Reddit foids are trying to figure out why men don't like sluts

Most times, it seems to be because of insecurities. Fearing a past partner out performed them or had a bigger peepee. Fear a woman still yearns for the past partner and only settled to be with them. Also, fear of STIs

Edit: Reading through the comments, I wanted to add that views on shared intimacy are also a reason

I strongly disagree with this, but it's possible for some men I'm sure. It's like an intellectually lazy answer when we don't want to acknowledge most men are just turned off by it.

I'll use myself as an example. I'm statistically in the top 0.5% for peepee size, probably higher. Absolutely not concerned a woman would randomly come across bigger. But even if she explicitly looked for a further outlier, I know that's not the be-all end-all of a great experience. I'm in phenomenal shape, very attractive, and I've put in the work to be a selfless partner who doesn't wield my peepee like it's all I need to bring to the table. Point being, I'm not insecure she'd come across a better overall option...even if there always are people who are better than you in some specific way. I know what I offer. I still care about body count and wouldn't commit to a woman with a high one. That's not going to change moving forward either.

snappy material

This whole "body count" thing baffles me. I'm 46. I've slept with quite a few men. Not one of them has ever asked me how many partners I've had or seemed to care at all.

But online I see this shit all the time. So I've made the assumption that it matters predominantly to four types of men:

1. Those who have little or no dating/sexual experience and are nervous of a sexual partner being far more experienced than them.

2. Those who have low self confidence and don't want to have to "compete" with previous partners.

3. Incels and Andrew Tate type followers.

4. Ultra religious men.

I honestly believe it's exclusively the first two but men obfuscate it with the last two.

As a guy, that's my take as well. It almost always comes down to insecurity or jealousy. The justifications will vary (because it has to be someone else's flaw), but those two are almost always at the core.

>because it has to be someone else's flaw

How about men who view s*x differently and are against casual s*x? Finding someone with different values. I e rejected a few women because of this and I just didn't tell them. It's more common than you think but most guys aren't going to say it to your face obviously.

It's even more bizarre how women shame men for having preferences.

Then don't have casual s*x?

How does this make it impossible to date women who have had casual s*x?

That's just my personal preference and I have different values. Instead of trying to change my mind why not find a guy who doesn't care at all? If it's not a big deal why waste energy trying to convince me my preference isn't bad?

Misogyny

They pretend it's about the woman, but actually it's about them. If a woman has slept with many men, that means they're not special, and even if they don't want to admit it, men want to feel special too.

Women in that scenario blame themselves, where men blame women for their own insecurities.

>Women in that scenario blame themselves, where men blame women for their own insecurities

did you read the other comments?

If I consider how I'd feel about a male partner with a high body count, I'd be concerned about whether or not they're mature, steady, and likely to be faithful. It's not about slut shaming. It's that I'd worry that they're just self-indulgent and hedonistic. It's a perfectly valid lifestyle, but not really one I want to tie myself to.

I don't see why a man couldn't/wouldn't/shouldn't have the same concerns about a woman with a high body count.

It's not just men that have opinions on their partners body count. I'm a woman and I care. Well for many reasons. The prospect of STDs come into play with increased partners. But, I also believe the physical intimacy of s*x is not separate from the emotional and psychological connection of s*x. I did not desire a partner who has shared that experience and therefore connection to many other women. My husband and I discussed our sexual history very early on in our relationship.

But STD you can get tested for, it is not like it will be a surprise for you and you can tell if someone has STD by their body count, and you can also wear protection when you date someone.

I mean I'm not going to argue with you about my desire to avoid catching an std, that doesn't seem very productive or really relevant. And having body count as a standard for marriage has zero impact on anyone other then the two consenting adults who enter into that relationship. So I don't understand why everyone gets angry when someone has body count as their standard.

internalised misogyny