r/drama made it to Ashley Jones's Monthly Column

previous thread: https://rdrama.net/h/slackernews/post/330633/i-found-a-website-uglier-than

In this column, I will discuss the following topics:

-My obsession with dates/years and which decades I love

-Do I enjoy plane crashes?

-Product Review: Hidden Valley Ranch Dress Packets

-Advertisement

-A walk down memory lane: the bloody picture

-I am making websites for those who are convicted s*x offenders

-Recipe of the Month: Blueberry Muffins

-Valentine's Day Gift Ideas

-People want to befriend me? An unexpected invintation -- rdrama.net

-Personals

-Babe of the Month

-Opinions on VHS, CD, DVD, tapes, vinyls, etc.

-Reading a Reader's Palm

One day I checked my email and I received three separate emails (along with a few voicemails) from people very enthusiastically inviting me to "rdrama.net". Usually my email inbox is very slow, so to have multiple people emailing me over the course of one day was exciting. The emails I received told me that people were discussing my website on rdrama.net, and I was provided a link to this thread.

Link: https://rdrama.net/h/slackernews/post/330633/i-found-a-website-uglier-than

In this thread, people seemed bewildered by my opinions and blunt honesty, but they were unexpectedly welcoming and encouraging despite this (or probably because of this). I always have a hard time thinking about how others perceive me, since I will admit, I am fairly strange compared to the average person. I lose sight of this since I am me and I am living this strangeness 24/7, so what is completely normal to me is completely unique and new to other people. Sometimes I will say really stupid things to other people in public because I am slightly nervous when talking to people in person, so I have a harder time pacing my thoughts. This means that I sometimes lose sight of "normal" speak and my own internal words/phrases I made up. Once I gifted an acquaintance cookies. She thanked me and said the cookies were good. I got nervous, giggled, and said, "That's great, I hope they give you good mouth pleasure." The term "mouth pleasure" is one I made up to imply something is tasty, but out of context, it sounds completely sexual. After I said that, I felt my face turn red. Another time, I was talking to an acquaintance about delicious food I had just eaten and I casually said, "I one throated that food". The term "one throat" implies you ate something so quickly in one go, "one throat". But after saying it, I immediately realized that term was something I say to myself internally, not externally. It also sounds very similar to "deep throat", so I was embarrassed after I accidentally said that. (I originally heard this term on Impractical Jokers and it resonated with me.) All of this to say, my eccentricities sometimes make me seem more fascinating compared to other people, because other people are very similar to one another and thus, they do not stand out.

Also, someone in the rdrama.net thread was wondering if I was a . Is it because I use Arch? What about me emanates mentally ill man who shaves his taint? I took great offense to this, because what biological male has a cute face and is 4' 11"? That would be the absolute jackpot, and if I were a that had hit such a jackpot, I would definitely have capitalized on that. But instead, here I am writing this and making websites for s*x offenders, sans girldick. Plus, all s sound the same. They sound like a deranged Mickey Mouse, and my voice sounds nothing like that. I have a very authentic, biological, female voice. Perhaps you haven't spent enough time watching s to know this. I implore you to spend a few minutes educating yourself. Go to https://www.tgtube.com/

Here's an example of me talking versus how a sounds when he tries to sound like a girl. I've perfectly replicated how these mental basket cases talk via the power of Kdenlive.

Now you can spot a without even setting an eye on one. You're welcome for the masterclass in how to spot for blind people.

Overall, I was amused by this encounter because it was a glimpse into how people react when they visit my website and read my opinions. Usually I am completely blind to people's perceptions on these things, since there isn't a comment section on my HTML pages. It was also nice to see a website with a solid and active userbase that is completely separate from the usual r-slurred back-doored NSA Telegram chat, Groomercord group, or other NSA controlled "social media" website. I'm pretty sure rdrama.net uses Lemmy, which is open source (and federated) software that mirrors the Reddit look. If you are opposed to using reddit because you do not wish to start estrogen pills, then using a Lemmy instance would be a better solution for you.

In my case, while I appreciate the kind reception and invitations to rdrama.net, I am not a fan of the Reddit style/form of communication, nor do I tend to use websites that require accounts (withe exception of e-mail and my Peertube).

A lot of the time I prefer to post opinions and share ideas/responses anonymously, as this serves a few primary benefits:

1. No one will agree/disagree with my opinion simply because I said it. When I post an idea anonymously, I can get honest feedback that is not tainted by someone's opinion of me.

2. I generally do not use any website with a profile system. I don't like cliques that tend to come with profile-based websites. For example, on forums you will have cliques, a reputation, a post number history attached to your profile which seemingly dictates your worth. There are too many factors a profile adds that taint a discussion; as now the person is more important than the discussion at hand.

3. I can post something I do not actually mean without someone having the ability to confirm if I actually believe that thing due to my post history. Anonymity gives you freedom to be a completely different person. This allows anonymous posting to be much more fun due to its chaotic nature.

It's important to note that a website page is different from a discussion. While I operate a website where I write my thoughts/opinions, in a setting of discussion, I vastly prefer for ideas to hold value over who said the idea. When identities get involved in a discussion, the ideas can be tainted simply by the identity saying them. Whereas if the discussion was held anonymously, the thoughts and ideas are judged on their own merit alone.

I understand this is unconventional thinking for most people and that I am in a great minority. I personally prefer to operate like this, but I understand why most people do not have issues with profiles and discussions tied to an identity. While I personally do not make accounts on social websites due to my own personal beliefs, I think there is a good chance some of my readers may like this website. I think it's important to spend leisurely internet time on websites that are separate from globohomo ones. I encourage you to at least look at this website out of curiosity, and perhaps join if it's something you like. By having more users interact on such websites, it gives those who were once reluctant to use. Only a few years ago (around 2017) many open source federated websites were dead due to low adoptability since people did not want to use websites with a low userbase. Thanks to those who choose to use them regardless, it has given them more value, and thus, those who will only join is there is a sufficient userbase will now be more willing to utilize these better websites.

I encourage everyone to go and check out the rest of the column!