Why is it acceptable to make fun of girls with no father figure? : TwoHotTakes

I swear I see it so often, both online and while engaging in casual conversation, that I no longer believe people realize it's an incredibly rude thing to say. If a girl says something about feminism or body autonomy rights the automatic answer is some sort of "joke" about daddy issues or "you say that because your father left you". And of course the classic "you hate men because your dad didn't love you".

It's so gross, rude and misogynistic to even try passing it off as a joke. I have taken a like to nip that shit in the bud when I hear it, replying that I, in fact, had no father growing up causing me to end up in therapy with issues with self harm and anxiety and their jokes were retraumatizing and making me consider trying again. They immediately turn paper white and start babbling apologies. The last part it's not true, I couldn't care less about my POS sperm donor and my life is happier without him.

Some people (both men and women, not only men, some women have some deranged misogynistic opinions) really need to get a grip with rude comments and how someone really struggling might perceive them.

ETA: Wow someone really reported me to Reddit Care Resources lol. I'm sorry so many of you are triggered.

This chick sounds fun, not surprised she has daddy issues.

Don't make fun of ANYONE for ANYTHING they can't control. Hoping to find some manlet seethe? I was too, but didn't see any. Found this though:

No it is not. As a matter of fact, it's not acceptable to make fun of anyone for something they don't control or can't change in their lives. As a man, I always thought it was pathetic to make fun of anyone for their parental circumstances. Men who abandon their children are also fricking pieces of garbage.

As are the women who choose to procreate with these losers.

Blaming women for men's faults. Classic, regurgitated misogynistic drivel.

Blaming men for womens choices seems equally ridiculous.

Excusing men for abandoning their children seems cruel, misogynistic and just plain idiotic.

No one is excusing men. By definition, saying a woman should not procreate with a loser is blaming the man. But the woman has much responsibility too. She is in control of reproduction.

Incredibly naive thing to say, especially in the current political climate

What's naïve about it?

Many partners seem perfectly good and responsible up until the woman gets pregnant, then they switch up and become absent or abusive. Women can't tell the future, there's no way to be 100% certain that your partner won't leave you high and dry. Additionally, women can get pregnant against their will, and millions of women live in places where they don't have access to reproductive care.

That is a myth. The signs are always there. I've seen countless stories on here of women with men who are abusive, controlling, irresponsible, and broke. And then they're like “should I leave him?” You just don't want to admit that there are thousands of irresponsible and low self-esteem women out there. And men become fathers against their will too.

I know you try to spin this as some kind of misogynistic, or incel type of deal; but that's not true. The simple fact is this: I readily acknowledge that a lot of men are buttholes. But you refuse to acknowledge that a lot of women are buttholes too. THAT'S what this is.

It's a myth huh? So you're saying millions of women are just too stupid to see the signs? Gtfo

How about how women make fun of men with mommy issues?:

And it literally just makes men look THAT MUCH WORSE

Yeah, let's put women down for the actions of MEN

That makes total sense 🙄

How often do women call out guys for having mommy issues though?

All the time….

Both of these are totally normalized.

Eh, mommy issues are almost always specifically regarding issues with the way the son behaves WITH his mother. Daddy issues rarely have anything to do with the daughter's behavior with her dad.

People aren't calling out Andrew Tate supporters for having mommy issues.

I don't agree. Trust issues, emotional availability, fear of abandonment, expecting women to clean up after them all get called out as mommy issues.

I've not heard them used in that context, the closest is "he wants me to be his mommy" for the cleaning thing (which is, again, not the same thing).

The vast majority of the time it's guys catering to their mother over their actual relationship.

“He wants a mommy, not a girlfriend”

To me, is the same as

“She sleeps around for guys attention. Major daddy issues”.

But who knows, must just be different experiences.

No, because one is calling out that he actually wants his girlfriend to treat him like a child and meet the needs he should be handling as an adult.

There's no context where a woman should be having s*x with her father.

Men's emotional issues aren't valid, unironically.

Hood neighbor comes thru:

Same way they degrade and insult single mothers but single fathers are brown nosed and hailed as saints

Maybe you shouldn't let lil Tay Tay cuminside you because he's exciting and pushes grams

Say it with me.

Womenarenotresponsiblefortheshittyactionsofmen.

I know a lot of men have a hard time hearing this; but you are responsible for your actions. No one else.

I grew up in the hood and saw many women glorify shitty violent men. So if you reproduce with shitty men then you get what you deserve

Actually, the above guy is all over the comment thread:

From your post history you're suicidal in Florida trying to buy guns. And bald on top of all that. Lil buddy you have bigger problems than worrying about who's cumming in whom.

Actually my hair made a huge come back si not even. You can go through every comment I wrote and still won't hurt me. Why are you so upset about my opinions?

Babes if I got upset every time I see a worthless man on the internet posting his bullshit I wouldn't be able to get anything done. You are not as important or interesting as you think you are.

Look here sweet cheeks you're still replying to me so clearly you are offended. Pls don't crook:(( Be a big girl ...and smile sweet heart. You'll look so much better :))

Aw, probably a troll.

I for one am getting sick of MEN shirking all responsibilities while WOMEN are held accountable for every last thing they do. Thoughts?