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Are women really shaming men for opening up to them? : TwoXChromosomes
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women with all their 'empathy' are absolutely terrible at detecting the emotional state of men
As usual 'we are taught to' shit but they actually seem to admit that it happens.
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The thing women who complain about this stuff don't get is men and women are emotionally wired different. The ones that "do all the emotional labor" are actually just prioritizing what they believe are emotionally important, regardless of how the man feels about it.
Anecdotally I've been in relationship fights with many women over the years and where I'm ready to just drop it and deem it not important, she wants it to keep going because there's some closure to the situation she feels hasn't been reached. I'm not going to say she was wrong or i was wrong, but we just had differing opinions on the importance of shit. Good relationships find a compromise in there somewhere.
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I've always been kind of baffled by the emotional labour thing. Relationships work by the man being stoic and supportive, which she can use to soothe her own negative emotions. Men do all of the emotional labour, usually willingly so knowing that that's part of the deal.
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Emotional labor is really a made up term to avoid saying "I actually don't care about their feelings but expect for them to still care about me"
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Emotional labor is actually a completely coherent concept, but redditor foids managed to misunderstand and misuse it to the point of absurdity.
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AllLeftistTheory.webp
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You're right, it's frequently not even coherent
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Redditor-type foids and misusing an actual social concept (gaslamping, power imbalances, etc.) beyond the point of absurdity: name a more iconic duo.
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Oh I figured. The worst of them use that term like they use r*pe to describe regretting sleeping with someone 2 years ago.
Like yeah, I understand how something can be emotionally draining so ofc there has to be a way to describe it. But having your partner (who you presumably care deeply for) open up about personal stuff shouldn't be that kind of emotional drainage lol
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Foids somehow can't comprehend the value they (and everyone else) place in someone near them being able to keep a cool head and not lose their shit, and simultaneously are jealous of it.
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That means she's doing all the complaining
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I never asked her to take on the burden of overthinking literally anything i say or do
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It's odd how everything women talk about that's supposedly bad is something they were taught, and somebody needs to do something. The lack of autonomy is just stunning.
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women are feral beasts controlled by their menstrual cycle
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The foid will never understand. Emotions aren't bad because women have them, they're bad cause they don't mix well with testosterone. “Boys don't cry” is just shorthand for “dudes are violent and need to control their emotions”
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