https://old.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1hh8mar/aio_my_boyfriend_added_a_young_female_bartender/

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Wait? You've "moved on" from him cheating on you? You seem like you are walking on eggshells. You deserve better. (972)

Moved on as in I'm not letting that situation affect entirely how I feel on this situation. I know me being upset by this isn't me being insecure. (-597)

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"My boyfriend also has a history of drunkenly cheating on me"Ma'am… (6401)

I was legit about to comment the same thing, ha (126)

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Let's call this what it is You are not really worried about her age being 21. You're worried that he's doing the exact same thing he did with you, this time with someone younger than you and I think that's the biggest issue - that she's younger than YOU, because it's like something "new and shiny" came along that's about to take your place. She's 21, if you have been in this field for that long then you should know it's not uncommon in the restaurant/bar industry to have a lot of older male "friends" that are regulars because it helps with tips and building a clientele. The concern is not him befriending a young girl, it's that he's not trustworthy and he's proven that to you many times according to your post. You'd likely feel this way if she was also 29. Believe people when they show you who they really are. (79)

It's not the issue at all. It's that a grown butt man shouldn't be adding that young of girls on social media. (-67)

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The age thing didn't really matter to me. She's an adult, he's an adult. Sexually attractive people don't just stop being attractive as you age, but emotionally they do become less appealing. Big difference between a 40 year old and 21 year old. It would drive me insane and I'm 29 if I dated a 21 year old. The maturity level just doesn't match.Then I was gonna say how you did become overly aggressive toward a seemingly small situation. If social media is this big of an insecurity, then I just don't think it's worth a relationship one way or another. I had an ex who had me delete every single woman off my Facebook, including my cousins. It was insane behavior.And then you casually mention he cheated on you, and you give the excuse that he was drunk…what are we doin' OP? Clearly there's no trust left and there's clear resentment and worry. Plus he showed he's cheated before. So that reinforces your worry about his interaction with this bartender.I'm just one of over a thousand people ... (1)

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Moved on as in I'm not letting that situation affect entirely how I feel on this situation. I know me being upset by this isn't me being insecure. (-597)

People are being kind of mean, but you're being insecure just by being with a guy like this. This is sad. Why stay with a guy who's cheated on you it seems like multiple times, while you're also questioning his morality now since he's becoming friendly with someone who's relatively a child to him. You're showing you don't respect yourself, or at the very least that's what it shows to everyone else. If anyone knows you were cheated on, they're all feeling sorry for you in their head and wondering why you stay. There's this girl I work with who's boyfriend is similar, everyone talks about her behind her back. She's stayed with him for years, constantly demeaning herself and becoming more and more bitter and anxious. She's angry at everything, desperate for attention, and constantly depressed over the fact that she has continually settled for a piece of trash who doesn't deserve anything she gives him. It's so not worth all this time and effort. It's not worth the stress. It's not wort... (12)

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OP I can tell you've really invested so much in to this. Enough to make a post about it and all your reasoning behind your feelings. But cut this loser. He's a manipulative narcissistic pig. Cut this dude, tell your bar he's not welcome, and move on. It will be hard and he'll try to guilt trip you and send his flying monkeys your way but cut his butt and move on. (1)