10 Things You're Actually Saying When You Ignore Someone's Gender Pronouns

This is your instinctive brain telling you that doing something is a thoroughly bad idea

"I am a massive cringelord"

It's amazing how poorly transphobia comes off IRL, you just end up sounding like the protagonist in a daily wire sitcom

1. "Your self-esteen will be low when I hit on you later"

I think a lot of people view transition like they view dieting or new years resolutions.

Any fatty who declares they're going to get fit stands a 99% chance of failing and remaining fat. People see intentions to change and instinctively know they're likely to fail.

However it is wrong to apply this instinct to transitioning, because at the point someone informs you of their transition, they've already made the change.

It's not like a fatty saying in January they're getting thin. It's someone who's already well on their way.

On the other side, I think their needs to be a bit of acceptance from trans people themselves that it is an awkward process for everyone who knows you as well.

It took some of my family years to just accept by default that I was a man, and time, effort and the eventual sinking in that, yes actually, I was now clearly a man.

It takes time but eventually everyone gets on board. If someone was to misgender me now with the way I look and the life I lead, they'd look absolutely stupid.

Gay culture war nonsense - please consider offing yourself.

Side note I kinda love the blue pink gradient on the text in this hole

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It makes it seem like they think these things are bad though (?)

I have to agree with that article: I don't believe your special snowflakeness, I don't care if you are uncomfortable and need to run off and have a little cry if I refuse to go along with your delusions, and I'm not an ally. I don't care about you, and I wish you would go away and stop pestering normal people.

EDIT: The above only applies to the sort who need to go on about how they are such victims and how terrifying it is to be them, just breathing in public makes them scared. Trans people who just want to get on with their lives and don't need affirmation 100% of every moment of the day about how amazing and brave and stunning they are, they're okay. Someone like that says "I'm she/her", okay, I can go along with using those pronouns for politeness sake. Someone who is draped in fifty Pride flags and going on about how their pronouns are "ze/zem" and they're non-binary genderfluid panromantic, when they are very obviously a straight girl with a bad hair cut? No, I'm not playing along.

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