EFFORTPOST [long] A journey into the therapist haters subreddit

I just found this subreddit and I DO NOT remember how.

It's pretty cool, there's some sneeding about late stage capitalism which is , I've heard that before but the rest of /r/therapyabuse reinforces my hatred of the entire field of mental health!

Sample bangers from this subreddit:

Just muted /r/CPTSD because the constant chant of "go to therapy" is triggering my CPTSD

https://old.reddit.com/r/therapyabuse/comments/12wlkye/just_muted_rcptsd_because_the_constant_chant_of/

If anyone is looking for practical advice for recovering from this, muting, blocking, and otherwise not allowing therapy shills into your life is a big one. There is nothing wrong with guarding yourself or only allowing those into your life which have ideas worth sharing. In my experience therapy shills are not worth my time, energy, or effort.

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How to deal with the increasing therapisation of the world?

https://old.reddit.com/r/therapyabuse/comments/11836tp/how_to_deal_with_the_increasing_therapisation_of/

So, I’m technically an elderly gen z or maybe a baby millennial, and I’ve noticed that people in my generation are incredibly therapised to a scary extent.

For example, I was going through some issues and texted my friend that I needed to talk. I’d known this girl for years and emotionally supported her many times before (which I’m not complaining about, that’s what friends are for). Anyway, she literally text me back saying “I can’t help you, I think you need to see a therapist” and cut me off there and then.

Just the other day I arranged a meet up with a potential new friend and she gave me a “list of her boundaries” beforehand, she informed me she couldn’t talk about trauma at all. I asked her to be more specific and she sent me a voice note saying the conversation was “overwhelming her nervous system and making her feel unsafe”. She cut me off too (lol). In a previous conversation with her I’d briefly mentioned I was feeling a bit down since she asked how I was- she then freaked out and said “omg I wish I could support but it opens a caretaker wound for me”…

I feel like I can’t escape this insanity! It feels like people will be sending invoices to their friends in the future for emotional support or having difficult conversations. Even just listening to a ptsd podcast earlier someone had written a letter about a guy who was suicidal and going through a court case to prosecute his abusers, she asked how to support. The host literally told her to “distance herself until she’s out of his life”. Basically telling her to abandon a suicidal person.

It seems that people cannot deal with basic life issues anymore, and they see friends as purely entertainment… as soon as an issue comes up and you need support they’ll discard you. It’s honestly scary. Caring and empathy seems to have been relegated to a professional service and if you can’t afford it then you’re on you’re own I guess?

What really grinds my gears is that the people spewing this nonsense don’t seem to understand they’re spewing propaganda. They think it’s neutral life advice, but it’s rooted and wrapped up in capitalism and so many other social issues (sanism, racism, classism etc).

Sorry for the length of this post- the topic just really angers me!

New Vocabulary Aquired! SANISM

Therapist said all my issues are because I’m not practicing the Law of AttractionTherapy Abuse

https://old.reddit.com/r/therapyabuse/comments/uth8xd/therapist_said_all_my_issues_are_because_im_not/

Told my therapist today that I’m frustrated because it seems like I can’t catch a break in life, one bad thing after another keeps happening (lost my dad suddenly, I developed chronic pain, I’m being harassed at work). Her response was to tell me I’m not practicing the Law of Attraction and because I feel depressed and frustrated at life, negative things will keep happening to me.

Some people really need to be banned from this profession.

MANIFEST UR REALITY AND U WON'T BE SAD 💅

lol he found this b-word on betterhelp

Is there some database where patients can review individual practitioners?

That would be nice. This therapist is from BetterHelp. BetterHelp let’s you rate the counselors but I think they purposely don’t show the negative reviews. I would also not recommend BetterHelp overall as many mental health professional on there are sus as heck. The first therapist that was assigned to me actually told me that I should try to call the suicide hotline at least once in my life because “the people there are so nice and it’s fun”. She had told me she called once pretending to be suicidal just to see how it’s like.

what

here's another comment from another post that is funni

I had a therapist tell me I was an old soul who chose to be abused (in my soul contract) in order to help rid the world of darkness 😒. When I told her I didn’t believe that, she rolled her eyes and shouted (in her Brooklyn accent), “Well what DO you believe then????” as if my rejection of a specific New Age belief was just the most unreasonable thing anyone had ever done. (link)

I'm trying to imagine how being abused rids the world of darkness.

Supposedly my abuse taught me a high level of empathy that I can use to heal the world or something I don’t know I didn’t book a second appointment lol.

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Therapy is the secular version of religious confessionals

https://old.reddit.com/r/therapyabuse/comments/zzcm9n/therapy_is_the_secular_version_of_religious/

That’s it. It all makes sense. The 1:1 private rant where you search your own flaws, the distance and pity from the therapist, the blaming of the client, the stigmatizing and shameful nature of it all, its strong associations with morality, the promise of a more purified/fixed state afterwards, the taboo of questioning authority… The analogy is not 100%, but as somebody who’s been to both, it’s all weirdly familiar. (Except, of course, a priest will do it for free.)

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I refused to answer the "Do you feel like hurting yourself or others?" question.

https://old.reddit.com/r/therapyabuse/comments/xvxseo/i_refused_to_answer_the_do_you_feel_like_hurting/

I thought her head was going to explode! I could hear the cranks and pullies in her mind struggling to process this information.

She was clearly disappointed that I would not give her the opportunity to decide if I should be imprisoned that day! What a major bummer for her!

She ended up threatening me one day, and I grinned and told her that I'll tell her anything she wants to hear... she turned red. I didn't say the "magic words."

Long story short, I haven't gone back, but probably have a new "Oppositional Defiant Dissorder" diagnosis. Lol

At the end of the day, I don't HAVE to answer shit! Also, I don't consider you an "authority figure." That is a construct that is only in your own mind.

/rant

I just lie and say no. I would literally rather die than be committed.

(OP) The cops at least read you your rights, which are that you can remain silent, and can have an attorney. Also, they let you know right away that what you say will be used against you.

Why don't I have at least those rights, before I've even commited a crime?

Clearly, I have 72 hours of my life to spare...

Some of them are so out of touch with reality it’s unbelievable. Not all of us have a 9-5 job with benefits and plenty of PTO, actually.

Me: I literally cannot take 3 straight days off of work to go inpatient. I don’t get any PTO because I can’t work full time, and I can’t afford 3 days without a paycheck even without covering the cost of hospitalization.

Thera-shit: You need to prioritize your mental health. It’s okay to take a break!

Overthrow capitalism and I’ll “take a break for my mental health,” you dumb c*nt.

(OP) I actually DO have 72 hours to spare, so they dont exactly have me over a barrel.

new slur for therapists unlocked: Thera-shit

and now for some blog posting:

therapy FRICKED up some of my friends fr like seriously darn near killed them

I felt like I had to talk them back together when they got out because the therapist, because that shit CLEARLY made it worse

for one friend the therapists (like every other one they saw 🤨) liked saying fricked up things to them for no reason like "oh, is X problem SEXUAL in nature? Are you sure you aren't feeling like this is SEXUAL? Does this remind you of the time you were r*ped? Huh? Does it? Think back REALLY hard" when it's something I know is mundane they just REALLY like talking about r*pe if they know it's there, like they can't resist digging through the trash to feel important, even if it's not neccessary.

There was only one guy I know who liked therapy

He loved to go see the emotional prostitutes (I was already using this slur for therapists but I found this subreddit and they use it too! ) and sit in their office. He became an egomaniac... but not a fun or funny kind, just an "im better than u and therapy is GREAT and everyone is a narcisist gaslamping emotional dysregultion codependent toxic person unless they validate me and respect my ✨boundaries✨, I HIGHLY recommend therapy btw"

turned the man into a walking self help book

ok im wrapping this up, this is LONG but I don't feel like pinging effortposters because didn't get into the drama between reddit therapists and their hangout subreddits and /r/therapyabuse I think that needs further investigation.

that's it, bye