Woman can't handle BOH banter.

Yes, you need to keep your personal life to yourself unless you know you can trust people. (No, it's not fair. Guys can talk about their girlfriends but it may not be safe for you to do so.)

But I'll bet that "wassup homo" was just someone trying to make a funny pun on "wassup homie" and failing.

All that's doing is supporting the oppressors and their system

Pick your battles.

I mean, that's like telling me to not be trans because it's dangerous, or 'don't put yourself in dangerous situations' type of "advice". Like I can't hide it, I didn't choose this battle but doing what they want me to do and not fight back is the opposite of what I should do and the more awareness that's spread will lead to change 🤷‍♀️

What he's doing, the comments he's making, is sexual harassment and it's illegal. Report him to your HR department. Just because it's common, doesn't make it ok.

This is blatant sexual harassment as well as creating a hostile workplace. Is there a HR department you can report this to? You don't say what country you're in, but I'm hoping there are laws against this where you are. It needs to be reported.

Crimes are illegal.

Make friends with a lawyer.

I'm doubting the veracity of this story; she seems like she's starting her very first restaurant job in a michelin starred restaurant judging by how offended she is by normal kitchen ball-busting.