@Pasty's comment on '“Me when I go to le dentist and le dental hygienist has LE EPIC BOOBIES!!!! Darn b-word grow up” Are people unnecessarily sexualizing women? A meme about female dental hygienists’ boobs roils /r/AdviceAnimals'

https://old.reddit.com/r/AdviceAnimals/comments/1cypz92/the_dentist_was_good_to_me_today/

#The Context:

OOP posts a meme about female dental hygienists putting their boobs on patients' heads to /r/AdviceAnimals. The meme in full reads: “When you get a dental hygienist that doesn't rip up your gums and rests her boobs on your head” with a smiling seal.

The meme sparks debate about wether or not it is needlessly sexualizing women who are just trying to do their job, if it was a thought that needed to be shared at all, and if everyone is just overreacting.

#The Drama:

Someone objects:

>I hope no female dental hygienist comes on this thread only to learn that they're being sexualized while working on TEETH. Christ on the cross y'all.

Darn some of you are so sensitive. When you're older you'll understand

Oh no, a woman might learn she's intrinsically attractive and desirable! How will she ever recover?!

Do you think they don't realize what people are going to do when they push their boobs into other people's heads?

Idek what it means when people say somebody is “sexualizing women,” so he's just being a dude?

Others demand people grow up:

>I think this is a pretty common thought for 13yr old boys still going through puberty. What I'm really trying to say is grow the frick up. I remember having an attractive dentist when I was much younger and having this happen to me, and it did "excite" me at that moment. But now that I'm older when this happens I literally try to make more room for them if possible, because I'm positive that they notice sometimes but can't do anything about it because boobs get in the way sometimes. I've heard my girlfriend curse her own boobs at several different times. Those thoughts just feel disrespectful now, even if not shared.

Lol this is so funny. Men don't just stop enjoying boobs as they age. Also this is reddit. You're allowed to talk about liking boobs here. You don't just stop liking boobs when you turn 19 or however old you are lmfao

I still enjoy boobs... Not sure where you got the idea I don't. I just like being respectful more than blatantly enjoying something that the other person both hasn't consented to and most likely doesn't want to be doing.

Also I'm aware this is reddit and you're allowed to talk about liking boobs. But it's a discussion board and I'm allowed to call people out on their sexism or childish behaviors.

I'm 37 if that helps with you putting more words in my mouth.

So you think talking about boobs is childish. That's very strange.

If you can't figure out what I mean by now then I'm sorry for your struggles, it must be difficult.

Should some things be left unsaid?

>This is a gross thought that should have stayed internal

Lmfao who hurt you

The cringe I felt from this post burst my kidney

it's cringe to call people cringe. second of all, it's actually kind of a self-report that you feel so uncomfortable about people talking about touching boobs. Like, you're the weird one for making it weird, know what I mean?

If you don't get how it's creepy, don't get married or have a daughter.

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I'll chop my balls off before taking advice from reddit about having a family lol but hey, hopefully you had fun posting your comment even if I will ignore it.

Do people need to touch grass?

>Lots of this thread needs to go outside

i know, the amount of people who just casually sexualize their healthcare workers is fricking wild to me. i didn't know it was this bad or this accepted, this comment section feels like a boomer group chat

Finding someone hot ≠ sexualizing

Get a grip on reality

it is sexualising when you fantasise about somebody's breasts while they are simply doing their job

I'm gonna say no. How I see the word, to sexualize is to reduce to only being a sexual object. No one I've seen here yet has thought of anyone in question as nothing but a sexual object. Plenty of people thinking sexually about someone else, of course. But they aren't ceasing thinking of them as people simultaneously.

It really creeps me out that so many people seem to think finding someone attractive is mutually exclusive with seeing them as a human. Makes me wonder what kind of horrors you commit in the bedroom

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You're not fantasizing about them, you're doing the exact opposite. Notice how one of the top comments said he had to start thinking about helldivers loadouts?

Having the initial reaction of “there's boobs touching my head” then swatting it away is entirely normal especially when you consider the people in here are likely on the younger side.

Get. A. Grip.

Sexualising a person isn't an inherently bad thing obviously. This isn't a momentary thought before swatting it away though, this is a post on social media sexualising a stranger.