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Do you think it's appropriate for parents to spank their children as a punishment? (50% poles do)

In Poland it is prohibited by law to beat people and children obv, (in australia and canada it's apparently awwwight if you use it "reasonably"

I am completely against it, my mom never hit me. She did shout a lot at me though and it had really bad impact on me. We talked recently about it even and she felt bad about it.

I think that if one gets driven mad by their child and thinks it's a good reason to spank them, they should not have children in first place and resolve their dumb mental issues with a professional

But some people (here is data from a polish report) https://fdds.pl/_Resources/Persistent/a/7/5/8/a758b76965a114d233d30bbdb81f58845242d7a6/Postawy%20i%20stosowanie%20kar%20-%20raport.pdf

In Poland, the percentage of opponents of corporal punishment has been syste-

matically increasing. In 2022 more than half (59%) of participants in our study be-

lieved that beating children as a punishment should never be used.

β€’ Since 2017 there has been a substantial increase in support for the legal ban on corpo-

ral punishment by parents against their children. In 2022 it was supported by amajori-

ty (70%) of respondents. More than half of the respondents (57%) know that in Poland

the use of physical punishment by parents against their children is legally prohibited.

β€’ The majority of respondents supported a legal ban on slapping a child across the face

(70%), beating hard with a hand (68%), beating with a belt or other object (68%), pulling by

the hair or ear (66%) and shaking or pushing (62%), and half (50%) of respondents agreed

with the legal prohibition of spanking children (this percentage increased from 34% in 2017).

β€’ Half of the respondents (51%) witnessed verbal disciplining a child in the year pre-

ceding the survey, and 39% when physically disciplining a child. In total, 60% of

the respondents encountered a situation of child abuse.

β€’ A significant proportion of witnesses of both verbal (38%) and physical (41%) cha-

stisement remained passive towards these behaviors.

β€’ According to respondents, police and NGOs are the institutions that children who

have been victims of maltreatment can count on to the greatest extent.

β€’ Most parents at least several times disciplined their children verbally (70%) and

used prohibitions and restrictions (70%), and 39% of respondents more than once

disciplined their children with corporal punishment. The most common method of

disciplining a child with force was spanking (36%).

β€’ 6% of parents admitted to frequent disciplining their children physically. There

was a positive relationship between the frequent use of various forms of corporal

punishment by parents – all were significantly correlated with one another.

β€’ Strong nervousness (38%) is the most frequently indicated by parents as a reason

for the use of physical punishment.

β€’ The prevalence of parental burnout among parents aged 18–44 was 4%. The level

of parental burnout was positively correlated with the frequent infliction of cor-

poral punishment.

β€’ Respondents find the lack of time, tiredness and trouble in balancing professional

life and the role of being a parent as the biggest difficulties.

β€’ According to the respondents, own experiences, family members or friends, as

well as psychologists and educators are the most important sources of knowledge

about raising children.

β€’ ΒΎ of the respondents said that people raising children should be supported by the

family, and 67% see the state in this role.

β€’ Adults had various memories of the physical punishments, which were used by

their parents when they were children. For some of them, these situations were

traumatic, while others claimed that they did not leave any emotional scars.

So, do you think it's appropriate for parents to spank their children as a punishment?

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I am completely against it, my mom never hit me. She did shout a lot at me though and it had really bad impact on me. We talked recently about it even and she felt bad about it.

:marseypearlclutch: :marseylaugh:

just like with the law, you need an ultimate recourse of violence if you want to actually enforce it.

The problem is it isn't an ultimate recourse to some people.

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no violence. I demand real power and control

If i can exert dominance just by being in a room and make ppl throw their monies for me just to get a glare from me then :marseyitsover:

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Hypothetical: your child discovers that you can't actually hurt them and just calls you a stupid cute twink whenever he sees you

what do

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spend more and more time with the kid

laugh like a madman when they do it

read books with later or ask them what they wanna play or if they want to listen to my hobbies

i wanna learn piano too i love pianos

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read books with later or ask them what they wanna play or if they want to listen to my hobbies

that might work after a while but you're putting yourself in a passive position entirely dependent on them making the choice to change their mind. Basically, your family dynamic is now being led by your kid. You're relying entirely on love which is only one side of coercion (getting people to do what you want) the other is fear.

The stuff you're talking about, glares and yelling, only work if people think they'd actually suffer consequences from testing you. There's a point in the testing where you have to be 'violent', e.g. spanking, that proves there is actually a threat. If they keep testing you and nothing happens, they know you don't have any control and even if they give up on one issue they're going to act against your wishes whenever it's convenient.

i wanna learn piano too i love pianos

Why does every Pole play piano?

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I dont play piano :(

we have a very old not adjusted piano in the house, but no one plays it. I just love piano and people who play piano sweetly'

and no i dont to make my kid fear me lmao, i want other b-words around to fear me and know i can deroot them out of this world (in a very peacful way)

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