How do I get people to stop telling me that I'm fat?

I get that I'm big. I just hate that my body is always a discussion.

One time my MIL was talking about herself saying she feels like she's fat. All the church ladies were complimenting her. Then suddenly she said, “Yeah, I saw my name, and I noticed that she got fat.” I just laugh and said yeah, I did. And then she repeated herself 2 more times.

The one time our Pastor's wife said to me, “You shouldn't get bigger than that because it looks like you're genetically the big type.” Ever since then, whenever we have events and they go for second, she'd invite me. If I say no then she'd say, “Come eat and be fat with us.” Or she'd then to the other church ladies and say “my name is really scare to get fat.”

Today, we hosted an event at our place. We were drinking wine. As I was standing, one of the church ladies came to me and said “Oh, are you pregnant?” And then she touch my stomach. And I said, “Oh, no. I'm just fat.” She said, “Really? Are you sure?” And I said, “Yeah, I'm drinking alcohol with you ladies.” And she look around and said, “I don't see your drink.” Moments later, she randomly said, “Hey, were you skinny when when you were younger?” And I said “yeah, when I was graduated from highschool I was about 112 pounds.” (Btw, I remember because I used to be super insecure of my weight.) And then she go quiet and didn't say anything.

I don't know why I always get comments about my body every time I see them. I had 4 kids back to back. My youngest is 1. I gained a lot weight when I was pregnant. I'm 150 pounds. I'm on birth control pills and it's so hard for me to lose weight for whatever reasons (I was able to maintain my weight with the IUD.)

It's so hard to try to ignore them. It's affecting me and I want them to stop.

This sounds like an incredibly toxic community of people, do you have to be around them?

I second this, these people are nasty and probably miserable which is why they keep making these comments to make you sad, or make themselves feel better about their sad little lives. Go out and find other people who will actually be your friends!

redditors when they realise real life isn't an echochamber

“How did you want me to feel when you said that?” To which I expect them to say “We are concerned for your health, that's all”, but continue to press them - “No, how did you want me to feel? What was your intention?” Keep trying to get them to say what it is they actually mean and what they intended to do. It doesn't work for everyone, but it can make a lot of people feel ashamed by their behaviour.

least fragile twoxer

"Concerned for your health" is code for "I want to bully you but I don't want to be called out on it".

As a fat person that wen from 120 to 96 kg I can assure everyone: We know we are fat. We know that being fat is unhealthy. We are not like this by choice.

Every severely obese person has generally something else going completely wrong in their lives that they compensate for with food. Replacing happiness with food. It does not work, but eventually you are unable to stop.

Actual help needs to address the causes, why someone is fat. Treating the symptoms does nothing.

>We are not like this by choice.

Step 1: stop going to church Step 2: there really isn't a step 2, sounds like avoiding these church people will fix the problem

putting the fork down will fix that and a whole bunch of other problems, too