The entitlement of white families enrages me

Note: I posted this in a different sub but wanted to share here too. I'm just so angry

As a Black woman, the entitlement of white families and the shit they get away with both amazes me-and enrages me.

I'm away on a business trip-kind of my first. They are paying for my hotel room and everything. It's pretty awesome. The hotel I'm at has a swim pool so I decided to bring my bathing suit and go for an evening swim after my conference.

I figured I'd wait till about an hour before pool closing so it'd be less busy. Clearly, everyone had the same idea as me. Fine, whatever. There were 3 parties of us there-myself, solo, a filipino family (maybe 5-6 of them children included) and a big group of white families together for what I assume to be a hockey tournament (I saw them checking in with their sticks and hockey bags in tow).

The white adults were absolutely plastered. They had several coolers in the pool (not allowed) boxes of pizza (also not allowed). The adults were all drinking beers poolside (again, NOT allowed). Meanwhile, their kids are causing an absolute disturbance. Prior, their sons were playing FRICKING FLOOR HOCKEY in the hotel HALLWAY. I could hear them before I left and I saw them on during my time in the pool (they were coming in and out) and on my way back to my room.

At one point, one of the moms is so shitfaced she drops her glass and it shatters. she then starts scraping the glass into the pool where myself and the Filipino families kids were swimming. One of the moms goes "no no dont do that just leave it"

I decide I'm done with the main pool and head over to the hot tub where more of the Filipino family are hanging out. As we're relaxing, one of the front desk staff comes in with one of the boys. The boy goes "guys guys listen-the front desk says we need to quiet down we're being too loud" to which the moms respond "we're being too LOUD?! Tell them to shut the front door!" (Which makes zero sense because the pool door WAS shut-it requires key card entry). They were just that fricking loud.

Just the absolute gall and entitlement of the parents to think they should be allowed to disrupt everyone else was appalling. I lean over to someone in the hot tub and go "have they been acting like that all night?" "Yup, since we got here!" And then we started talking about how rude they were, the disrespect to public space, the glass in the pool, etc. Suddenly all the boys decide theyre down playing hotel hallway hockey and come into the pool. There's a huge sign that says "no diving-shallow pool". So naturally, they all start doing cannonballs. The splashes were so big they were hitting me and the family in the hottub. The parents continued to sit back shitfaced and pleased with themselves.

I'd had enough so I left and went to complain to front staff. I let him know that the family was drunk off their asses, not controlling their kids, the boys playing hockey in the hall, the broken glass, the pizza, the way the mom disrespected the first staff member to go in, all of it. He was very apologetic to which I said it's not his fault and the family would likely retaliate again (all the front desk staff were POC) and he said he'd handle it and escalate to management. I went off to my room.

Some of you are gonna say this is just a shitty parent thing-and it is. However, whiteness does come into play. Watch a Black person act up and see how we're shamed, dragged across the internet, everything. Watch a Black person follow the rules and still get shit. I'm thinking of those stories of Black people getting kicked out of pools in their own apartment complexes cause racists POS didn't think they live or "belong" there.

White people are just allowed to be shameless. The reason that mom was so bold talking back to the staff is cause she felt entitled and knew she held a position of power. She is the white woman, and is offended by the POC staff member politely telling her to get a hold of herself. The staff dare tell them how to behave??? They know at the end of the day they will get a free pass. I want to make sure to include the dads in this too cause they were shit too. I mention the mom cause my time there she was the one mouthing back. The dads were all standing around drunk and smug.

And this is how kids, especially white kids, turn into entitled adults. Mommy and daddy never say no. Of course theyd be allowed to play floor hockey in the middle of a hotel hallway and disrupt other patrons! Of course theyre allowed to break pool rules! Why shouldn't they? They're watching their parents do the exact same shit!

I'm not saying BIPOC should get a free pass to be unruly shits btw, or that we never act up. I'm angry at how different the repercussions are and how white folk are simply allowed to do whatever they please and train their kids to be the same because society has put them so far up on a pedestal.