What’s with men always wanting to invade queer spaces? : actuallesbians

If trans woman are brought up and your first thought is "I'd never date a woman with a peepee", it's probably coming from a transphobic place. Because;

1. It's weird for you to so readily, and unprompted, define us so explicitly by something we did not ask for and do not want. Especially when it's the same thing transphobes use to deny us womanhood, and paint us as unwanted, unlovable deviants. Especially when many of us don't use, and actively hide our peepee during s*x, even actively hating the idea of being made to use it during s*x. Especially especially when some of don't even have them anymore. It can come off like you see us as woman in name only, and that we still want to have s*x like, and as a man. As if s*x with us inherently distinct and alien to s*x w|w have. That is transphobic.
2. It's not too dissimilar to having a racial preference. In that, while everyone respects you can't control who you are attracted to, there's clearly a line that can be crossed. Being overly proud of, defensive of, and vocal about this preference, especially when it's uncalled for, and litterally just being done in response to marginalized people existing in your space most definitely crosses a line. It comes off as targeted dislike of that specific marginalized group.
3. It's not like trans woman are litterally trying to force you to date them and you have to constantly wave a sign telling us to stay away. If that's what you feel is going on, you almost certainly are coming from a transphobic place and operating under confirmation bias. It's plenty fine enough to just politely decline a trans person asking to date you. You know, the way you'd decline litterally anyone else you don't want to date. Instead of loudly broadcasting how much you don't want to date them preemptively, unprompted, in spaces they are trying to feel safe within.

Simply put, "It's not inherently transphobic to have a genital preference" doesn't mean "that type of transphobia is allowed", it's saying it's not inherently transphobic to feel that way, as long as it's not coming from a transphobic place, and you don't act on that feeling in a transphobic way.

But honestly, it's still shallow. It's not "perfectly fine" to refuse to date a trans person, it's just not inherently transphobic. If you aren't transphobic, you are still being really shallow and judgmental, treating people like meat to be discarded for their imperfections.