My boyfriend is obsessed with smoking cigarettes and mathematics.
My boyfriend has recently returned to university as a mature after a long hiatus from education. He is completing a fairly challenging stem degree and so I accepted he would have to commit more time to his work, but his reconnection with mathematics has become concerning.
He now spends a majority of his day 'studying mathematics', despite the fact I often see very little work being done. When I ask him how his work is going, he gets very defensive and refuses to open up, claiming it's in my best interest because 'it will be boring to me anyway'. He then retreats to his room, where I hear either classical music, or the now familiar voice of youtuber 'The Maths Sorcerer' through the door (Some kind of mathematics based motivaitonal guru).
He also has taken up chainsmoking during the day, which although I'm personally not too bothered by, has become another issue where he becomes very defensive. He regularly sends me studies and reddit anecdotes about the efficacy of chainsmoking as a nootropic, and how universities like MIT are littered with cigarette smoke from 'high performance humans'.
He goes so far as to tell me that all of the greats such as Betrand Russel, Einsten and 'Rachmandynoff'(?) were all habitual smokers (Anyone know who tf that last person even is?)
I've tried to contact his friends to see if he shares more about his new secretive lifestyle with them, to which I was told that he basically just talks about drinking coffee, smoking cigarettes, eating eggs and doing mathematics without going into any further detail.
I feel like he has completely changed personalities and lives as some kind of isolated savant rather than my loving boyfriend and I have to fight to even spend time together. I want to try and maybe meet him where he's at and become more interested in what he's doing, but he just keeps everthing so secretive? Has anyone else had experience dealing with a boyfriend who gets obsessive about things?
EDIT: I can personally confirm he is actually enrolled in a university
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As a former mathcel you don't learn math by watching youtube math influencers.
He sounds like a
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Nicotine is the wrong nootropics for mathematics. All of the cool mathematicians were on meth, it's even in the name
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Great story about how erdos made a bet with a fellow mathematician if he could go one month without amphetamines. Erdos won the bet but complained that the whole of mathematics was set back a month
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Neighbor sounds r-slurred, I want him to do some basic proofs for me. I bet he just wants to watch math influencers rather than buckle down and study/ do work
T. Avoiding studying by using rdrama right now
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listening to popular youtubers and thinking that you liking a subject means this person thinks he is smart. Stereotypical pretentious frick.
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One of my degrees is almost in math (BS from same department), and I would corroborate that his study practices sound unorthodox.
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Me when I watch the movie Pi one time
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Based and Nashpilled. He will singlehandedly replace string theory
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