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don't worry I'm gonna cut this
shit down
my (F28) wife's (F25) sister (my sister-in-law) is trans (22)
"Lesbian" and a
in one family,
what are the odds 
I walk upstairs and I noticed the door to the master bedroom. I open it and see my sister-in-law standing in my wife's closet trying on her lingerie.
22 year old man puts on his sister's underwear, very valid behaviour 
I didn't say anything out loud because I am a pretty intimidating person

Ever since then, sister-in-law has been texting, apologizing, saying how she's been having a hard time passing and this was her "last resort option."
I had no other choice. I HAD to put my sister's lingerie on. Literally nothing else could be done.
My problem now is, after I tell her what happened, what do we do?
indeed what a conundrum
A chud containment breach
and delusionposting
ensue
The porn addicted weirdo trying on his sister lingerie as a fetish is actually
when are chuds going to get a fricking software update 
Why does it feel like all of these comments are grossed out bc the sister is trans... Like ... Would y'all be this disgusted if the sister wasn't trans and was messing around in her family's closet?
I feel like this is a "trans women bad!" Bait post with how people are responding.
Like I get being annoyed at overstepped boundaries but I feel like if you just looked at this with a little sense and compassion it's pretty easy to see what's happening and it really shouldn't be That Hard to just act like a decent person about the situation.
Just be a Decent Fricking Human Being and let your brother stroke himself off in your underwear chud 
I'm honestly a little surprised by the strong reactions here. From what you said there was nothing sexual or predatory about this- it's a trans woman wanting to wear something that's extra feminine to feel good about herself.
I don't have a
big enough for this
It's not mandatory to tell but if you care about the SIL, you could probably sit down with them and see where they are mentally and emotionally about all of this
Suddenly you owe men emotional labour

So my family dynamic must be vastly different. Because if I walked in on that, I'd have just said, "make sure you put in the wash when you're done, and ask next time you want to come in here." Like it's just clothes. Fabric.

I think that while this is bad, she may really feel in danger in lingerie stores having her sister go with her doesnt necessarily mean shes safe from judgment.
Yeah, make sure to wear your own sister's lingerie instead while she and her "wife" are in the house, you won't get any judgement that way 
On the off chance this isn't completely made up by a transphobic troll, tell your wife.


I wouldn't want anyone sharing my underwear. But why is everyone describing this as "disgusting behaviour "? This is extreme rhetoric for this problem. No, this person isn't mentally ill either.
Perfectly normal behaviour 
Tell her, but also remember that this young woman is going through a lot. Trying on a sisters underwear is a pretty normal thing. 

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/u/Kooky-Appearance-458 So if it wasn't a trans woman, then it would beβ¦a cross dressing man messing around in lingerie and I would still be disgusted?
The Reddit "actually your personal boundaries are kink shaming bigot" community, everyone
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Even if it was a woman it would be weird as heck to sneak in her bedroom and start trying on her underwear
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True, but my first assumption would be thievery is afoot since they can't afford Agent Provocateur.
That bling ring stole (probably used) underwear while they pilfering through closets, girls be gross like that
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How often do you !fellas think the guy in charge of the evidence locker got those panties out to give them a sniff?
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They're probably clean, what's the point.
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It's really more of the violation than the actual smell
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Translate your tranime or I'll r*pe you
Translate it properly and I'll r*pe you anyways, just more pleasurably
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ill help
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you raise some good points tanya
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They mean if it was a cis sister-in-law
The answer is (a) it would still be really fricking weird and inappropriate and (b) also somewhat less believable
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Hot take but even if the """"sister""""" was a female I would ALSO think they were a sexual predator if I caught them doing this.
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oh come on bb
that's like a lukewarm take
I would never try on my brother's underwear, I kinda figured girls were working under the same rules in that respect.
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Biofoids know how gross their underwear gets, and wouldn't want anyone near theirs even if it's clean
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I like to use the least charitable interpretation of what someone said
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