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After reading all of that I just came to the conclusion that I don't like either of you. (1830)

Thanks for taking the time to read through. That's a fair assessment. (-40)

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Why are you talking to your girlfriend like this its so strange and condescending. She's being immature but she is right that you two just aren't compatible (259)

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I tried to clearly articulate my boundaries over text. I wanted to show if I had treated her the way she had treated me in a previous disagreement, she would think me to be a wildly inconsiderate and demeaning. (-77)

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You come off as very possessive and the way you kept referring to her as "your woman" grossed me out even as a guy. I'd be leaving pretty promptly, this seems exhausting over a Facebook status (which she says you don't even use often anyway) (518)

Thanks for taking the time to read through and responding. I had responded to another similar comment up here, let me see if I can find it …Here it is "I could have worded that differently. I'm my thoughts it's that in a committed relationship her as my woman and me as her man that we honor requests big or small because feelings we have are both valid and important. Definitely did not come off this way" (-91)

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She is two of those three things. I haven't heard of that. Looking now. Thank you for replying! (2)

it can be many different things like avoiding daily care tasks, but it can also be getting mad when someone reminds you of something they asked ofyou, it can be when someone is mad you told them to do something in the first placebecause she was so upset & hyper-focused on the part where you told her to do something multiple times, especially with her dish washing example, it reminded me of myself & i have pda so she is arguing that she doesn't want to be told what to do & she sees you as an butt for telling her & telling her without giving her time & space to do it on her own and you're getting upset that she didn't already do this things & you see it as disrespectful on her end to not care about your needs as much as you doso you have her thinking you're an butt, and you then getting upset & insulting her character & telling her she would be a bad mother, basically you told her to give up on her life dreams because you don't think she is right for it: that's being an butt. then she ne... (6)

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If it doesn't matter then why not just do it to make your partner happy? (18)

Exactly. This. If it didn't matter, then the person would change it. And comparing this to a couple that is married for a decade who decided maybe jointly to keep their lives private is not an apples to apples comparison. This woman didn't want to change her status for one reason: what she looks like to outside world is actually more important to her than her bf's feelings. She keeps saying the opposite, and bringing up all sorts of bullshit replies. It's ridiculous. Every time in my life a woman has said she wants to keep our relationship private, there's a reason that is not good. Consider that in the time it took to text all that bullshit, she could've gone to her profile and changed her status 100 times, FFS. She clearly doesn't want to do it, and she is lying about why bc she wanted to have her cake and eat it too. OP's mistake, which in my past also was a mistake, was trying to argue or convince the person to change what they are doing. To find out who people are, watch what t... (7)

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I mean… I think it was a weird thing for you to decide was a hill to die on. I personally am cautious about posting a lot of anything on fb… I have a toxic ex and friend that would stalk my FB and cause drama over anything I updated on Facebook. Maybe she has nosy family that she doesn't want getting up in her business about a new relationship status. Or maybe she just likes to keep things private. Whatever the reason, I 100% agree the communication thing is more important than a fb status- there is just a lot of justified reasons someone might be hesitant to do that that have nothing to do with the relationship itself. And if you have only been together a short time those reasons may be something she is not yet comfortable disclosing. I think you tried to compare apples to oranges with the communication and "honoring" wishes. It just seems very trivial. (437)

My now wife was like that when we started dating for a couple of months. But that was because I met her when I was with my ex. My wife is the owner of the boarding barn that my ex and I went to board our horses with. My ex was kind of a nut job and cheating like crazy again when we started boarding there, and the relationship was in turmoil, so I broke up with her. Then I started working on the horse trailer that I had at the barn owners property to get it moved off of her land. And me and her would hang out platonically as friends, and we eventually got together. So she was hesitant on changing her fb status as it kind of looked bad to be screwing around with the barn owner after me and the ex broke up a few months prior. But my ex kept trying to prod and message or call me real late at night, and my wife said screw it and just changed her relationship status and just kept ignoring the ex and she eventually went away. But idk why she was so tore up that I was dating someone else wh... (7)