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Redditor leaves baby outside in rain and takes 2 hour nap. Police are called. She decides it was racially motivated even though she is “white passing”.

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Someone called the police on me and said I left my baby out in the rain

I am feeling so many emotions right now: sadness, fear, anger, embarrassment… I am totally overwhelmed and I don't know what to do except to vent here on Reddit.

So my 7 mo baby is teething like crazy and struggling to nap. It's autumn where I live, and the past few days have been beautiful fall weather- between 13°C and 18°C, fresh air and just very pleasant. The past few days I've been taking her for a walk in her stroller to get her to fall asleep. At the end of the walk, I've been taking her stroller through my side gate, into my backyard and up on to my back porch to let her sleep. She usually only sleeps for about 30-40 mins. I leave the back door open, keep the screen closed and sit at my kitchen table while she naps. I'm no more than 7 feet from her stroller, I'm just inside while she's outside.

I want to reiterate, I'm practically next to her stroller. I can see her face. I can DEFINITELY hear her if she were to cry. She is just on one side of a screen door and I am on the other.

Today it was a little misty, but a very pleasant 17°C. It was technically raining, but barely. It wasn't raining enough to make any noise or even to have visible droplets on the stroller's rain cover. Again, she fell asleep on her walk and I took her into my backyard to sleep on the back porch. She had a horrible night last night- we both barely slept. I was so tired I actually went and got a folding reclining beach chair out from our basement and set it up in my kitchen next to the back door so I could have a nap. Me on one side of the screen, her on the other. We both ended up sleeping for about 2 hours.

When I woke up, she was happily playing with her toes, barely making a sound. She was so happy and refreshed. I took her inside, got her a bottle, and had a great afternoon with my baby.

WELL… a few minutes ago, two police officers show up at my door. Dog started barking, baby started screaming, just an absolute meltdown all at once. Once I manage to wrangle the circus, I let the 2 officers in (one woman, one man officer if that matters). The man officer doesn't say much, he just kind of stood behind and let the woman officer do the talking. She was very stern/acting like I've done something wrong from the first interaction.

She first asks why it took me so long to answer the door. I tell her I had to secure my dog first as I'm the only one home. She asks why I have to secure my dog and implies that he is dangerous. I tell her no, he is just excitable and is extra jumpy with strangers now that we have the baby. He is a large dog, and I want to give her my full attention instead of focusing on controlling my dog and reinforcing training.

She starts questioning whether I'm overwhelmed with the baby in a very accusatory way. Starts implying that I can't handle a baby while my husband is at work. Starts implying it's hard for me when there's no one else here. I am point blank with her in saying obviously it is hard, but she's my daughter and I love her and I've been doing a great job on my own the past 7 months.

She then gets to the main reason: “We've had a report that someone in this house left a baby outside in the rain for most of the day today. We were asked to investigate.”

I then show the officers the set up. Lead them to the back door. Show them where I set up the stroller and where I sit. Show them her stroller with the cover and the hat/sweater she was wearing etc.

The officer responds word-for-word: “Ok, so I don't think this baby is in any danger right now, so we're not going to do anything about it THIS time. BUT, I want you to know that leaving your baby OUTSIDE to nap is EXTREMELY inappropriate, and I don't want to get another call out here with this again. Ok?”

I nodded, let them out of my house and then just bawled.

I thought I had a very good relationship with my neighbours. We've always been friendly. I walk their dog out for them when they get called in unexpectedly (my neighbours are doctors), my husband will cut their grass sometimes. Another neighbour used to live next to my grandmother growing up… like, I don't understand? Who would do this?

What do I do going forward? Is there anything I can do about this?

Edit to add and clarify:

I mentioned I was 7 ft from her stroller. I'm 7 ft from her stroller if I'm sitting at the kitchen table. On the chair I set up, I could reach out and touch her stroller if the screen wasn't in the way. If it rained harder I would have gotten wet.

Whoever called the police did so HOURS after I had already taken the baby inside. I took her inside around 2 PM, it's not 8:44 PM and the police were here 2-3 hours ago. It was dark out when police came to my house.

People who are asking about intruders: I have a 7ft tall fence with a locked gait. I have a hedge of cedars along the fence which go several feet above the fence. I live in a very safe neighbourhood. You cannot see my yard from the street. I also have a very large dog who is very protective of the baby who was laying by my feet. There are no animals in my area that could hurt a baby.

EDIT 2 to add and clarify:

The more I think about this I also think it's worth noting I have a suspicion this was racially motivated. My neighbour who grew up next to my grandparents is white. My grandparents are black and Chinese. My grandmother is black, my grandfather is Chinese (both from Jamaica originally). My mother appears black. I look white like my dad.

There are no people of colour on my street/block. This is a very majority white neighbourhood.

This neighbour is one of the few people in my neighbourhood who knows that I'm mixed race. Looking back on our interactions, they would joke about my grandparents being kind of weird (they have some cultural differences), but my grandparents were always really nice to them and helped them out a lot, so I assumed we were on good terms. Now I'm looking back and realizing their “jokes” aren't so innocent.

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>There are no people of colour on my street/block. This is a very majority white neighbourhood.

And after meeting her all her neighbours are a little more racist than before :marseylaugh:

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she let 12 come in her house lol definitely not black

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Honest I'd call the cops if my i saw my neighbor's baby abandoned on their back porch too. It's not a dog you can't just chain it up in the backyard after its walk.

idc what they do in SWEEDEN (in sweeeeden they throw their babies to the dogs so only the strongest survive, winner gets free bags of government funded weeeeed for life because we're so evolved and european wooo look at us)

but we aren't in sweden now are we.:marseysmug3:

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APPARENTLY THIS IS NORMAL :marseyregular: IN SWEDEN :marseymidsommardani: BUT LIKE IT STILL SEEMS DANGEROUS? WHAT IF SOMEONE KIDNAPPED THE BABY WHILE SHE WAS ASLEEP?

Israeli lives :marseykneel: matter :marseylivesmatter:

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It's one of those weird things.

It both makes sense for a baby to be safe enough even with one window open but also that's how you get the hobo stole my baby story.

I place it in the gray zone unless you live in a bad area then definitely don't leave the window open.

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dingos hobos ate mah baby

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Fun fact: The dingos ate my baby story was later proven to be true when they found a coyote cave with some small baby remains.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dingo_ate_my_baby

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Just like McCarthyism.

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yes.

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https://i.rdrama.net/images/16984631666427922.webp

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Yea I'd see no issue with a !bumpkins doing this but we don't have to worry about randos on our land

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Just coyotes, foxes, bobcats..

It's r-slurred to leave your baby outside while you nap. It's completely irresponsible.

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Yeah, you're an irresponsible butt mother for not keeping your baby indoors even with a screen closed and the door open, where anyone can just reach in and grab them. This isn't fricking Africa where just outside your porch are roving gangs of child snatchers, it's suburban America.

She deserved worse than whatever the police told her.

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>not living in a country where there has been literally no child abductions for 80 years :marseylaugh:

non-scandinavians are never gonna make it

try feeling safe in the comfort of your home

!scandicks

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I think it's okay when she's awake but not while sleeping

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bro, we put our kids to sleep outside with a baby alarm, we dont need to sit next to it

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Why is sleeping outside important?

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why would you use a stroller in general?

Fresh air, etc. is great for everybody. Cold weather makes for nice naps.

In summer, we do not have AC so it might be a little bit hot inside

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not living in a country where there has been literally no child abductions for 80 years :marseylaugh:

Bullshit. No way that's even remotely true

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In full honesty, the quasi-totality of those kids had the misfortune of being born from one or two middle eastern parents, who are the abductor.

The few who dont are mostly children of mayos who converted and decided to partake in Jihad, taking their kids with them for the ride

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There's only 10 million of Swedes and not that many people want to steal babies off porches

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7,5 million swedes, and 2,5 million "swedes".

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Yeah, and then you decided to import millions of africans and arabs to change that :marseyclapping:

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nothing has changed in denmark when it comes to stroller culture

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BIPOC y'all are getting grenaded...

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whtat

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im not swedish

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Should still be grenaded tbh.

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https://i.rdrama.net/images/16984317012157764.webp

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Swedes aren't human

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It's totally normal to leave your baby alone for hours in the country where they didn't have to teach social distancing because everyone avoids social interaction anyway.

Never would have guessed.

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What if a large eagle picked it up, carried it away, and dismembered it slowly?

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/r/child free would rejoice

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OR A PITBULL

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Man she really refuses to accept any responsibility. You took a two hour nap while your kid was outside. You can't do that you stupid, stupid b-word. If you have to take a nap, put the baby in the crib. Also remember this is her side... and it sounds this bad, imagine the actual truth of what happened.

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Also why does the baby have to be outside?? Can't it just fricking stay behind the screen and get the same benefit? Or if you're gonna do that, then be outside with it??

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That's what I didn't get :marseyconfused2:

You can see and hear the baby. Bring your goddarn baby inside numbnuts :marseynuts:

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she really refuses to accept any responsibility

Yeah, it's a foid :marseyshrug:

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Also why she opened up with her hurt emotions before explaining how she neglected her baby

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For real had me seething in the first sentence, stop feeling for a second and think you dumb b-word

:marseygoodnight:

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at the very least she should have been outside with it. shes got no skin in the game

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"in europe we make our babies forage for food in the middle of winter" the thread

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In MAI COUNTRY (country is never specified, probably had a genocide in the last 30 years and no one has earlobes due to radiation)

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Earlobes are for chum.

Chads hear through skull vibrations

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No you can't use an amplifier to hear no that's cheating nooooooo

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Can you stop talking about america for a second?

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Most responses are pretty reasonable, for a reddit thread at least. Top comments are all telling her she seems insane to any rational human looking in

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In my country, we leave the baby alone in the forest so it can develop an immunity to bear attacks

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burgers are reatarede.

fresh air is good for you.

try living in a peaful country

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Dont tell them you take walks too or americels will be in shambles

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>God invented legs to press the speed pedal

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https://media.giphy.com/media/XTjnKcrZlOlaC6sY2d/giphy.webp

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I thought I had a very good relationship with my neighbours. We've always been friendly… like, I don't understand? Who would do this?

She's feels betrayed because her neighbors care enough to call in a wellness check :marseyfacepalm:

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The same kinds of neighbors are who would call the police over a measly magdump

Yt mayo ppl smh

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I also have a very large dog who is very protective of the baby who was laying by my feet.

How wholesome of her boyfriend to step up and love the baby like his own :marseywholesome:

Trans lives matter about 59% of the time.

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So my 7 mo baby is teething like crazy and struggling to nap. It's autumn where I live, and the past few days have been beautiful fall weather- between 13°C and 18°C, fresh air and just very pleasant. The past few days I've been taking her for a walk in her stroller to get her to fall asleep. At the end of the walk, I've been taking her stroller through my side gate, into my backyard and up on to my back porch to let her sleep. She usually only sleeps for about 30-40 mins. I leave the back door open, keep the screen closed and sit at my kitchen table while she naps. I'm no more than 7 feet from her stroller, I'm just inside while she's outside.

>:marseylo#ngpost:

:therefore: criminal neglect

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>Why couldn't you and your child be outside? Why did you need to be inside?

INCEL DETECTED. :#soyegirl:

That OF money ain't gonna make itself, and it takes time to get the right lighting/fat-girl-angle-shot/pose. PERFECTION TAKES TIME AND YOU ARE LITERALLY OPPRESSING ME BY CALLING A WELLNESS CHECK ON MY UNATTENDED CHILD. :marseyfoidretard:

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:#marseywomenrentfreetalking:

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:marseytheyhaterhermessag#e:

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Foid neglects her child and watchful neighbors (actual neighbors) pick up the slack. I wonder who she will have the most concern for and what conclusions she will draw from this.

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I slept outside all the time as a kid. Fricking kitty butt neighbors.

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Explains a lot

Israeli lives matter

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im feral

:marseywholesomeferal:

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At 7 months though? I get doing it at 4+ but why not just have the kid inside and 7 feet away rather than outside?

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Probably scared to wake her up.

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Yeah probably? Pretty normal throughout, idk, most of human history?

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My parents had me sleep outside, in dumpsters, on roller coasters, in construction sites, in the middle of the ocean, in industrial furnaces, or in the vacuum of space.

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Smh at all the replies here taking her at her word and not remembering their HOEgebra.

She admitted to a 2 hour nap. Taking into account foids responsibility avoidance and neet to make themselves look better, that means she got home with the future pibble snack in the morning, say 9-10, and then fricked sround on her phone and slept until about 5-6 pm. All the while the baby was outside in the rain, in autumn temperatures, probably below 15° rather than the 17° she claims.

And she claims she was just on the other side of the screen door. Running it through my foidlator that means she was somewhere in the next room, or maybe the room beyond that.

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!scandicks come laugh at americans scared of babies sleeping outside.

Burgets would have arrested all of us

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Scandinavians are too busy being scared of burgers deciding we're bored with their bike lanes and decide to glass their whole country.

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Even though we do this in Denmark, we keep an eye on the baby. We don't go take a 2 hour nap while leaving it in a place where strangers apparently can see it. I mean it's common sense, right?

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Even though we do this in Denmark, we keep an eye on the baby. We don't go take a 2 hour nap while leaving it in a place where strangers apparently can see it. I mean it's common sense, right?

she was right next to the baby. i see no difference between that and leaving a baby alarm

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My Grandma used to leave my dad outside in the pram when it was snowing to 'build up his immune system'

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That's why you're on this site, I presume?

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A little bit of rain is good for babies. You don't want them to grow up allergic to water, do you?

In Scandinavia we leave our infants outside in a snowdrift while we go in to fika. It toughens them up.

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I do the same thing pretty often minus the rain, sleeping and race baiting.

Given the sleep deprivation from a newborn I reluctantly give the BIPOC a pass here. Shit happens.

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You couldn't pay me to post a picture of my kid on this site even emojid out. That alone should make anyone question your judgement

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I cant believe you didn't do this. :marseyindignant:

https://i.rdrama.net/images/16984287886696696.webp

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Hey rightoid :marseydeath:

:!marseydeath: Guess what?

https://i.rdrama.net/images/16983414040544488.webp

Snapshots:

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I am feeling so many emotions right now: sadness, fear, anger, embarrassment… I am totally overwhelmed and I don't know what to do except to vent here on rdrama

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This whole thing seems so fricking pointless, like she's sleeping on the other side of a screen door while the baby is outside, I can't imagine caring either way; neighbors are hall-monitor feds and the mom sounds r-slurred

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/r/mommit and /r/breakingmom are the foids that create /r/raisedbynarcissists posters. This is how Redditors multiply.

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Im ngl im on the foids side in this one

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That's how @Dramacel was raised :#mysides:

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Jfc @Dramacel + @Penny wrote over 40k comments, how does this site even function without him?

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I want to reiterate, I'm practically next to her stroller. I can see her face. I can DEFINITELY hear her if she were to cry. She is just on one side of a screen door and I am on the other.

I mean I get it, my youngest gets knocked tf out when we go on stroller walk. But when he falls asleep I would never leave him out unless I'm outside too. If you're coming in, bring everybody in. If you're careful enough you can bring him in without waking up.

Yes it does look bad if a baby is visible left outdoors and there is nobody around. Especially for two fricking hours. I am pretty sure my wife would kill me and bury me if I pulled a stunt like this. That's plenty of window time for someone to come up, scoop up your baby and bye bye. By the time you wake up they're long gone.

People in Europe do this all the time. It's very common in many cultures to let baby nap outside in the buggy.

Not for two hours you weirdos. Even then I'd like to see the cultural and racial homogeny % of those countries...

I'm an anxious wreck so I would never be able to nap for 2 hours while my baby is outside,

That's not anxiety that's your gut instincts you absolute r-slurs.

If your baby is teething and struggling to sleep just give em baby Tylenol one in the morning and one at night. Give them shit to chew on. YEah its a pain in the butt but look on the the bright side, its not a 2.5 yo and a 10 mo teething at the same time.

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Literally the only thing she did wrong was being civil to the cops and not telling them to frick off from the get go.

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What the frick

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Reminds me of the opening of ‘Norbit' when the ugry brack baby is tossed to the Chinaman who laments that he can't give it away

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Foid on foid violence :#marseydarkxd:

:#catmunch:

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She did nothing wrong.

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Reddit's Park is melting in the dark

All the sweet, brown flesh flowing down

Someone left the baby out in the rain

I don't think that I can relate it

'Cause it took so long to incubate it

And I'll never have that husband again

Oh, no!

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45% unnecessary information, 50% preemptively justifying her actions and defending herself from potential criticism, 5% description of the events that unfolded

yep. must be a post on foid-reddit

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