That said, when I see trans women dressed excessively girly, inappropriately or almost in a costume (school girl outfits, Princess dresses, etc. etc.) I have trouble relating. It feels like this is enforcing negative trans stereotypes, and harming us as a group.
Logically, I know what other people do is unlikely to affect me, and my reaction is probably due to some remaining transphobia. Just a bunch of girls and women living their best lives and doing the things they always wanted to do but couldn't. I just have trouble squaring this away with my own feelings.
No hate on those enjoying themselves, I really am tempted to chalk this up firmly as a 'me' problem.
The TL:DR is that yes, it's a me problem. Trans women are beautiful and unique, it's our business what we wear, and haters are gonna hate anyway so I need to get over myself. And I promise I'm working on it.
OP trying so hard not to offend the hugbox, wonder what the commenters have to say:
so brave!
none whatsoever I'm sure, might as well drop the cis/trans labels
hormones make you young again!
learning to accept that you can't get your childhood back and moving on? nah, wear the outfit xueen
need safe spaces without c*s chuds telling us we're being "creepy" or "inappropriate"
op is noticing things
it's just trauma, chud!
mids 30s, dressing 13-14, perfectly valid and normal!
not wanting creepers to represent you is bigotry
cis women need to pass too
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Just trying to get this straight here. This guy -- a transphobe who hates performative ery -- has somehow been convinced to transition?
He's working through his transphobia with his therapist?
Hand up here who is this guy's therapist?
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Problematic.
You have seen nothing yet. There's a LessWrong/SSC/TheMotte guy that goes by Saotome-Westlake and idk where he is now, but some years ago I had an argument with him about https://slatestarcodex.com/2014/11/21/the-categories-were-made-for-man-not-man-for-the-categories/ where he firmly insisted that no, trans women are not women, that's not how categories work, while (as I accidentally discovered because I'm a nosy b-word) being like six months in on heroic dosing of estrogen. Like still totally identifying as a man(male) who wants to grow tits because of gender dysphoria.
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For onlookers who enjoy reading wordswordswords and aren't already familiar with him: http://unremediatedgender.space/ with best-of posts list on /about/
His overriding thesis seems to be that Blanchard's taxonomy and the existence of autogynephilia (AGP) ought to be publicly recognized for the good of the AGPs (not least the turbo-autists in his LessWrong rationalist in-group) so:
they might avoid feeling compelled to out from a spergy obsession with logical consistency & their already weak identification with the masculine gender role,
they don't contort their world-model into thinking that the "woman in a man's body" shtick is actually true in base reality, and
the previous point being important for the fate of our future light cone, because he fears that when said friends create the 100ft-tall great AI god, they'll make it believe that transwomen are women, and this will lead to eternal heck on earth.
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it's an mtf who hates the worst "skirt go spinny uwu anime girl" types but because it's a hugbox that's "internalised transphobia" and a bad thing, not just common sense
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So he's just gunna transition into a frumpy cat lady. Probably end up more convincing than 99% of them.
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