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Seriously, get a therapist man. You can't even write the word peepee on reddit and overreacting over this. You need to get to the root of why you are so sensitive to anything about your peepee and why this was such a deep betrayal because it's really not. (849)

It was an extremely deep betrayal to me. I did not consent to my wife sharing this with her entire friend group. I have no issues with my wife talking about her s*x life, but not about the fact that I use a sleeve during s*x.I told my wife this, but I'll tell it here too. How would she feel if I told my friends about the stretch marks on her stomach. My wife has worked very hard to lose weight, but she is still extremely insecure about her stretch marks on her stomach. How would she feel if I broadcasted that to my entire friend group? (-164)

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I read your first post and while I'm glad you spoke to your wife, I think you really need to work to reframe how you view this entire incident. This type of reaction is not usual or healthy. Many if not most women talk about s*x with their friends to some extent. A lot of women have trouble reaching orgasm, especially during partnered s*x, plus we experience a lot of other issues that are pretty much female only. It's very normal for women to share tips and ask for advice when it comes to feminine care, including s*x. And I think that's a good thing. Women should be able to talk about female problems with other women, and men should be able to talk about male problems with other men. Women and men should also be able to talk to each other about those problems also, of course, but sometimes you need to talk to someone who has experienced the same issues you have.As long as she is wasn't mocking you or being purposely hurtful, then I think you are overreacting and need to examine why ... (164)

This is my final comment.I did not consent to my wife sharing that I use a sleeve during s*x. How can you not see that is a severe violation of my personal boundaries? I DO NOT HAVE ISSUES WITH MY WIFE DISCUSSING HER S*X LIFE WITH HER FRIENDS. BUT I DO HAVE A MASSIVE ISSUE WITH MY WIFE DECIDING TO SHARE WITH HER ENTIRE FRIEND GROUP THAT I USE A SLEEVE DURING S*X. AND SO WOULD ANY HUSBAND. NO ONE CONSENTS TO THAT INFORMATION BEING BROADCASTED TO EVERYONE.I am tired of no one in the comments seeing my issue. This FOR ME was a severe violation of MY PERSONAL BOUNDARIES.A year ago, when my wife asked me if I could try the sleeve, I had no issues, and was open to it. Yes it did hurt me slightly because she basically told me I was not enough for her, but I wanted to satisfy her to the fullest, and I did. I never expected in a million years that after being vulnerable with her, and trying on something deeply intimate and private, she would then go on and share it with her entire friend gro... (-165)

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You should be aware that trying to punish your wife for this is not going to make things better, only worse. While she did betray trust, she did it in the vein of telling people HOW MUCH SHE LOVES HAVING S*X WITH YOU!Really, this is something that YOU need to work through. This has to do with your own insecurities. She's done what she can to try to amend the situation. Trying to punish her by cancelling your birthday or holding this over her head is going to cause a further rift, this time with you being the cause of that rift. (373)

I am not trying to punish her, I just don't want to spend my birthday with her this year. I am not cancelling my birthday, I am spending it with my sister, someone who has never once in her life betrayed me horribly like my wife did. (-116)

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Holy shit! are you serious? You aren't attracted to her at the moment? You need to work through it? You are talking like she's cheated on you. So what, she complimented your s*x life to friends. You get embarrassed and then threaten divorce, withhold s*x and say that you aren't attracted to her anymore? Cancel birthday plans? What the frick is wrong with you? This is ridiculous. Get over your ego. You are massively overreacting and manipulating her into feeling like a terrible person. Grow up! Frick being married to you lad.YTA. You need therapy. She showed remorse and apologised but your ego is so fricked, you want to continue to punish her and cause problems in your marriage. One day, she will get sick of your manipulative shit and it will be her who leaves you. Maybe even for another man. Get your shit together, forgive, and move on or destroy your own marriage and be left a loner. This is fricking pathetic. Your poor wife. (-6)

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You are so slow 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ He's allowed to get upset but his behavior after the fact was NOT ok nor was it fitting. He was acting like a childish little kid ignoring her and insulting her instead of dealing with the issue so if you want to be a whiny little b-word then go throw your tantrum in the corner and stfu. That goes for him AND you. Just because you're emotional doesn't mean other people have to put up with your ugliness (1)

Oh shut the frick up you worthless pile of shit. You are an absolute waste of space. He can act however the frick he wants after the fricked up shit she pulled. You and the wife can go circle the potty together while acting like little victims yourself. You know darn good and well you are the emotional one because you want her to be right because you've fricked up in the past and want to make it seem like not a big deal by justifying it with this bullshit. You're too fricking stupid to see what was going on here. He should have divorced her right away and you should probably just stay single and die alone. Worthless fricking dipshits like you will have some shit like this happen to you for once and you'll see who really throws the tantrum. You're the one being ugly. (2)

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obviously intimacy needs to be built back up......ok, i mean it's good to acknowledge your feelings and be honest to yourself...in order for you to know that she properly understands how you felt you had to plunge a knife into her chest? here's a hint, there is no conceivable way to phrase that statement to your spouse without fricking eviscerating some part of their psyche. there just isn't.reasonable, you are obviously not in the mood for frivolities......again, reasonable. it's still your birthday and making it a sibling affair is a fairly neutral compromise......jfc dude, stop twisting the knife. you're just lashing out at this point, reveling almost. you are fully committed at this point to hurting her for the sake of hurting her.this situation and outcome is less motivated by your wife betraying confidential information, and has everything to do with how ashamed you are of using that gosh dang peepee sleeve. that's what you need to be discussing in therapy first, your work on th... (902)

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