Fact: Black Woman prefer BWC

I have to admit there were times I've felt this way. After nearly 30 years on this earth, I'm sharp enough to recognize very clear patterns... And unfortunately black men have always been shittier to me (as well as black women in general) outwardly than any other men.

It makes sense in a simple cause-and-effect way, just based on socioeconomic and cultural bullshit that's been plaguing the black community in general since the era of American slavery, but it still hurts and it's hard not to feel put off by how it manifests in our men and their behaviors towards us. I have a VERY low tolerance for disrespect and ignorant clownery, so unfortunately that automatically put me at odds with seemingly the majority of black dudes in my communities.

But exposure to positive black male influences is so important as well. I started following a lot of really cool black guys on social media, YouTube, insta, etc. and it was like a breath of fresh air. There's tons of wonderful black men out there who are funny and thoughtful and multifaceted and eccentric, and they probably feel just as isolated sometimes when being compared to what "real" black men are supposed to be. I'm here for them, and I try not to let my negative experiences affect the way I view them because I'd hate to be judged based on the worst of black women if the roles were reversed.

It's just complicated. I love me some black men and attraction has never been an issue, but the mental obstacles related to past experiences with black men were certainly something to overcome.