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Most Caring Foid :marseyindignantwoman: Emotionallly Ruins her Neurodivergent Husband and wonders why He Doesn't Love Her Anymore

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/1grm2yi/i27f_screamed_at_my_husband_28m_over_his_hobbies/

I(27F) screamed at my husband (28M) over his hobbies, and now he's changed and i don't know how to fix this.

Hey everyone, I need some advice about a situation with my husband. I'm 27F, he's 28M, and we've been married for 4 years. He has a room where he keeps all his hobbiesโ€”sim racing, aviation setups, soccer analysis cowtools, LEGO sets, music production equipmentโ€ฆ basically, it's his sanctuary. He's super analytical and loves writing down and dissecting things, from sports to politics. He's slightly on the spectrum and very introverted, so he doesn't have close friends. I'm really the only person he shares everything with.

He's always inviting me into his space to be part of his interests. I love him and appreciate that he wants to include me, but sometimes I just need some time for myself. Recently, I snapped. I yelled at him, saying some hurtful things that I didn't mean, like how his interests bore me, that he needs to get a social life, and even questioned why I married him. I regret every word, but my anger got the best of me, and I couldn't control it in that moment.

Since then, he's completely changed. He stopped spending time in his room, moved to sleeping on the couch, and barely talks to me. He even ignored our usual tradition of watching our home nation's soccer team play, something he'd never skip before. Instead, he was working on his laptop, breaking our "no work at home" rule. When I asked him about it, he said he didn't care about the game and mentioned that maybe he should be more like his father, who's a workaholic and whom my husband idolizes. He even added, "I don't blame him for divorcing at that age now."

I've apologized multiple times, but he just says, "It's okay, maybe you're right," and shuts down any attempts I make to talk about his interests. I'm terrified he's considering divorce. I know I messed up, but I don't know how to rebuild trust and help him feel valued and loved again. I don't want to lose him, but I'm unsure how to approach this and make amends. Any advice?

TL;DR: I criticized my husband's hobbies, and now he's pulling away. I've apologized, but I'm worried he might be considering divorceโ€”how do I make things right?

She has likely ruined this man's life and made his social anxiety even worse lol.

She basically confirmed the worst fears of every neurodivergent person straight to his face and he'll likely hyper fixate on what she said for years, while the things which gave him joy remind him of how much the world hates him.

Luckily most of the comments are btfoing OP.

How it feels reading women's posts on reddit:

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>Yells at husband of 4 years that everything he enjoys is shit, and that he has no friends.

>Questions to his face why she even married him in the first place.

>"TL;DR: I criticized my husband's hobbies"

Most sympathetic wife. :marseywomanmoment:

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if you side with the husband in any way here you are a fricking sad incel.

a grown fricking man playing with lego in his manchild room, with no focus on his social life, is a fricking waste of life.

in b4 "lmao nothing wrong with just ENJOYING LIIFEE DUDE :marseyrasta: " frick off

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True but as far as we can tell she didn't nudge him to grow up and the "criticized his hobby" part isn't actually the focus here, it's questioning why she married him. If you drop this on someone after >4 years of being together of course they are going to lose it

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maybe he should put down the children's toys :marseyshrug: everyone has a breaking point

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Sim racing is not for children :!marseyindignant:

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Dude no one wants to be friends with Johnny Von Autismo, it seems like he's good with money and keeps a roof over their heads so as long as he's doing that AND trying to involve his wife in his interests I see no problem with it. :marseyshrug:

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AND trying to involve his wife in his interests

holy shit he builds lego house

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Better than what she does (presumably doomscrolling on twitter and buying useless shit she sees in tiktok videos)

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oh noes, le adulting is cringe xD

doing actual productive work for society is better. This is literally the "weak men create hard times" meme

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>le adulting is cringe xD

>Xitter posting

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what

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You know what you said :!marseyindignant:

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this is a more miserable person than the hateful wife in the story :marseydisagree:

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you joined rdrama just a few months ago, knowing the state of this site

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no there's a lot of people here, but your posts are transparently joyless :marseyjoy:

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He's like Norwegian or something. They are all miserable because they get no sun half of the year

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kill all scandos

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"if you dont live a pathetic life full of hate for other people, and unironically live to make the world a better place, you are literally joyless".

find God, live well

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Nah, this is a sexy Indian dude on his 50th alt

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What's the state of the site? :marseyexcited:

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When are u posting trussy?

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Dude has a wife and a presumedly well off job (Legos are expensive as frick dude). Probably more well put together then the most of us :marseyshrug:

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https://i.rdrama.net/images/17317679965618024.webp

Using your big boy coins for lego is more soyfilled than ever owning big boy coins in the fist place

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you gotta remember that these are all fat and ugly people

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We should invite him here :marseyembrace:

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You know what they say about crabs in a bucket :marseythumbsup:

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Only the strongest crab will survive and will be especially delicious because he survived on a diet of other crabs :marseylickinglips:

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This comment erases any doubt I've ever had that you're asian

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They are fricking based?

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:#!marseylaugh: :space#: :#lowqualitybait:

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The nice thing about being an adult is you don't have to do all the pointless socialising that no one really likes that everyone feels compelled to do as a teenager. I mean women still have obligatory awkward more-work-than-fun get togethers but men can just say frick that shit I'm doing something interesting with my time.

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You gotta give some indication of self awareness buddy. Look where you are, frick's sake.

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who gives a shit? this is a nice online discussion forum, not a fricking hobby

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are u legit r-slurred rofl

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But you're an incel? :marseysad:

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i'm not, i despise women hatred

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But you are one :marseysad:

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im not i like women and believe in equal rights for all, also all races

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!biofoids !verifiedbrowns is this true? :marseyshook:

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yeah

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Really? :marseygasp:

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And do you have a wife Bib?

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I am a man that loves legos!

:#marseysulk:

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:scott:

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I don't get it :marseysad:

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I still don't get it :marseysad:

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https://i.rdrama.net/images/17317813812754207.webp

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Rude! :marseymad:

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I'll do it again!

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If you still don't get it you're either gay, an incel, or allah forgive me; a woman.

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Wouldn't an incel also get this though? :marseyconfused:

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I get that :marseyannoyed:

But why :scott:? :marseysad:

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I get that :marseyannoyed:

But why :scott:? :marseysad:

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