In Poland it is prohibited by law to beat people and children obv, (in australia and canada it's apparently awwwight if you use it "reasonably"
I am completely against it, my mom never hit me. She did shout a lot at me though and it had really bad impact on me. We talked recently about it even and she felt bad about it.
I think that if one gets driven mad by their child and thinks it's a good reason to spank them, they should not have children in first place and resolve their dumb mental issues with a professional
But some people (here is data from a polish report) https://fdds.pl/_Resources/Persistent/a/7/5/8/a758b76965a114d233d30bbdb81f58845242d7a6/Postawy%20i%20stosowanie%20kar%20-%20raport.pdf
In Poland, the percentage of opponents of corporal punishment has been syste-
matically increasing. In 2022 more than half (59%) of participants in our study be-
lieved that beating children as a punishment should never be used.
• Since 2017 there has been a substantial increase in support for the legal ban on corpo-
ral punishment by parents against their children. In 2022 it was supported by amajori-
ty (70%) of respondents. More than half of the respondents (57%) know that in Poland
the use of physical punishment by parents against their children is legally prohibited.
• The majority of respondents supported a legal ban on slapping a child across the face
(70%), beating hard with a hand (68%), beating with a belt or other object (68%), pulling by
the hair or ear (66%) and shaking or pushing (62%), and half (50%) of respondents agreed
with the legal prohibition of spanking children (this percentage increased from 34% in 2017).
• Half of the respondents (51%) witnessed verbal disciplining a child in the year pre-
ceding the survey, and 39% when physically disciplining a child. In total, 60% of
the respondents encountered a situation of child abuse.
• A significant proportion of witnesses of both verbal (38%) and physical (41%) cha-
stisement remained passive towards these behaviors.
• According to respondents, police and NGOs are the institutions that children who
have been victims of maltreatment can count on to the greatest extent.
• Most parents at least several times disciplined their children verbally (70%) and
used prohibitions and restrictions (70%), and 39% of respondents more than once
disciplined their children with corporal punishment. The most common method of
disciplining a child with force was spanking (36%).
• 6% of parents admitted to frequent disciplining their children physically. There
was a positive relationship between the frequent use of various forms of corporal
punishment by parents – all were significantly correlated with one another.
• Strong nervousness (38%) is the most frequently indicated by parents as a reason
for the use of physical punishment.
• The prevalence of parental burnout among parents aged 18–44 was 4%. The level
of parental burnout was positively correlated with the frequent infliction of cor-
poral punishment.
• Respondents find the lack of time, tiredness and trouble in balancing professional
life and the role of being a parent as the biggest difficulties.
• According to the respondents, own experiences, family members or friends, as
well as psychologists and educators are the most important sources of knowledge
about raising children.
• ¾ of the respondents said that people raising children should be supported by the
family, and 67% see the state in this role.
• Adults had various memories of the physical punishments, which were used by
their parents when they were children. For some of them, these situations were
traumatic, while others claimed that they did not leave any emotional scars.
So, do you think it's appropriate for parents to spank their children as a punishment?
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Children should never be struck in anger, only as discipline
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it goes like this though:
oh no i am angry => the kid needs discipline because i am very angwwwy and that's bad => beats up a kid instead of explaining to them what's wrong
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You DEFINITELY have to explain what rule they broke before the spanking
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why not just explain? how about spending more time with the kid and appreciate behaviours that are good
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If you could talk a kid into being a well-adjusted person, none of us would be on this site
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true i wish i could be more like my peers i idolize every single of my classmates
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Kids are dumb, but they understand shock (since spanking barely hurts)
If your kid is a little r-slur (it will be) who keeps trying to run in front of cars for example, a good spank will hurt them a lot less than getting pancaked by an auto will, and THEN they'll learn to not cross the street without looking both ways
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Moreover, spanking is ineffective because it is different from other forms of punishment and discipline in that it involves hitting, which is of course a form of violence (see further discussion of this issue later). Hitting, by its nature, causes physical pain, and it can be confusing and frightening for children to be hit by someone they love and respect, and on whom they are dependent. Children report fear, anger, and sadness when they are spanked (Dobbs, Smith, & Taylor, 2006)
found this and it's contradictory
from here https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3768154/
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Actually, spanking is quite effective if used correctly and sparingly. It is different from other forms of discipline in that it involves hitting, which is a form of physical discipline. Hitting, by its nature, can cause physical pain, but it can also be a way to get a child's attention and help them learn to behave.
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I am going to hit my child on the butt with open hand
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I don't trust any parenting advice from this millenium tbh
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what year is ok
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Nah, kids feel safer and more secure under a firm hand because then know a firm hand protects them.
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I think the emotionless, blank expression spanking is even weirder and more psychotic. Of course you will be mad and disappointed if it comes to spanking and it is alright to be so.
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