I believe the case of August Ames is a prime example of why s*x cannot be unproblematically commodified, and that the concept of "s*x work" is inherently flawed.
BACKGROUND
Born in Canada in 1994, August Ames was a pornographic actress. She entered the industry at the tender age of 19. She has appeared in over 100 pornographic films and she has been awarded four times at the AVN Awards, including one for Performer of the Year.
THE TRAUMA OF AUGUST AMES
What makes a woman do porn at 19? Surely she must be a horny slut who doesn't want to work, right? Let's learn a little about her upbringing and see what goes into creating your source of lust on the screen:
Ames alleged that she was routinely sexually molested by her paternal grandfather as a child
Her father refused to believe her and at 12 years old she was sent to live in a group home
When she was just 15, however, she claimed the father of a child she was babysitting told her he would provide cocaine if she would strip down naked, so she did.
“It was just awful. It’s still recent where I have to keep myself occupied or else I start thinking about all that shit and then I fall into a depression,” she shared. “I try to do therapy. I hate that word. I hate therapy.”
Understandably, this has left her utterly traumatized. She cannot stop the bad memories, and they incapacitate her.
- “Some days I’ll be fine, and if I’m not doing anything I’ll get these awful flashbacks of my childhood and I get very depressed and I can’t get out of bed and cancel my scenes for like a week or two,” Ames admitted.
As psychotherapy tells us, the mind desires closure. When it cannot find it, it will revisit the moment of trauma and relive it to attempt to understand what went wrong. If there is no meaning to be found, that is the point where the mind gets stuck - logic and reason have failed.
Enjoy your slut.
AMES IN THE INDUSTRY
Ames was r*ped repeatedly while doing porn. This is to be expected - she is stuck in a cycle of abuse being exploited by pornographers and consumers. The production of commercial pornography is contingent on stochastic grooming. Nobody in a place of centralized power has to order women to be sexually traumatized - it is guaranteed to happen in part by the proliferation of objectifying material. The traumatized women are then used in the industry to make the very material that will lead to more women being sexually traumatized. It is a vicious cycle. Undoubtedly, Ames made pornography that will teach men to objectify women, and those men will go on to traumatize more women who will enter the industry.
In 2017, Ames sent the following to her friend via text following the shooting of a scene with porn actor Markus Dupree:
“Yesterday was totally unprofessional and I wanted to die.”
"He was dragging me around and choked me with my panties, slamming my head down on the table and was just WAY too rough and the scene didn’t even call for it. I was so enraged that when he pulled me down to kiss him I just spat in his face.”
"I was literally in panic mode so I froze and didn’t say no or stop."
https://x.com/LailaMickelwait/status/1227453609408966661
Men have masturbated to this scene of this woman being r*ped on camera. Some of them are probably in this very post. There are also men still making money from the r*pe scene right now. Ames' mother has corroborated these allegations:
- “She was forced into situations where she was very poorly treated—beyond poorly treated. She was manhandled by her co-star, [Dupree] roughed her up. He left marks on her so badly that she couldn’t work for a couple of weeks.”
THE DEATH OF AMES
In 2017, Ames was asked to appear in a scene with a co-star who had performed in gay porn. I'd like for you to think about Ames' life for a moment. All the times she has been molested and r*ped, and had no power to stop it. I was literally in panic mode so I froze and didn’t say no or stop. For once, ONCE, in her life, she decided to display sexual autonomy and say no - she did not want to have s*x with a bisexual man.
The consequence? Instant ostracization in the industry along with non-stop internet harassment. In no uncertain terms, the world told her once again, that her sexual consent DOES NOT MATTER. It is irrelevant. You exist to make others orgasm, and the cost to you is not worth taking into consideration. In response, August Ames hanged herself. This is her last tweet:
https://x.com/AugustAmesxxx/status/937834002768990208
Please think about the full context of events. This was not a woman simply bearing the brunt of online criticism. This was a woman being told that her existence is to take peepee whether she likes it or not. Is there anything more destructive to the human spirit than to be told that your suffering is meaningless and moves nobody?
THE AUTOPSY
The medical autopsy revealed that she died of asphyxiation. She had cocaine, marijuana, zoloft and xanax in her bloodstream at the time of her death.
What about the psychological autopsy? Well, that is for us to decide. In my opinion, this had absolutely nothing to do with cyberbullying. This was someone stuck in a cycle of trauma. From a young age, she had been taught that her value was her sexuality and that is what others want from her. She exists to be used and molested.
At no point in her life did she ever have sexual autonomy. Trauma had stripped that away from her. Ames' yes is a distorted yes, one forged of the ill intentions of men in her past. It comes out of her lips but it does not have her voice.
In 2017, she tried to break the cycle of trauma. This is an incredibly difficult task. In a very real sense, it requires self-annihilation and the ability to shed thinking patterns of the past. To move past trauma, you must be reborn. This avenue was taken from her publicly and spitefully. She was told that it is in fact not her right to say no. The cause of August Ames' death was a denial of sexual freedom. The pornstar was not sexually liberated.
FRICK YA'LL
Frick ya'll indeed. Frick this world that refuses to give women their sexual autonomy. Frick the wicked who exploit the traumatized and troubled. Frick the hedonists that care only for their own carnal pleasures. Most importantly, frick ya'll, the everymen found the world over, who allow this evil to continue through their consumption of pornography and their silence when women are sexually abused.
Ames' story is not a strange one. You know full well that pornography is contingent on suffering. You cannot have one without the other. It's so easy to just call a woman a slut and be done with it. To take the time and have the empathy to understand people's history and how they arrive at certain points in their lives is simply too much to ask for many people.
To Ames, on behalf of all men, I am deeply sorry.
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People here "cyberbully" me all the time, and you don't see me killing myself. Might frick up a few of you if I ever met you in person though
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You’d try
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um still waiting for the sirpingsalot and greu s*x tape
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no you wouldnt kitty
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Losing your wife and kids might be worse than porn r*pe too!
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I don't have any kids, moron. It's possible my ex-wife may have had kids before she met me (that she never told me about) - but if so, frick em, they ain't mine. You could throw em in a wood chipper and I wouldn't give a shit, because kids that aren't my biological offspring are worthless to me
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Nobody:
Sirtardalot: I WILL FRICK YOU UP IF I SEE YOU IRL!!
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What the frick did you just fricking say about me, you little b-word? I'll have you know I graduated top of my class in the Navy Seals, and I've been involved in numerous secret raids on Al-Quaeda, and I have over 300 confirmed kills. I am trained in gorilla warfare and I'm the top sniper in the entire US armed forces. You are nothing to me but just another target. I will wipe you the frick out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fricking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fricker. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You're fricking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that's just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your miserable butt off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little "clever" comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fricking tongue. But you couldn't, you didn't, and now you're paying the price, you goddarn idiot. I will shit fury all over you and you will drown in it. You're fricking dead, kiddo.
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I appreciate the effort Sr.Ping, but that particular pasta is getting a bit stale, imo.
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Sorry
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Dont be so hard on yourself buddy. They can't all be bangers.
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Wrong.
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You sat down and wrote all this shit. You could have done so many other things with your life. What happened to your life that made you decide writing novels of bullshit here was the best option?
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Nitpick: it was dictated, not written. Navy SEALs are illiterate.
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There is still time
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Yes there is
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When the time comes, remember, I was always nice to you.
*gets shot anyway*
Has that ploy ever worked? Maybe school shooters get bullied in the first place because they're the type of person who guns down their friends as well as enemies. Yeah no shit you were ostracized; you reciprocate kindness with homicide.
What were we talking about?
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There's something beautiful about Christopher Hitchens dying in 2011 probably having never read an Internet comment on any of his pieces because he just regarded the audience as subhuman and beneath contempt, or notice.
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People continue to seethe at him to this very day.
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If he truly believed that about his audience, why even write for them?
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That's the only good choice she made in life (not an edgy comment). What is she supposed to do? Develop a brain to fix her life at the ripe age of mid 20s something? With her fricking mental illnesses and baggage?
Killing yourself is the only way to end your suffering and to not embarrass yourself further, if you're in her shoes.
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thanks jesus
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Everyone knows death is preferable to embarassment.
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But also
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Everyone with a tramatic childhood An Hero's u right
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You are defined by the worst thing that ever happened to you, so if it was bad enough just die now.
Prolly has more to do with her hatred of therapy and general r-sluration but IDK.
Obviously every man who abused her deserves to face a guillotine twice for what they did.
Once for their little heads, and then another shortly after to finish the job.
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Tbh idek what you're disagreeing over with me or if at all but yeah moids deserve what you said and far worse
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The evil dudes who did evil shit are evil.
The r-slurred foid who did r-slurred shit is r-slurred.
This is the entirety of my opinion on this.
See you on Wednesday when you trim my hedges
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Imagine prioritizing something as alien as pride
Have fun hanging around when you lose social capital
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Pride is a psy-op from God to make you act against your own interests.
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My comment has nothing to do with pride though
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Advocating suicide to avoid humiliation is admitting you’re a b-word to pride.
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Getting cyberbullied by shitlibs for not taking AIDS peepee was just the straw that broke the camel's back. She had much bigger problems clearly.
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What’s your first language
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Wrong
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lmao
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