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EFFORTPOST "MY THERAPIST DISAGREED WITH ME" :pepereeeeee:

https://old.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/1dvd32v/therapist_disagreed_with_me/

Introduction

I was scrolling the dreges of reddit for content, as you do..

:!turtoisebinoculars: :turtoisehungry:

I like looking in the BPD subreddit, usually I can find some of the juiciest drama there

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Now as many of you know, most diagnosed BPD cases are found in women.

That means a lot of posts on /r/BPD deal with relationships, romance and raging hysteria.

:#marseyoperasmug:

Though, sometimes you get a rare gem. A BPD male, or in this case, a self diagnosed BPD male.

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Meet /u/FrankBuns

A twenty something that managed to land one of the most controversial posts in /r/BPD this month.

Quite the accomplishment!

https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925420446262.webp

>So, I don't know how this subreddit feels about self-diagnosis, but that's where I'm at right now.

>Some context, I've been dealing with a lot of deeply rooted emotional upheaval throughout my life; Depression, Anxiety, C-PTSD, you know the gist, all diagnosed professionally.

I'll go over some of that later, FrankBuns has been pretty open on reddit.

>But after I got into a serious relationship (that ended recently) I began to recognize my behaviors and thought patterns as more than just my personality.

>I've had a tendency to be somewhat of a hypochondriac, so I know to take research via Google with a grain of salt, but knowing the symptoms and how BPD presents itself, and the anecdotal experiences of others with diagnoses had really given me a new perspective of things, and when I read these stories

>I can't help but think "I do that too! I never realized until now!"

>But, as my previous therapists in the past have told me, I'm pretty self-aware. And I recognized that self-diagnosis can be beneficial, but I wanted to make sure I wasn't just imagining things

:!slimecurious:

>so I discussed it with my current therapist, and after he went over the questions to see if I fit the bill, he told me that he doesn't think I have it.

>It left me really confused and unsure how to proceed.

>I'm not sure if I should take his word for it, or ask for a second opinion, or just focus on treating the symptoms as symptoms and care less about the diagnosis aspect.

>Does anyone else's opinions and beliefs crumble under suggestions? I believed that it's like a spot on match for my experience, but maybe I'm wrong, and it's just symptoms of my other issues imitating what looks like BPD?

The Controversy

Now surprisingly, despite all the times I've seen otherwise, the denizens of /r/BPD did not pat FrankBuns on the back or butt and say "welcome to the community!!"

Apparently, the communal braincell all redditors fight over was well and alive in this post's comments:

Why worry about the diagnosis. In my experience having a diagnosis doesn't do much for you aside from changing how doctors think about you. Worry about treating the symptoms you're experiencing and improving your quality of life. Diagnosis are just unnecessary labels that can come with stigma and lack of understanding.

FrankBuns: Because I want to get better, and idk, I feel like that would have to be the first step. I think there's a lot of reason in your comment, I'd like to think that even if I don't have BPD (which I still believe that I do) then learning the skills to handle it would be beneficial if not for dealing with my issues, then helping a loved one or friend in the future who might be going through the same stuff.

Then do DBT, anyone can do DBT.

Redditor Sneeding about "the system"

:#marseycapitalistmanlet: :#chudditorseethe:

everything's a racket, it wouldn't exist in a capitalist society if it weren't.

dsm just allows clinicians to standardize care and makes billing easier, it's not any grand insight into human existence. look up some articles about dsm5 and professionals in the field who take exception with the changes from dsm4. It's just academics bickering, whose pet theories get to dominate.

Yes, I'm bitter. Grants Pass decision was a direct indictment of the failure of American care, we had 40 years of funding to provide treatment and people don't feel like we were effective now and now we aren't focusing on treatment anymore. This whole field dropped the ball and vulnerable people will suffer. Frick the dsm.

You'd be better off reading the bhagavad gita or dostoyevsky than the dsm if you're trying to heal.

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Right about now, you may be asking:

"wait a sec, Lilmarsey, how do you know that this is actually a moid posting this and not an FtM?"

:confusedtalking:

I'm so glad you asked, now you'll have to see it, too:

https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925422245045.webp

I will not be posting the other two pictures, you can go to r/dadsandboys and look at that yourself.

https://old.reddit.com/r/DadsAndBoys/comments/1d7jz07/roll_around_on_the_bed_with_me_daddy_24_boy/

:vomit:

His whole butthole was out

:bigeyes:

It makes sense that he'd have some of these traits, given that this is a

✨ homosexual ✨

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https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925428609717.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925427001123.webp

:marseysquint:

Hmm...funny you should say that.

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mental illness comes with friends

:#dj:

https://i.rdrama.net/images/172049254299706.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/1720492543153183.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925433279452.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925435162883.webp https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925437185423.webp

FrankBuns has also posted about shrooms and has expressed interest in DMT.

He was also a chronic masturbator.

https://old.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/10pvv17/oops/

FrankBuns also has a track record of being a bit of a hypochondriac.

Making posts like "what is this dark spot on my foot", and "why does my foot have orange spots"

https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925441708834.webp

https://i.imgur.com/gallery/r-askdocs-QPuy48p

He's also a very active furry, and stupid enough to facedoxx.

https://i.rdrama.net/images/172049254393038.webp

https://i.rdrama.net/images/1720492544472329.webp

I'm sure you may also be wondering

"Wow! I wonder the relationship FrankBuns ominously mentioned went?"

I'm so glad you asked:

The "break"

As we all know, either party asking for a time out in a relationship usually bodes badly for relationship stability.

https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204925425893722.webp

"Wow, that didn't last long, did it?"

:tradwifeshrugtalking:

>Me and my boyfriend met at our work, and he ended up asking me out on a date after we finished one day.

>We have been dating for around 6 months now

>It's your typical "One cares too much, one cares too little." Situation.

>We've both gotten a break from work, and instead of making plans together, he applied to a part-time job, took a summer volunteer position

>We both were upset and questioned the compatibility of our relationship, and I suggested we take a break

>but I'm willing to put in the work

>Tl;dr Boyfriend closes up when things get hard, I latch on, we're having trouble finding a balance.

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TLDR: typical redditor that I spent way too much time writing about

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Why the frick would anyone want a BPD diagnosis? A good chunk of mental health folks wont even treat BPDpocs because they're such a pain in the butt. People literally call it Bad Person Disorder.

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Most likely: Some homo he fricked saw him acting dramatic and said he's BPD in passing and then a month later he took a break from self loathing grindr sessions to self reflect

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Then he ended up on some foid forum

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A twink I used to be friends with once phoned me in an existential meltdown because his boyfriend was away for the day and he had sat down on a bench and started thinking about the meaning of life and it blew his mind. I think this was like the first time he had been alone with his thoughts or something.


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I love my homo friends (I just can't frick them) but genuinely gays are some of the stupidest people I've ever met on average. There's smart strags but I'd say 90% of bottoming gays especially are stupid as heck

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semi-nerdy masc4masc switch types are gigabrained which brings up the average

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There's smart strags but I'd say 90% of bottoming gays especially are stupid as heck

What about tops? How big is the behavioural difference?

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Gigantic. Shockingly I'd say himbos are on average smarter than twinks. The former acts stupid but can be smart the latter exists to be a hole or a bussy wielding tradwife

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This matches what I've seen as well. Gay men are my absolute favorite when they're self-aware humans but holy mother of god twinks are either great or need to be lined up next to a ditch, no middle ground. I feel like this says something deep about dealing with classical men, given the ABSOLUTE STATE of straight women, but I can't quite verbalize it.

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This is reminding how absolutely fricking incredibly varied the human experience is, because I can't even imagine being that lil neighbor. Sonder or whatever, some of those big feels, as the frog lads say.

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BPD sounds a lot like autism

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BPD is just female traits cranked up to 11

Autism is just male traits cranked to 11

So yes

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its the girl version of autism

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Nah, it's the girl version of anti social personality disorder.

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Where is that gif from :turtoisebinoculars:

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:#marseyhesfluffyyouknow:

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it's worth a lot of progressive stack points and you can blame all of your antisocial behavior on it

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To get certain treatments you need the right diagnosis. But I'd bet it's to fulfill a lack of identity

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Lol. If only the treatments worked.

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Because then it's not their fault, it's because they're ✨mentally ill✨ and not accountable for their behaviour

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Bingo. They can be as shitty a person as they want to, so long as they "have" BPD, C-PTSD, ADHD, OCD, autism, etc.

In fact most of them are just lazy narcissists, with no intention to ever work on developing self control.

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Curious how so many of these mental disorders that seem to have exploded in frequency can all be boiled down to "lazy immature butthole disorder"

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If you have a bad diagnosis that makes it MORE important to figure out, right?

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BPD people just want the opposite of whatever the person is saying . If the therapist agreed with the diagnosis we'd see a post about how much of a judgmental narcissist the therapist is.

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>Why does a bad person want something bad

:#marseythonk:

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The attention it brings. Since they are just straight up bad people :turtoiseclown:

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Attention (the esteem of one's peers and placement in the social web) is a need for everyone.

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Not if you monkmaxx :marseymonk:

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No one online who claims to be doing this is doing it, they are all doing it in a sad bid for the esteem of their peers and placement in the social web

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When I read his few lines I already thought he was a strag XD

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dam :marseybeaver: that twink b-word ugly. also how old are you that you use a high contrast font

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Mayo :marseymayo:

5'7" :marseymanlet:

Furry :marseyfurry:

Scrote :marseymalding:

:mar#seyitneverbegan:

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Wdym? I'm 23, does my font contrast that hard?

:marseyblind:

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the denizens of /r/BPD did not pay FrankBuns on the back

Pat*

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:awkward:

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:#marseyupvote2:

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All BPDemons need to kill themselves, unironically.

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is also a very active furry

I still don't understand why there aren't more mental health tents at Pride events.

They need professional help.

I'm honestly starting to think they should reclassify homosexuality as a mental disorder.

Even as a bussy blaster myself.

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dsm just allows clinicians to standardize care and makes billing easier, it's not any grand insight into human existence. look up some articles about dsm5 and professionals in the field who take exception with the changes from dsm4. It's just academics bickering, whose pet theories get to dominate.

In fairness at least two practicing psychiatrists have also basically told me this

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Yeah that's the accepted criticism of the dsm since saying "psychiatry is made up and there's no evidence for 90% of their disorders being an actual disease" is considered problematic.

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>having conversations with soyciatrists

i hope it was while you were making them dig their own graves

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Like any reasonable person, it was after an experiment with weird Internet drugs ended with me being literally tied to a stretcher

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:marseypikachu2:

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Depression, Anxiety, C-PTSD

:marseywould: :marseywould: :marseywould: :marseywould: :marseywould: :marseywould: :marseywould: :marseywould: :marseywould: :marseywould:

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It's a dude. :mariogoatse:

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>self aware enough to recognise her perception of reality is skewed

>seeks help for it from an objective third party

>third party disagrees with you, this means they must be wrong :clueless:

:mars#eystalker:

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:marseynew:

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:marse#ypogostick:

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BPD campy strag has BPD and post bussy on Reddit

Least disgusting effeminate man

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It is a well shaped butt :taythumbsup:

In little boy's underwear on a sub called /r/dadsandboys

:#marseypuke:

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Men can't have BPD lol. It's exclusive to hot women.

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I was gonna say.

But then again the bussy ain't bad tbh.

Might be a subtle trick of the pic or arch but itty bitty waist with moderate well shaped cake.

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An autism influencer in twitter that sells " 'tism " T shirts had a psychologist conclude they had NPD and they freaked out about discrimination agaist real neurodivergent people (such as themselves) but idk have the links or remember where I saw that :marseyhmm:

:marseyxd: EDIT :!marseyxd: :

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https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204955048597748.webp

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credit: https://kiwifarms.st/threads/neurodivergent-culture-movement-neurodiversity.10779/page-50

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every woman who claims to have autism is like this

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There was that freak woman who lived in a hidden cave on someone else's property and constantly masturbated, mostly to a hot r-slur who was s*x trafficked

She said she was neurodivergent and I believe her

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My my my....

She's a classic textbook psychopathic narcissist

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"After I told him about my 11 years of narcissistic abuse"

Absolutely enormous :marseyredflag: for narcissism

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:marseyw#ould:

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He sounds pretty based. He's just like "no you're bragging like a giant strag. you're not neurodivergent you're just an butthole."

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:#psychojak: https://i.rdrama.net/images/17204973380582385.webp

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:marseythonk#:

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It's infuriating to see that adderall going to waste on someone who doesn't deserve it.

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Imagine the dirty apartments being wasted on this bozo

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:#marseypillpopper:

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:marseynew:

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@McCoxmaul has been busy since returning

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You can also tell he's male because he's a hypochondriac instead of a full blown case of factitious disorder

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Needs the BPD diagnose to hide behind/excuse his behaviors

It'd be like giving a school shooter diplomatic immunity

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Absolutely hilarious?

:marseygiggle:

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For anyone except those in close proximity

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I'd like to imagine he grows out of his troubles someday and puts the furry :marseyvore3: and mentally :marseyloopy: ill (what's the difference) stuff behind :marseynotes2: him. Considering he's gay and from the looks of it British, I doubt :marseysquint: it

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furries never grow out of it because the longer you're in it the harder it is to escape the affirming community of freaks and talk to normal people. anyone who's furry for more than six months is furry for life

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>furry :marseyvore3:

Slander, not all vorestrags are furstrags

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Die in a fire furstrag

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:marseyindignant: not a furstrag I just don't think the emoji is very accurate

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Possible had he not joined Reddit to reinforce his delusions

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Redditors don't grow up, they just grow delusional

:#slimeshrug:

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It's sad how true that is. It kind of freaks me out that so many people are on Reddit. I hope most people in the world :marseyww1russian1: aren't really :marseythinkorino2: as depressing :marseydoomer: as the Redditor :marseyleftoidschizo: is.

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I don't think so, the world is so much more than degens and failures

:marseycheerup:

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I've had a tendency to be somewhat of a hypochondriac, so I know to take research via Google with a grain of salt, but

In my 20s this is how I always used to start my thought processes before convincing myself I have some medical shit because I'm super smart :marseycool:

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Take it with a grain of salt? And give myself high blood pressure?!?

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>i know you cant trust this shit BUT im gonna trust this shit and you should too

:marseymanysuchc#ases:

Whats that saying, everything before the but is worthless?

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