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Lonelygirl15 28d ago (text post) 664 thread views #339980 earned 112 coins from votes

27yo femcel here

Graduated last year and have a useless degree now. I'm technically doing my masters but I'm thinking of dropping out (haven't told my parents yet). Still live with my parents. Never had a real bf. Don't really have any friend. Is it over?

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JimieWhales she/bitch An educated, strictly organic, ortho molecular aware patriotic princess. 28d ago #7747113

Welcome! :@rosa25love:

No, it's not over! What is your degree in, and what are you doing a masters in? Are you paying for the masters? Did you used to have friends, and they drifted away, or have you always struggled socially?

Why are you a femcel? Are you an uggo, or just super weird and antisocial? It matters because you'll need to do different things to fix yourself depending on how you're broken.

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Lonelygirl15 JimieWhales 28d ago #7747205

My degree is in political science but i don't want to do anything with it. I'm trying a masters statistics lol but it's too difficult so I'm thinking of quitting. Yes I'm paying for my masters (it's not that expensive luckily). Yes I used to have friends but like you said they all drifted away.

I don't think I'm too ugly to get a bf but it's more the social part that is the issue. I tried online dating but it just feels super forced and doesn't go anywhere. Maybe once I'm in a better place mentally i could try it again. But I would prefer to meet someone in real life.

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JimieWhales she/bitch An educated, strictly organic, ortho molecular aware patriotic princess. Lonelygirl15 28d ago #7747373

Are you in a city or a small town? I know rent is killer, but just moving out of your parents' place can be really good for your social life. If you can get in to be roommates with some cool girls, it will save money and could come with a ready-made social scene, esp if they throw parties at your place.

Have you looked at data science at all? Might be a good option for polisci/stats-adjacent?

I was a math/bio premed but I decided I didn't want to go to med school. I spent a year or so bumming around, worked at a liquor store and a warehouse - at the time, I felt like a sad directionless failure but looking back on it now it was a cool time in my life. In the end, I did a data science bootcamp and got into software that way. I was lucky because the math bits were easy and I've always been a computer nerd (my dad is an engineer).

>Maybe once I'm in a better place mentally

Maybe this is the underlying issue?

You probably have like three areas to work on (mental health, job/education, social life/dating), but you should try and figure out which to go after first that might fix the others. Like, are you single because you're sad, or are you sad because you're single? Are you unstable because you're broke, or are you broke because you're unstable?

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Lonelygirl15 JimieWhales 28d ago #7747456

I live a small town in a small European country. I want to move out but I'm worried that I will not be able to take proper care of myself. I used to have a dorm, which was nice but one time I got super depressed (during Covid) and I lost a lot of weight. The same thing would probably happen now if I wasn't living at home.

I actually worked in a warehouse myself too. It wasn't too bad and there were a lot of cute guys lol. But now I feel a little bit embarrassed if i have to go back after my studies.

My mental health is def the biggest thing I have to work on. My therapist recommended antidepressants but I don't trust myself with them. I might try them tho because nothing else seems to work either.

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CoolAdam they/them Lonelygirl15 28d ago #7749705

I was in a similar situation. People are going to tell you you need to work to yourself before dating or some bullshit. You dont need antidepressants, you need a boyfriend and some confidence.

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JimieWhales she/bitch An educated, strictly organic, ortho molecular aware patriotic princess. Lonelygirl15 28d ago #7747476

I'm lowkey :marseyjelly: because I gain weight when I'm depressed. :marseygiveup:

You're not Slovenian, are you? I ask because Slovenians all think their country sucks but Ljubljana is one of the coolest cities I've been to.

Anyway, it seems like you should for sure focus on mental health first. I know it's a meme but getting out in nature and exercising actually does make me feel better. Can you go running in the countryside where you are?

You could also try taking NAC, it didn't make a huge-huge difference but I think it helped me stabilize my moods and anxiety somewhat.

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Lonelygirl15 JimieWhales 28d ago #7747597

I find it fascinating that some peoples coping mechanism is to eat more and others to eat less when depressed. I'm already skinny but when I'm depressed I sometimes barely eat anything.

And no I'm not from Slovenia and I also don't think my country sucks. Except for the weather at the moment!!

Yeah I think I really need to force myself to go outside and do something. And maybe i could try something lighter instead of antidepressants.

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CoolAdam they/them Lonelygirl15 28d ago #7749730

Instead of anti-depressants, try taking 200mg Caffiene and 200mg L-Theanine before going into social situations. This is natural over-the-counter stuff from tea that temporarily improves congnitive function and relaxedness.

I tried it and it helped a lot.

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JimieWhales she/bitch An educated, strictly organic, ortho molecular aware patriotic princess. Lonelygirl15 28d ago #7747867

When I was depressed I would eat garbage and stay in bed, so yeah :marseychonkerfoid:

Even going for a walk outside is some amount of activity and will probably help your mood. Could you get a puppy? It would be a living being to love and force you to get up and go outside to walk her.