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Now I know why I've gotten fat and ugly.

Unfortunately - r*pe is mostly about power. This is why it's wrong and victim blaming when people say "well she shouldn't have worn that skirt" or something similar, because it's not about sexual attraction at all. (Someone please correct me or add more if I'm wrong)

Edit: you already seem to know this, I'm leaving it here in case someone else doesn't know

I mean, it's not really all about power. It can be and is used as a means of 'total domination', torture, humiliation, or as a weapon in ethnic cleansing, but not always. From 1st person accounts and memoirs (from 2nd world war, for example) we know that soldiers would often specifically look for young, attractive women to SA - women who were in internment camps or hiding in basements, for example, recount soldiers walking around at night with a flashlight, illuminating women's faces to choose the one they liked best.

BUT in such situations sexual violence is also so endemic that it happens to women both young and very old, thin and fat, attractive and unattractive. So getting 'fat and ugly' is not a viable strategy, I'm afraid.

If that's not exactly what power is, then I don't know what else it could be.

Look like a dude or young man instead. Have shears to cut off your hair to male lengths. Ace bandage/compression shirt/sports bra to downplay any feminine assets. Male baggy and boxy clothing. No makeup or feminine anything including scents. They say when SHTF does happen you don't have daughters you have sons.

You really dont know much about how men are do you? They don't care about short hair and they will eventually sniff you out, based on your height, hand size, gait, mannerisms and voice especially.

OP asked for ways she could prepare. Yes, when SHTF if someone wants to attack you they will. This can happen to men too. Preparing is just about giving yourself the best fighting chance you have. Also these methods have been successfully utilized by women in history. Sometimes if you're a good enough actor it just might be the difference between life and death.

"it can happen to men too." Ooof. Big freaking oof. This isn't about men though is it? Why are you mentioning this? Fricking bizarre when like 90% of r*pe victims of stranger/danger r*pe are women and girls.

Also these methods have been successfully utilized by women in history.

Name one.

Sometimes if you're a good enough actor it just might be the difference between life and death.

Source please for this real life success of pretending and passing as a boy in a war zone.

In war, SHT and in some schools (big revelations now in France) male are r*ped.

The post isn't about men though, is it? OP is a woman asking about women. It's like saying you need to be afraid of insulin resistance as a non-diabetic to a post asking about what to do with diabetes.

Men r*pe men in different ways and in different scenarios - and stranger r*pe of men is very rare. It's usually among hierarchies, in prisons, and in institutional ways (like schools.) Men also can fight back differently, and they are not predated upon by gangs just for the purpose of r*pe. Just for the purpose of kidnapping for r*pes. The mass r*pe of women is a global phenomena and it seems like you're here just to distract from that.

The most realistic advice I've seen outside of self-defense is to become as masculine as possible - binders for your chest, baggy clothing, shaving your head, using mascara on upper lip hairs - or if you're a hairy girly naturally, let that fluff grow and fast.

You really think that will deter criminal men who come in as invaders from a battlefield? Or radicalized religious extremists who think you should be burned alive for not converting?

The idea is to make it less likely invading soldiers see you from 200 meters away and think, "oh an attractive woman." and decide to walk towards you because of that.

200 meters away? In such a no mans land type of situation they're going to go after you just because they need to identify you anyway, any costume is irrelevant. And not very rational. Better not be seen at all. If you're a man you're a potential combatant, they'll shoot you. They'll have orders to apprehend any person.

Most SHTF situations are occupation-type scenarios. Look at haiti, sudan, somalia, yemen. Rival warlords and gangs, street battles, lynchings, mass human trafficking. House to house shit.

And every situation is different.

You're arguing that any attempt at mitigation is what? Wrong because it might not be successful in some situations?

Or are you just assuming that the other poster (for whatever reason) had 100% confidence that would always work completely and you wanted to insult them over your weird assumption?

Are you appealing to "maybe it works" because what "every situation is different?" Thats like saying maybe you can make a car into a boat and survive a tsunami. Okay.

Okay give me a situation where this works.

I think this may be a communication issue because I can barely understand your comment in response to mine.

I don't mean this in a rude way, but is English not your first language? May be some subtle stuff getting mixed up here.

Also remember that not everyone is able bodied. Some people due to illness or accident can be in a wheelchair, have a prosthetic, so it's impossible for me as of right now to go to a martial arts class in my area because wheelchair jistu isn't a thing. Bear mace and guns are easy to use no matter what position you're in (sitting or standing or in the chair or at home on the couch) so that's what I deferred to.

I know about an evidence-based form of self-defense, backed by research in several countries across the world, but I'm also planning on conducting research on it and am not sure if it's safe to just put it out there for anyone to see (e.g. bad actors, etc.).

Any clues as to how I can inform myself of this evidence based form of self defense?

There's technically two, but they're variations of similar concepts.

One was created by an American national federation of non-binary people and women, for non-binary people and women.

Another came from a Canadian university known for its strong ties to the automotive industry.

Both are backed by randomized controlled trials, so there's little room for correlation instead of causation.

Might be worth finding some poison ivy/poison oak and rubbing it all over your nether regions and thighs. Sure it will be miserable, but looking disgusting and diseased might help dissuade some level of threat on top of everything else. I'd rather be in heck and miserable that way.

Everyone here talking about carrying and training with guns sounds great… but what about folks who suffer from severe depression/ideation and shouldn't keep them around?

This is my case. I prepare for the eventuality rather than avoid it and live my life fearlessly. I do not let the men have my future or life. You can read my reply above. Meeting violence with violence is not the only way. Sometimes a super power is simply to have mind over body, and endure until the men violating you mean as little as taking a shit.

They may have taken my body in the past but with will not take my present or my future and they will not capture my mind any more.

I'm not sure I follow… can you please explain your point in a different way?

Lots of tips here!

I mainly work with men and a few women. Here are my thoughts.

Never go alone anywhere with a man.

Don't flirt or make sexual comments. Like I know we are spouse to be free and safe to do "whatever we want". But I've seen it time and time again. That the ladies who make themselves extremely sexual are the ones who get SA'ed first.

Avoid overly trusting one man. Of course make friends with the men. But avoid a "work husband". My personal favourite is I like to often ask them about their families. Kids, grandchildren, wives, mothers. I feel like gently reminding them of those warm feelings towards women are a good guide on how they will treat you.

I know this might sound like a weird one. Just leave men alone. I've seen too many women try to too hard to befriend a man that just doesn't like them, and it not end well (non sexual). But if someone doesn't like you… just let them be. Hope that makes sense.

My favourite thing to wear is loose footing overalls with a belt. I find I don't even see the guys staring at me. Though I know they don't prevent r*pe at 100%. I feel like trying to undo the shoulder straps and belts is a big deterrent.

Steel toed boots with extreme grip are definitely a bonus. Atleast something you can run in.

I don't know what war you are preparing for. But wartime r*pe is not something you can prepare against. No gun is going to save you from 5 fully-armed and trained soldiers ready to have their way with you.

You can make them kill you while you shoot as many as possible.

Depends on the person, but plenty would much rather die fighting. To each their own.

Playing Tetris soon after a traumatic event has been proven to reduce the severity of PTSD.

https://www.ox.ac.uk/news/2017-03-28-tetris-used-prevent-post-traumatic-stress-symptoms

The problem that makes it worse is when women falsely use r*pe as an excuse to better themselves because it rapidly start to discredit women who are actually victims allowing abusers to get away with significantly more abuse. So in a SHTF situation get rid of problematic Karens so that the real problems can be addressed.

So I guess this might be where staying fat would help me? Hard to wrestle to the ground or get dragged off anywhere. Generally unappealing to most men (yes I know r*pe isn't about s*x for the most part, it's control and power…)

In all seriousness, fight like heck, ladies. Take self defense classes. Get a taser or pepper spray or gun. Or find another physical item as a way to defend yourself. Depending on the situation and location, find somewhere to hide and barricade in.

I'm already pretty masculine and often pass as a boy teen. If I feel unsafe I will dress more boyish and pretend to be a teen boy as long as I can, I'm growing my hair out now but if I feel danger I will shave it again. I know self defense and carry a knife I know how to use. I'd rather die than to be SA again so I will fight.

Actually, playing Tetris has been clinically proven to reduce the chances PTSD.

Women and nonbinary who capitulate, as they think it might help them or their families survive, receive little no help post war. Typically, if they live, they are kicked out of their home and countries as sympathizers, even if they work against oppressors and even as they were unable to consent on any level. War s*x slavery, on the whole, is seen as "prisoner light" compared to hard labor. Men who are used as s*x slaves often say they were just pow due to the lack of cultural and systemic support, erasing themselves from history.

The dehumanization that accompanies war, to help soldiers kill, usually means the level of brutality that the marginalized, and women in particular, face is truly obscene, whether or not the woman chooses to fight back.

I think the answer is the answer to all things. Understand that when the time comes the flight or fight response will kick in, regardless of any  cold logic done in advance. Training will kick in next. Form a community, hope that community survives to support you if you survive.

I mentioned in another sub that I believe there will be another military draft soon & both men & women will be drafted. I know the current SECDEF really hates women & doesn't want them in HIS military, but I can see drafting them and making them work as "Comfort Women" like in other times of war.

The Peace Corps used to teach everyone to wear a belt at all times. It's the equivalent of putting bars on your windows—won't stop everyone, but it adds a layer of friction to slow/dissuade/redirect.

Can confirm that a belt did actually help me in at least one situation. I think in fact that this was a repressed memory until just now. Thanks. This is real advice!

I would think a leotard would cause a bit of delay as well

My tubes are tied, I have a heavy gate, a dog, bear mace, a boyfriend who's armed. I am working on getting my gun rights back.

I've thought about this a lot. I need to enroll in self defense classes ASAP.

Not for you specifically, but for men in your lives

Trigger warning

and in this is a nearly impossible situation to discuss rationally because of all the ego involved in all parties.. but if you are relying on your man, (in combination with yourself etc.) but in general he thinks he will protect you, and he is unable to do so, (either do to failure or impossible circumstances) and you are both left alive — there is a HUGE mess to contend with while staying with him. I had this happen to me personally, but there's a good episode in Reign where the prince was literally absent to protect his princess and still all the emotions were there. Now amplify that by being in the room - either overpowered or forced to participate - and see if he'd still be a man to comfort you afterwards. A lot of men absolutely cannot handle this scenario. And a lot of women are left to shoulder the blame they can't accept, or even in the best cases - can't be looked at the same again.

I'm 67 & invisible to men for the most part, but I did strongly consider getting a firearm after the country elected to be ruled by a male feminist & predator. Since I have a medical weed card, I can't own or purchase a firearm in Utah. I won't give up my card so no pew pew for me 😞 I rarely leave my home so I guess that's my main strategy to continue avoiding the freaks of the world as much as possible

I didn't renew my medical card last year so that I could get a LTC. I had hoped to visit Utah someday, but it seems as if the entire future I've been planning on and working towards has been stolen. I now expect to die young, but at least I won't die a traitor to my own country. Be safe put there ladies.

Find good places to hide. You will encounter gangs.

If you have young kids or people that can't keep quiet, learn how to safely make them fall asleep.

Have booby trapped supplies. Food that is easy to find with "special ingredients".

This thread misses one of the worst parts - in many wars the r*pe is done with a knife, a gun, a broom handle, in front of your family, or on top of your dead family.

You need to prepare for the psychological fall out. You might have to let your body be destroyed to save your children. It is that bad and terrifying. Owning a gun will not save you from groups of men.

This comment needs to be higher

I'm getting a bisalp. But also, keep in mind that the US has the most heavily armed civilian population the world has ever seen, in any era.

I have my complaints about America, but fierce individualsm is part of who we are. I don't think Americans will comply with true fascism, though it may take civil war.

Get educated, get ammo, and get fricking armed. Learn safety, and get your concealed carry permit. Once you go far enough left, firearms come back into the picture.

I'm not from the US. I'm sorry, but can we please stop with the US defaultism on this sub, it's rampant

My apologies, I thought your concerns were a direct reference to the imment rise of fascism in the United States.