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[๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜] AITAH For refusing to carry my GFs luggage that she over packed with unnecessary things?

https://old.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/comments/1htizdk/aitah_for_refusing_to_carry_my_gfs_luggage_that/

								

								

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Basedness: ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜

So many white knights in here perpetuating princess behaviour.Reason already flew out the door when she decided to pack irresponsibly, and now some people are saying she shouldn't be held accountable for her actions and the man has to pick up after her because she's sulking.Giving in is how you make the rest of your life with her miserable FOR YOU. (56)

Exactly, on the part of OP:Shut up and stop being a petulant child. (-25)

Basedness: ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜

Oh look, another one.A gentleman would help a lady carry her bags.She'd have to be a lady to deserve it. (22)

If you think "saying 'partners should help each other'" is white-knighting and "getting a 'win' over your wife/girlfriend because reddit thinks it's cool" is the correct approach, you deserve all of the unhappiness which ever comes your way. (-11)

Basedness: ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜๐Ÿ”˜

No.You told her not to overpack, and she ignored you. And because her suitcase is heavy, it suddenly becomes your problem.Naturally, her solution is to sulk like a petulant child.Women demand equality until it's inconvenient for them. (48)

Some* women. Not all of us! (-17)

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Angriness: ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก

I'm sorry for your pain, but anger doesn't seem like the right response. In the end, in this equation, the common denominator seems to be you. Maybe change your attitude, so people are comfortable around you. You scare the shit out of me and I don't even know what you are like in person. I wouldn't want to know. (2)

Exactly he scared me too. He seems to have an extreme hate against women. And his reasoning is that women hate him or use him or won't choose him. Hmm I wonder why they won't choose him?I'm single too. I can admit I have my own faults. I haven't found the right person yet and I'm 28. But I've learned from every relationship & I've never taken my hurt out on 50% of the population simply because they share the same chromosomes as someone who hurt me. He is very, very angry and that level of anger is terrifying. He reminds me of this guy I went on a date with who was really pressuring me into s*x and getting incredibly angry with me that I wouldn't and started calling me absolutley vile shit. Like just so incredibly full of anger towards women not giving them what they want. (2)

Angriness: ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก

Just this week a post from askwomenover40 showed up on my feed.The woman was asking why a man she dated 20yrs ago would contact her. She said she checked his fb account and he was recently divorced. The lovely ladies of Reddit, in their infinite wisdom, said it's because he wants to frick her. I didn't read all the comments but the top rated comments said just that. Me, being a man over forty, having real, actual insight as to what a man over 40 might think commented. My comment was basically this, "I don't know the circumstances of your break up 20yrs ago, but it's possible he liked you then and figures he might like you now. Now that he's single he might be interested in a relationship with you. Or, he might want to frick you. There is only one way to find out."My comment was removed and I was banned. I received a message from the mods that it was a women only sub and "males"(that's right "males") are not allowed to participate. I had no idea that was a thing. Women constantly comme... (1)

That's pretty shitty. I'm not in that sub. I actually don't know why this one showed up on my feed, but I was initially enjoying the fact that everyone was nice, for the most part, and gave me hope that the awful hatefulness on both sides over the past several months was possibly easing off. The problem is that on both sides, the hateful, angry people are the loudest. So, people automatically expect the worst and assume disrespect or whatever from every statement. Then you get folks using these sweeping generalizations about "all women" or "all men," which just make people even more defensive, and the spiral continues. The thing about that is that it only punishes the angry person because they just have all this angst building up and nothing to do with it besides throw it at other people. That makes them less personable and more likely to encounter people calling them names, further perpetuating the spiral. I'm purposely using spiral rather than cycle because it's bringing us as h... (0)

Angriness: ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก

YTA. I'm not huge on gender roles, but the one thing you do as a man is carry heavy shit. Y also TA for trying to tell her how to pack. This is her vacation too. It's insane to ruin your vacation over this, and of all the things to concern yourself over in a relationship, this is not it.I've seen a lot of bad advice in this sub, and all the people in here saying NTA might be the worst advice I've seen yet. Carrying heavy shit is the easiest brownie points you can get in a relationship. Just do it. (7)

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That was worse than I thought it would be. They even singled out a certain user.

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https://old.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/comments/1htizdk/aitah_for_refusing_to_carry_my_gfs_luggage_that/:

Exactly, on the part of OP:Shut up and stop being a petulant child.:

If you think "saying 'partners should help each other'" is white-knighting and "getting a 'win' over your wife/girlfriend because reddit thinks it's cool" is the correct approach, you deserve all of the unhappiness which ever comes your way.:

Some* women. Not all of us!:

Exactly he scared me too. He seems to have an extreme hate against women. And his reasoning is that women hate him or use him or won't choose him. Hmm I wonder why they won't choose him?I'm single too. I can admit I have my own faults. I haven't found the right person yet and I'm 28. But I've learned from every relationship & I've never taken my hurt out on 50% of the population simply because they share the same chromosomes as someone who hurt me. He is very, very angry and that level of anger is terrifying. He reminds me of this guy I went on a date with who was really pressuring me into s*x and getting incredibly angry with me that I wouldn't and started calling me absolutley vile shit. Like just so incredibly full of anger towards women not giving them what they want.:

That's pretty shitty. I'm not in that sub. I actually don't know why this one showed up on my feed, but I was initially enjoying the fact that everyone was nice, for the most part, and gave me hope that the awful hatefulness on both sides over the past several months was possibly easing off. The problem is that on both sides, the hateful, angry people are the loudest. So, people automatically expect the worst and assume disrespect or whatever from every statement. Then you get folks using these sweeping generalizations about "all women" or "all men," which just make people even more defensive, and the spiral continues. The thing about that is that it only punishes the angry person because they just have all this angst building up and nothing to do with it besides throw it at other people. That makes them less personable and more likely to encounter people calling them names, further perpetuating the spiral. I'm purposely using spiral rather than cycle because it's bringing us as h...:

YTA. I'm not huge on gender roles, but the one thing you do as a man is carry heavy shit. Y also TA for trying to tell her how to pack. This is her vacation too. It's insane to ruin your vacation over this, and of all the things to concern yourself over in a relationship, this is not it.I've seen a lot of bad advice in this sub, and all the people in here saying NTA might be the worst advice I've seen yet. Carrying heavy shit is the easiest brownie points you can get in a relationship. Just do it.:

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