I'm a girl and I want to wear a packer : r/LesbianActually

This is lowkey crazy to make as a first post for me but anyway I'm a cis woman but a lesbian also and lesbianism is definitely my gender expression regardless. I use and am comfortable with she/her pronouns and I like identifying as a woman, and I also love being masculine. I try to present more masculine with my clothes and I love feeling like a protector/provider in a sense. I love taking care of people and solving their problems and I'm not afraid to do the hard stuff. I don't shave my body hair which feels freeing to me and unfortunately makes everyone around me uncomfortable but it doesn't make me want to shave anyway. Anyway, all this to say, I'm comfortable with how I express and present myself currently, I love being a girl unconstrained by gender norms; but goddarn if I don't want a packer like SO bad. I feel like my whole life the one thing that's been missing is my own peepee between my legs. And that's the thing; It's not that I want to be a boy. I know I don't. I LOVE being a girl. But I want to be a girl that also has a peepee. I can literally recall this thought dating back to when I was a kid. I was frankly ENVIOUS and always have been. And ever since I discovered packers it's like it's calling to me. But they're a little difficult to search, and I feel like they're specific to men who are transitioning, and I don't want to just take something I'm not supposed to or that is specific to the trans journey. Or maybe I'm making up a problem that's not real? But anyway I did a little research and there's a couple different kinds you could have and I honestly really want to buy one. Idk I guess I've been nervous cause it's not even necessarily that I identify as butch either, I can't tell if how I present myself counts, or maybe that's something I just need to do more research on. Admittedly I have not read enough into the history of lesbianism or queerness in general enough that I can't say anything for certain. But at the end of the day, I'm a girl and I want that packer.

absolutely valid!

Buy it! Who cares what your identity is, if it feels affirming then it's for you.

I'm a trans woman, and I deeply wish I'd had this mentality at a younger age. I knew in middle school that I wanted estrogen, but thought that was only for girls and I didn't think I was one (lol). It would've improved my life SO much to have the attitude of "I want estrogen, so I'm going to get it. Who cares what my gender is- that's a different question."

Obviously a packer is less serious than HRT, but the same applies.

ofc there are trains infesting a lesbian sub and making it about them, sweety

virtually the only downside i can think of (speaking as a trans women who has the genuine article), is that you may come up against some misdirected transmisogyny. a lot of people will see a woman with a bulge and immediately target her with vitriol whether or not she is actually trans.

if youre flaunting your package trying to get people to notice then you deserve the attention it receives