feeling down

I'm sure many of us, as generally compassionate leftist women from diverse upbringings, that we have gone through our own ups and downs of moral dilemma, not only questioning but internally battling yourself if you yourself are a bad person or not, attempting to be comfortable with our own more than rational outlooks.

I wouldn't say I'm feeling down and alone because I comfortable with my views, know theyre reasonable, and know there's lots of women like me even if I don't know anyone personally.

But I am feeling particularly down because of my gender critical views and my liberal mom. I don't think my mom thinks I'm a bad person, but whenever I speak on this she says "I don't have a problem with people being transgender." It just makes me want to cry.

Edit: Thanks everyone

how DARE her mom respectfully disagree with her? id cry too!

gonegoodgirl responds

Is it maybe that she just doesn't have a problem with men and the shit they do to women? I've had similar experiences discussing TIMs with women close to me, but they would also get very upset with me pointing out that the vast majority of male feminists and murderers are men, so it's not a trans specific thing, just an extension of their over-identification with men.

yeah, maybe she just doesnt care about male feminists and murderers, have you thought about that?

It's wild how some women can react like they're being personally attacked when I say something “bad” about men, yet feel nothing about the horrible things men do to women in this shit world. For me, the horrific things that men do to women feels so personal that it hurts. It doesn't matter that the woman it happened to is a stranger halfway across the world . But some women seem to experience that same kind of pain because I said that I hate men after reading about yet another woman being r*ped/killed, because “YOU KNOW THAT NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THAT, RIGHT???” But they really do get genuinely upset, like they hurt for men in the same way I hurt for women.

it sure is wild that when i tell people i hate half the world based off a few bad apples they get upset with me

Having written all this I realize that it's probably not relevant to your situation with your mom. Anyway, I relate to wanting to cry over the indifference towards women's suffering (which is how I would have interpreted your mom's comment if I was talking about how this shit affects women).

clearly she wants her daughter to suffer

OP replies

This is very relevant to me as well. My mom has a guy friend who has committed s*x tourism and still accommodates with him. After I learned that I refuse to speak to him. Thank you for your comment

HOW DARE HE.... HAVE S*X IN A DIFFERENT COUNTRY

this shit should be a felony tbh

notsofreshfeeling weighs in

Maybe try to injecting some humor into your interactions by calling things by the wrong words (like, call a dog "cat) and when she is confused, tell her in your mind that's what that word means. Ask her why it matters that you use common words in ways that others deem "incorrect," that you're just "queering power structures."

this is so terribly unfunny that even the most ardent transphobe would be offended by it

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so about on par for your average foid joke