Boyfriend only wants s*x for his birthday and I don't feel like it
My boyfriend and I have a date planned Friday for his birthday at a very nice fancy restaurant. I bought makeup and nails and a new dress. We never get to go on dates.
He gets angry when he expects something and it doesn't go his way, so I mentioned to him that I might not feel like having s*x Friday night. Just so he can manage his expectations. I'm a single mom to a young child and I also work with kids so I am touched out, burnt out, and emotionally drained. Having s*x is the last thing I want to think about.
He of course became frustrated and said s*x was the only thing he wanted for his birthday. He said he was just doing the date for me, he didn't care whether we went on a date or not (even though he's been begging me to go on a date for months). He just wants s*x.
We went into this whole argument about it. I don't understand why he can't just go out and make some memories with me and not expect s*x afterwards. We never get to go out alone. Like ever. We can have s*x anytime. I pointed out how shallow he's being and he got so pissed he got off the phone with me.
Like we can't just go out and have a good time together without having s*x? When we can have s*x literally any other time?
Should I have s*x with him since it's his birthday even if I don't want to? It just feels icky to me.
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I don't think she's being completely honest. Special requests like this indicate they are definitely not having s*x literally any other time. Someone with an average level of s*x drive would want to have s*x at least every few days. The boyfriend wouldn't need to request s*x on his birthday if they were having frequent s*x in the first place because that would make his birthday just another day of having s*x regularly. It's possible that they are having a mismatched level of s*x drive.
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Before my next marriage, I'm absolutely going to bring up the concept of "free use" - ie, either person can demand s*x at any time from their partner and the partner has to do it, regardless of whether they're in the mood or not. It's just so sad to see dead bedroom situations like this where a dude has to "earn" s*x from his own wife, and I'm sure it creates a ton of resentment over time.
The boyfriend here is wrong for trying to pressure his girlfriend into s*x, but he's also wrong for staying with her in the first place.
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That could work if you want to have s*x with a starfish but not of all us are into that.
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But you admit that some of you are, right?
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lol ok homo
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Neighbor...
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ye if the guy's at the point of leveraging his own birthday for s*x (rip) it's time to make a choice
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They don't have a mismatched s*x drive lmao, she finds him repulsive and is indignant that she has to rely on him for anything. Making your partner happy on special occasions should literally make you happy. Not an obligation, not a transaction. If the idea of occasionally doing something you're not 100% into for the sake of your partner is something you view as a chore and not an opportunity, whichever s*x you are, then you're a dogshit partner and don't belong in the relationship.
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