Am I gay?

I personally don't think being gay is a sin. I don't recall Jesus talking about homosexuals in any of the gospels. If I remember correctly it's only in Paul's writings that it comes up in the New Testament. It's not straight from the horse's mouth. We don't follow all the rules in Leviticus etc anymore. We have a new covenant. Jesus's message transcends the labels we place on people. And remember God loves and forgives all his children, even if they sin.

That's said, it's fine not to know what you are (gay, straight, bi) or to be confused. You don't even really need a solid answer…maybe there isn't one and your sexuality is flexible or changing. You can wait until you meet someone that you fall for and enjoy the love you share. No need to stress about labels.

If you do feel you are gay and believe it's a sin, there's nothing wrong with being celibate. I had a long period where I did that and my life was incredibly peaceful. You can live a rich life even if it's not the one prescribed by society (married, 2.5kids, golden retriever)

You're not gay but you're certainly a cute twink.

Honestly bro it sounds like you don't like dealing with women but you like female anatomy

Thats normal for a dude that's had a shitty time on the dating market. Probably overthinking it.

If you don't think you are overthinking it go talk to a priest/pastor you trust I wouldn't seek advice here tho

No, traps aren't gay. Trust the science.

Did your mom raise you to be more feminine in behavior? Do you avkid coufrontation? Does interacting with women scare you? Was your father around in amy significant manner?

Ive been asked if I was gay

I ask them why they think that

They respond with something along the lines of "I never tried to hit on/flirt with them" and all my friends are women ( true)

Really I'm just

• a misogynist

• afraid a SWAT team will materialize and gun me down if I were to ever attempt flirting

...but I tell them I don't hit on friends, and that puts it to rest

But you dated a lmao cute twink

Im sorry for flirting with you

You're probably gay. Don't let dogma railroad you into straggotry, or everything will come apart at the seams eventually.

If you gay, you gay. If your response to twink thirst traps is then it's pretty much sorted

This word salad leads me to believe that not only are you gay but you should line your butt hole with gummy bears and skittles and allow ppl to dm you for your address and availability; its time embrace your inner cute twink

You didn't really say anything about what you're sexually into, and it doesn't really sound like you're yearning for a husband either, so I'd almost wonder if you are mostly asexual or one of the other zoomer identities. You don't sound repulsed by s*x and romance, it just sounds like it's something you know people do, and you might do sometimes but it isn't really a priority.

If you are flexible, and receptive to straight marriage, I wouldn't rule it out. Children and family are rewarding things, and marital love is more about mutual care and willing duty than the initial spark. Not being starstruck by gussy doesn't mean you should just stay single forever.

Of course, single life can be fine, and if you're spiritually capable of it, it may be better (Matthew 19:11-12). But I'd also caution against saying "I'm happy being single" at (for example) 25 when you might be terribly lonely at 35. I'm currently happy as a single moid, but as I think about my future I realize I don't want to stay this way forever. So that means making some changes even absent an urgent desire to pair up.

My ex is a gay man who decided he would try to suppress being gay for religious reasons. He still fricks s, and chases pics out of femboys on grindr, only now he's not even trying to maintain a monogamous gay relationship and he feels guilty and drinks alone after.

Trying to suppress your sexuality doesn't work.

I spent years being sexually turned on by the same s*x, but I would blame "society" for "tricking" me into having gay thoughts so I convinced myself it didn't count. If you feel desire for, are turned on by, or sexually fantasize about men, you're gay. Yes, it still counts if they're highly effeminate. It still counts if you are very successful at fighting these thoughts. You don't allude to erotic attraction anywhere in your post so either you're painfully shy and can't talk about such things even on the internet, or you already know you have gay attractions and don't want to put the evidence into writing.

Asking the question "am I gay?" is already accepting a worldly, non-biblical framing of sexuality as part of one's identity.

If you can tolerate long-form video this one does a great job of articulating a biblical world view of sexuality, if you don't like long videos it does have section headers in the description. The last ~10-20 mins honestly are probably the most helpful.

whatever you do you're going to have failures and sins and regrets and things to make good on and things you might never make good on. try your best and don't stop living in the meantime, even if you do decide you're gay or whatever

If you had s*x with a but stopped having s*x with a and are gussy only then it seems pretty cut and dry. If you inner thoughts and wants indicate something else that's for you to sort out. It's notmal to prefer socializing with the boys unless you are hanging out exclusively with homos or something. Being a good conversationist with women is a nice bonus.

I wanna ask. Are you diagnosed with CPTSD or BPD?

I'm gay

Didnt read but probably