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idubbz's girlfriend after not getting attention for 2.3 seconds :marseyattentionseeker:

https://old.reddit.com/r/sadcringe/comments/17jxywp/why_is_she_dancing_to_all_the_horrible_things?sort=controversial

When your “trauma” is a badge of honor that you feel the need to tell everyone about

When you're conventionally attractive and married to money, but still need sympathy-clout, so you pretend to “own” your trauma.

:#marseyhesright:

this really brought all the incels out of the woodwork

Being told “yes all men” tends to make guys upset, shocker

Yeah lol! That's literally incel mentality. Grouping one gender and thinking they all act the same is literally what incels do to women!

when have horseshoechads ever been wrong? :#marseyhorseshoe:

She is not even that good looking tho

:#marseygigachadtalking:

Of all the pieces of shit in this comment section, you may be the biggest of them all 🎖️

Why thank you 🙏

:#marseywinner:

Gonna ignore the dancing and just stick to the subject matter. I think what she said did make sense…

They're two distinct things to say that all men are abusers as opposed to saying you don't feel safe around men because you've been abused by them before. And I think she's talking about the latter. Not all men is really only a valid response to the former or any generalisation that hurts innocent men but I don't think what she's suggesting does. I can very easily understand why women would be intimidated around men, especially in isolated environments, I wish they didn't need to feel that way but it's outside of my control what other men do

Is it fine to say you don't feel safe around blacks because you've been mugged by 'them' before?

:#marseyxd: :#marseyracist:

People clinging on to your bad terminology but I'm actually interested in hearing the mental gymnastics on why this isn't a double standard.

Because black people, like any race are too diverse for an entire group to be painted with one negative stereotype, especially the ones that are most commonly applied to black people that are a:based on falsehoods 90% of the time, and b:not relevant to the vast majority of black people. Each black person like any person is massively different to another, in terms of gender, SES, age, life experience etc. On the other hand, while they are also a diverse group that cannot be painted as the same entirely, men in their relationships with women have been statistically shown to exhibit certain behaviors. They also can be grouped together generally as most men experience some commonalities in certain life experiences, much more than you would be able to group people by race. This is of course given the power dynamics (e.g men being in general stronger than women and more aggressive due to their hormones) in the world and the gender roles we're ascribed. Therefore, while I disagree with the idea that all men are the same, when all your experiences with them have been tinged with the repercussions of our gender roles and cultural concept of manhood, you can experience patterns of abusive behavior that can make it hard to trust any one man not to be abusive toward you.

:#marseylongpost:

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At a certain point your trauma either literally destroys you or you beat it down.

This seems like the latter.

This comes off to me as righteous anger. It can be very healing and liberating to finally openly acknowledge your trauma and that it was it was a cruel injustice you didn't deserve. Victim blaming is still common and as someone who has had repeated traumatization, there's a higher chance that she's had people be skeptical towards her for one reason or another (despite studies documenting that victims of abuse have increased chances of experiencing abuse again removed from the original occurrence).

It's rightfully infuriating to see men more concerned in defending themselves when no true accusation is made, rather than be more concerned about the prevalence of abusive men and the high likelihood that abusers can and are mundane associates out and about.

I quite enjoy this sentiment: no, not all men are abusers but to make any efforts amount to anything, all men need to speak out about the cultural epidemic of abusive men.

GOOD MORNING GOOD MORNING GOOD MORNING

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all men need to speak out about the cultural epidemic of abusive men.

I think women don't realize that social shaming doesn't work on men the same way it does on women.

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