PERIODT QUEEN My partner does not expect or want me to take his last name when we get married, and I never wanted to take his name in the first place. Most feminists would probably see this as a win.
However, by the same token, my partner also refuses to take my last name. On face value, I can’t really blame him because I don’t want to change my name to his either. But on the other hand, I feel like it would be a nice thing for him to do, to support me “sticking it to the man” so to speak. Am I being unreasonable for being dismayed that he refuses to take my last name?
Also- he insists that our children have hyphenated last names. I’m okay with this but I do prefer they just have my last name, as I carried the child and gave birth to the child. On the other hand, he views it as an erasure of his identity if the children do not have his last name. He understands that women have experienced this kind of erasure for centuries and feels that it was wrong, but he thinks that to not hyphenate our kid’s last name would be the erasure of his, which he views as reverse discrimination and disrespectful.
If I had to chose between the kids having just my last name and my husband taking my name, I’d prefer my kids had only my last name, but my partner is not okay with either.
I know progressive men who have changed their last names and men who have allowed their kids to have only their partners last name, so I know that this idea is uncommon, but it isn’t unheard of.
Are my preferences unreasonable? As a woman living in a patriarchal society I think the least my partner could do is allow the kids to have only my last name or the least he could do is take my last name. Is this erasure of his identity and am I going too far?
I love my partner and want him to be in my life but I have a more progressive vision of what our family would look like. Thanks for the help.
All the comments are agreeing that she is right of course, and yet he STILL has the nerve to not cut his balls off
!biofoids can you believe this scrote?
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the only man you're sticking it to is your husband
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To appropriate rsp scrote culture, putting politics over your spouse is bleak.
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Scrotes are temproary, politics is forever~~
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Dog brained foids love meaningless displays while ignoring getting fricked over on a material level.
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She probably pegs him on a regular basis tbh
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hubby its 4pm, time to stick it to the man
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It's funny because today I met a female coworker's bf of 8 years. She's in many ways quite a catch, but at the same time quite dominant, nervous and workaholic. She's very femenine and very masculine at the same time. I knew his bf was slow, passive, the quintessential "beta" nerd. Turns out he really is all of this.
I never understood how they could be together, that guy's quite femenine and she could get whatever kind of man she wanted. Then I went to their potty, took a dump, and saw some pills. Birth control.
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I mean the type of man in her situation would also usually seek a feminine and passive
boywifewife. Especially a workaholic who is stressed all the time, the last thing they need is another person just like them creating scheduling conflicts and butting heads while trying to boss them around. Her dating a guy like him makes perfect sense, right down to the 8 years still not married thing. The birth control is more about her being a workaholic than some weird alpha-genes mindgaming.If she really needs someone super masculine she can quietly shop around and jump ship whenever, her situation is perfect for it.
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I suspect literally too
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You gotta be real dumb to marry a feminist.
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dumb and masochistic
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That is why I tell my boys to marry dudes.
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Exactly.
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Feminism isn’t real.
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Tell those in that thread.
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Why? They’re just normal.
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These people realize that their maiden name is just their grandfather's name, right?
Either way, the patriarchy wins, they're just fighting over which grandfather's name to take
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Patriarchy is everywhere and invades every aspect of females life to oppress them but can also be outsmarted with obvious and easy loopholes.
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This sounds awfully antisemitic
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i don't know why you're going back two generations. it's her father's name she wants for her kids.
but yeah, pats win
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Hot take: women should have to take the surname of the first scrote they frick because after that they aren't maidens anymore
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Maybe he can take her bulls last name.
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Yikes is the bulls last name a slave name though?
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Yikerinos. The only logical solution is to enslave their cracker butt child and send them to Africa. Equity achieved ✊✊.
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Did your mommy not hug you enough when you were growing up? You sound like a sore loser who can't handle that someone else has what you don't. news flash: not everyone is born with a silver spoon in their mouth. some people have to work hard for what they want in life. if you can't handle that, maybe you should go back to your little ivory tower and live in your little bubble where everyone agrees with you.
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I mean it will be his kid anyway.
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Will it? Maybe she's gaslighting him about the kids being his. If he allows them to take her last name then when he eventually discovers that the kids aren't his she'll pretend at the divorce hearing that he knew this all along which is why they don't use his name. After all, it's just his word against hers, right?
Bitches like this are crafty: they try to set you up for a fall way in advance. Something seemingly innocuous if taken at face value could be part of a larger plot to screw you over much later on. You have to be suspicious when you see behavior like this and start testing your partner's motivations.
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Why do these people get into relationships with men if they hate them? The comments just straight up despise men as a whole. It feels like incels hating women but also wanting a gf.
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Women, not people.
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Ubermensch are still referred to as people in casual conversation.
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Same reason they buy the more expensive pink razor and then complain that it cost more than the blue one that they also had the option to buy.
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(Biological) urge to not be alone + s*x? It's not really complicated
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I thought all womyn are bisexual or lesbian.
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Hormones
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Narcissism* these bitches are drier than redditor dms
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Wrong.
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whore moans
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They wouldn't be radfems if they were capable of rational thought
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I wonder how many hyphenated names people will have in the future
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Do not hire anyone with a hyphenated surname unless they are Latinx.
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I just assume any man with a hyphenated name is low T
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Almost certainly. But even if not, they grew up fatherless even if it’s a two-parent household and you don’t need that sort of baggage in your life or business.
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Fatherless men are exclusively whom I attract so I've accepted this as my fate
I've taught multiple men with daddy issues / poetry aficionados how to fish as a date
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Or just the son of rich parents.
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They're probably too spoiled to have a good work ethic so either way you shouldn't hire them
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They already said "low T"
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Yes, they are very easy to bully.
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What if its something really neato like Marvin-Martin or Strong-Johnson?
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Gigga-Chadd
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If it's obvious they did it themselves like "Mike Kitty-Crusher" then it's ok
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What if your parents had a great marriage but both were doctors so you have two last names.
Then you get married, and your wife completely drops her maiden and takes BOTH of yours.
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No matter how much anti-lib sentiment you try to astroturf, your meth-looking-butt still won’t be competitive anywhere. Cope and seethe!
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2^gnames afterggenerationsceil(ln(n))generations until kids havennamesJust 20 generations until surnames are over a million names long
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exactly
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About 300 years then
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in my country hyphenated surnames are actually really common. although this is unironically due to communism
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Look at the comments, its full of deranged women who apparently think that way. Doesnt seem like bait necessarily.
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The post is bait but the comments are probably real
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The best bait is the bait the community swallows without thinking.
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It's not about the bait you use, it's about the fish you catch.
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It's not about the bait you use but the fish you catch.
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They’re deadbeat dad who you had the great forethought to let c*m inside you, likely multiple times.
Foids and personal responsibility
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You'd think radfems would be good at vetting scrotes, guess not
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He must have had a great PERSONALITY
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6 feet of kindness and 8 inches of humor
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that was my favorite genre of FDS post, the "every relationship I was ever in was abusive, I just got out of another abusive relationship, here's my advice for dating". There is zero good advice someone like that can give, even cautionary advice is going to be extremely suspect
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No one, man or woman, who demands checklists of things that can easily be lied about is good at vetting anyone. These types will identify red flags in the movies other people watch and assume that the wonderful person they met just so happens to have all the exact interests and opinions they have.
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Bait comment.
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They desire peepee but hate what's it attached to so have to create these neurodivergent rules to separate the peepee from the scrote. They want the body of the scrote without the disgusting mind attached, only a bizarre living dildo is acceptable.
with incels
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Sign me up!
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What's hilarious is that these are always the easiest ones who fall for the laziest of game
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When we finally have s*x robots, the male versions will sell like hotcakes among these women since they don't want to care about anybody other than themselves anyway: instead they just want a slave whom they can pretend to be in a relationship with.
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Wrong.
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Easy solve, just do like latin countries and have more names except first and last, for example I have 4 names, 2 middle names from my mother and 1 last name from my father.
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"nooo that's too long why is your full name the lenght of a novel noooooo!!!!"
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Easier solve, repeal the 19th
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We Germans are not all smiles and sunshine
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What's 4th wave feminism?
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terminally online women
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