Once again the twoXers seethe about being told to lose weight

Well this was not a convo I was expecting to have with my boyfriend. We have been dating for 2 years now. I'm not going to lie and say I'm skinny with a flat stomach because I'm not. I have a little belly fat, I have thicker thighs. But my weight has not increased since I started dating him. My boyfriend is on the skinnier side, and honestly this never bothered me and I never thought it was necessary bringing it up because I love him. My boyfriend has told me from the beginning that he loves thicker girls and he thought my body was perfect so I didn't really understand when all of a sudden, he brings this up, when I have weighed the exact same since we started dating.

He basically told me that I need to lose weight and his exact words were “not saying you are fat but you need to lose weight, you are getting out of shape, not sure if you have noticed.” I was just so shocked to hear this. First of all, we haven't been talking much lately because of his hectic work schedule and he told me today that he has a lighter load and this is what he decides to talk to me about?

I told him my weight hasn't changed since we met and he says “honestly, you have belly roles which you didn't have before.” I've always had belly roles, I had belly roles when we first started dating, he kept insisting that I didn't. He's trying to gaslight me about my own body now? What the actual frick.

He said he wants me to do it for my own sake and for me to take care of my health because if I don't now, I'm gonna be lazy and get fatter.

I asked if he's still attracted to me and he claims he is, and that it's not like he was calling me fat, but just letting me know I have more belly roles. Wow. I know what I have to do, I just can't believe this is coming from someone who I have dated for 2 years, someone that I love and cherish. I look exactly the same.. he then kept trying to say “if not for me then do it for you, it's your body”. I recently had lab work done, my cholesterol was phenomenal, I have no risk of diabetes, literally every lab result came back normal. My boyfriend on the other hand wants to talk about health so much, he has literally ended up in the ER every few months for things that were PREVENTABLE, if only he took care of his health. I find it so ironic

I do want to lose weight, I workout consistently, so that's not the issue, I just need to work on the diet. I have periods of motivation where I wanna lose weight, I workout every day and eat healthy and then I tend to lose that motivation, but he's just making it seem like I'm this super obese person who weighs >500 pounds, when I'm just a little overweight..

50 years ago, my serious boyfriend said, “You have the most unattractive (body comment) of any woman I know”. That was something to remember for the rest of my life. I could not imagine being beside that jerk for the rest of my life as well.

what a gigachad

Wow. Really some people don't know the impacts words can have.

In my experience if a guy starts “picking” at you about your weight, appearance ect and you havent actually changed it's usually because they are feeling guilty about something … they are finding reasons to justify something they did wrong

now this is some high quality cope