I feel like some womxn are so self-unaware because they are always trying to see themselves through the eyes of others

what I actually enjoy outside of what society expects me to enjoy.

I realised a lot of the 'society tells us to' arguments that wokeists use is actually just women trying to grapple with the effects of being so submissive to everything

switching between what society expected vs what helped me become invisible to men due to the discomfort I felt from being sexualized/objectified by them. All this time none of this was coming from what I actually want for myself but a constant battle to not be preyed upon vs being valued by others. It's exhausting

You can be uncomfortable and attractive or lazy and unattractive. Men have that exact same choice to make.

I even prevented myself from enjoying certain things that truly made me happy because other men fetishized them heavily.

I guess she means like clothes and makeup?