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Bipoccutetwinkr-slur Rape/nash :marseyitsover:  3mo ago (reddit.com) 1,579 thread views #277996

Are women really shaming men for opening up to them? : TwoXChromosomes

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>women dont do that. Its male lie
>but lot of men dont know how to talk about feelings
>they trauma dump and that's ick
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But imma be honest with you. I am baffled and confused about it. Because to my understanding, according to what Ive read before, women are doing the most emotional labor in relationships
:marseyxd: women with all their 'empathy' are absolutely terrible at detecting the emotional state of men
I know my experiences don't represent the whole world, but looking back I've only met a woman in my life who would do that to a man, my mom, but she doesn't discriminate by gender, she just doesn't believe in emotional health.
>only 100% of relationships that I've had an inside view of
I think there absolutely are women out there who are put off by men having emotions. Patriarchy is a societal phenomenon and women are a part of society so it's inevitable that many women will have gender roles in the back of their mind, and some women will prefer them outright. Under patriarchy, men are told that women are emotional, and being like a woman is bad, so being emotional is bad. Some women will absolutely be put off by this. Plenty of women do prefer hypermasculinity whether or not I personally like it.
As usual 'we are taught to' shit but they actually seem to admit that it happens.































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It's odd how everything women talk about that's supposedly bad is something they were taught, and somebody needs to do something. The lack of autonomy is just stunning.































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women are feral beasts controlled by their menstrual cycle































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>emotional labor
That means she's doing all the complaining































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I never asked her to take on the burden of overthinking literally anything i say or do































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The thing women who complain about this stuff don't get is men and women are emotionally wired different. The ones that "do all the emotional labor" are actually just prioritizing what they believe are emotionally important, regardless of how the man feels about it.
Anecdotally I've been in relationship fights with many women over the years and where I'm ready to just drop it and deem it not important, she wants it to keep going because there's some closure to the situation she feels hasn't been reached. I'm not going to say she was wrong or i was wrong, but we just had differing opinions on the importance of shit. Good relationships find a compromise in there somewhere.































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I've always been kind of baffled by the emotional labour thing. Relationships work by the man being stoic and supportive, which she can use to soothe her own negative emotions. Men do all of the emotional labour, usually willingly so knowing that that's part of the deal.































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Emotional labor is really a made up term to avoid saying "I actually don't care about their feelings but expect for them to still care about me"































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Emotional labor is actually a completely coherent concept, but redditor foids managed to misunderstand and misuse it to the point of absurdity.































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Redditor-type foids and misusing an actual social concept (gaslighting, power imbalances, etc.) beyond the point of absurdity: name a more iconic duo.































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is actually a completely coherent concept, but redditor foids managed to misunderstand and misuse it to the point of absurdity.
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You're right, it's frequently not even coherent :marseysmug2:































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Oh I figured. The worst of them use that term like they use r*pe to describe regretting sleeping with someone 2 years ago.
Like yeah, I understand how something can be emotionally draining so ofc there has to be a way to describe it. But having your partner (who you presumably care deeply for) open up about personal stuff shouldn't be that kind of emotional drainage lol































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Foids somehow can't comprehend the value they (and everyone else) place in someone near them being able to keep a cool head and not lose their shit, and simultaneously are jealous of it.































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The foid will never understand. Emotions aren't bad because women have them, they're bad cause they don't mix well with testosterone. “Boys don't cry” is just shorthand for “dudes are violent and need to control their emotions”































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