.

He’s always making jokes about me being pregnant. I asked him why and he said he thought it was funny.

We did have an ectopic pregnancy due to a failed condom and he picked up on it right away. Asking me if I was pregnant before it had even occurred to me that I might be.

He has been slowly introducing the idea of us going without a condom whenever we talk about s*x. He knows I’m not on birth control.

He has also been slowly bringing up the subject of marriage. I’m not totally opposed to it, but we have discussed that I would perfectly happy without it.

One day I was reminiscing about our relationship and said something like “how wild is it that one year ago today we were meeting for the first time and now here we are planning to live together.” And he said word for word “oh this has all gone according to plan since I met you.” It just seemed weird to me that he had/has plans, but maybe I’m the weird one for that.

He’s a very high earner and always makes comments about taking care of me, providing for me, etc. But I care and provide for myself really well and don’t want to be financially dependent on someone.

I’m just so confused because he acts so politically liberal and pro choice but I just get the feeling lately that he’s pushing us into a very traditional domestic lifestyle. But I also don’t really trust my judgement and wonder if I’m jumping to conclusions.

I’m also completely in love with him and the s*x is sooo fricking good. So idk if that’s also affecting my ability to think clearly about this.