Weaboo incels pile on queen that's going through a dry spell

I am Australian and have lived in Japan for a long time. I recently got divorced from my Japanese husband (he cheated). Now I am on the apps and am having absolutely no luck. I very rarely see guys who interest me, and when I do, they don't swipe right on me.

I think I am pretty cute, but I started to wonder if it was me and if I am just not as attractive now that I'm older (34). As an experiment, I set my location on one of the apps to Seattle. I thought there would be more of the type of guy I am looking for (handsome, educated, artsy, liberal hipster with a good job). I immediately got so many matches with guys I would be really interested in.

I don't particularly love or hate Japan, but I am comfortable living here and have a good job here. I also have a dog and it would be hard to move with her. Should I uproot my life and move elsewhere just for the sake of finding love? Is it common for foreign women to struggle with dating in Japan? Maybe the type of guy I am looking for is too rare here and/or they are only into Japanese women?

I think after your 30's you kinda have to lower your expectations. I mean educated, good job, handsome ; That right there eliminates like 80% of people worldwide 😂

Everyone over 30 who checks all of those boxes is either married, gay, a total butthole/slut, or some combination of the three.

Especially in East and Southeast Asia, where there is an endless supply of young attractive women who want to get married in their 20s.

And if you are further limiting your search to non-Asian Western people, your potential pool of partners is infinitesimally small...

I don't see how slut is a disqualifier. It can be a very positive attribute in a loyal context 😩❤️ Everyone deserves a wholesome slut tbh . Treat yourself.

A loyal slut is an oxymoron.

Only if youre monogamous and lame.

oh boy....

poly and fat

at least she's trying to lose weight i guess

Apparently lack of relationships is the number 1 reason western women leave Japan, as it's common for western women to struggle with dating in Japan.

from what my Western woman friends have told me, it's largely because such traits as a strong personality, assertiveness, career-oriented mindset, refusal to be submissive or traditionally feminine, and expectation of equal contribution in the household are generally not very desirable female traits in the Japanese dating pool.

kinda fits with my own observations as well. Bunch of foreign dudes I know have Japanese partners, but hardly any foreign girls I know do, and basically all of them have horror stories about the shit they've put up with and been told by men when/if they tried dating in Japan. And the misogynistic shit I hear from Japanese guys when they're talking about girls is often pretty darn shocking.

obligatory: no, I'm not saying all Japanese men are like that, and no, I'm not saying non-Japanese men are never like that, before the white knights come in to protect the glorious reputation of Nippon

Nah, most Japanese men are garbage. I say this as a Japanese man myself.

There's a lot of garbage dudes everywhere, but Japan has some seriously embedded cultural sexism to reckon with.

she's not gonna frick you, dude

good looking, smart/disciplined, cultured, liberal and succesful. It's a high bar in Japan. I think a lot of guys in their 30s that check all of these boxes are already married. Are you willing to date younger?

>Are you willing to date younger?

lmao

why would a younger man who was that successful want to date a divorced woman significantly older than him though.

Like, dating is hard unless you're a young attractive woman or a wealthy attractive male. OP may still be attractive but she's out of that easy mode window now, so she's just going to have to temper expectations and figure out which quality she really can't give up on.

Op also described herself as "pretty cute". Most people of the same age here are(they're generally slim so that helps). I've been to seattle and a lot of mid-30s people have really let go so I'm sure there might be more demand for someone "pretty cute" there. Reality is harsh but people in japan can be pretty appearance focused.

any woman that describes herself as cute and not hot is mid at best.