I am a trans woman. I know who I am, what I am, and what I am not. I do not harbor any delusion.
However, cis people can only see you as either a woman or a man, and once they know you are a trans woman, they can't unsee the guy in you. I wrote a post about cis people lying about clocking you and making up the stupidest shit as to why they clocked you.
the post in question: Woman said she could tell I was trans because of my hands, but she NEVER saw my hands!
Years ago, I was stupid and naïve and thought that my best friendships would be with people who knew about my transition and accepted me and loved me for who I am.
being accepting isn't good enough, chud
No matter how loud they proclaim to see you as nothing but a woman, at the first sign of disagreement, they will remind you that you are a man or female impersonator. I have witnessed innumerable types of microaggresions, almost imperceptible types of disrespect that all add up cumulatively.
One lady who swore up and down that she saw me as a woman, expected me to pay the bill every time we went out to eat, to carry heavy stuff.
Or some people would expect me to work for free because I am trans (they would call me asking favors that would mean hours and hours and hours of free work).
can't be other reasons for those, must be because of being trans
Another friend who saw me as a woman would blame my transition and my XY chromosomes any time I disliked a movie that she loved, or vice versa.
I had to become a b-word as a survival mechanism. Now, my bar is set very high and I cut people off at the first sign of gender invalidation.
sounds lovely to be around
I’ve solved this problem, I have no friends! Weeeeee!!!
I have cats. They love me unconditionally and don't care about my gender. I am their mom.
I guess that's made it easier for me. Being neurodivergent I don't have a lot of people that stay close. My egg cracked and I basically came out to everyone I know within six months. I won't meet anyone new as my dying name.
I love seeing how gender expectations which in a cis/het context would already constitute sexism can bleed into transphobia. Trans people know all sorts of intersectional bigotry, from misogynistic transphobia to homophobia and man-hating transphobia.
trans people don't enforce gender expectations in any way
Yes this is true unfortunately. Among all the grand benevolent validating gestures from supposed allies, it's the seemingly small behaviours that give away their real perceptions they have of you.
frick those chuds trying to be supportive but sometimes slipping up
Well I'm only 20 and after highschool I either fell out or lost contact with my friends, and after that all my friends have coincidentally been LGBTQIA+ so I haven't had to cut anyone else out besides some transphobic family members so I'd count myself pretty lucky!
so lucky getting into a comfy echochamber
Omg this post💜💜💜💜💜 specially the part when they already can and have seen the girl/woman but as soon you do something to piss anyone off, you're a man.
Omg so true as I’m reading this, a very close friend who says she only sees me as myself a woman just say I need help with bills, or every time we go out or clubbing always gets my card, lol actually she just hold onto for the night. I’m like why don’t you get one of your cis GF card instead of mine every time.
Yeah I wouldn’t do that.
It’s so hard to break old habits instilled into are brains over a life time. Most times I don’t even think about it til after the fact.
evil "friend" only doing that because she's a chud and not because it's what you've been doing for years
My friend group back home has a bunch of trans and queer people in it, but I still feel uncomfortable around most of them because they know and they treat me differently because of it.
My other queer friends are also wonderful, but they treat me as a queer woman. And I guess that’s fine, I suppose I’m queer regardless of the fact that I’m trans, but it also gets to me.
I only realised I felt this way after my work colleagues treated me with kindness and respect. They had some of the typical “what’s your deadname” cis idiocy, but nothing malicious.
lol the other trains trying to remind you of how hecking valid you are reminding you that you're different more than the normies trying to be polite
I consulted a plastic surgeon in Beverly Hills over some facial fillers. This happened in 2018. I got a bit emotional during the consultation and teared up while recounting what I had been through. The surgeon instantly became patronizing an when he was walking me out of the door, he told me, in front of other patients and in front of his stuff, "You are more feminine than real women." He made sure everyone in the waiting room heard it. Can you believe it?
you can't expect me not to take advantage of double coin with a low effort trainpost
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oh don't worry sweaty how could we ever forget when it's the only thing you talk about
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They fricking know. These are chasers and my slag of a gay friend has identical stories of married men behaving exactly the same with him.
Where's the ordinary guys babes? Why's it only desperate married men treating you as their dirty little secret?
chasers.
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Hunny, real women don't see you as competition. Trust me. Despite what some off the look-how-woke-I-am say, they do not really believe it when they say, "Wow, you look so much better than cis women!" If you were actually a woman, you would know this is something some women do. Sometimes it's to placate you, sometimes it's to mock you to your face.
No one is jealous that you are pulling coom-brained chasers
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It's like they've never seen Mean Girls lol
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s and understanding social nuance: name a less iconic duo
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That's a lie.
That's how you end up dead drowned in a potty because you lied to the guy.
Another lie.
Why do they keep having to lie...I mean "not disclose" the truth?
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Idk, I believe that some of these chasers are that depraved. You could find the ugliest and post their pics on reddit and get an inbox full of disgusting thirsty moids
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But just like on Grindr lots of messages don't result in lots of action.
The rate of engagement is 0.5% if that.
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Post nut clarity? They probably have a wank and then realize they almost made a huge mistake. The 0.5% are just true degens.
!blackjack105
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Unfortunately the neogussy smell gives it away
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Imagine placing this amount of your self worth in how other people see you.
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Without external validation all they have is their own self-doubt constantly eating them up inside, which is why "affirmation" is all the rage now.
Their identity has to be "affirmed" from the outside for them to feel good about themselves.
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Sounds perfectly sane.
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tbf plenty of cis women are like this as well so maybe trans women really are women
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Yeah but there is no amount of affirmation that will ever do the trick since they can just look in their mirror or in their pants and have the illusion shattered. Also probably why they push it on the kids too, need to see themselves reflected everywhere unquestionably.
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If you can't convince yourself just convince everyone else instead because it can't be a lie if everyone believes it. It's like hypnotizing yourself through a proxy and the proxy is the entire world.
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He may be a lib, but he nooticed things once.
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Gyms are super popular though.
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The only validation that matters is self validation. They have to learn to accept themselves because the never will. And who really cares about some failed school shooter's opinion?
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Where's that article where some genderqueers were complaining that the lockdown made them feel invalidated because no one acknowledged just how brave and valid they were?
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I've been trying to find it, but I baleeted my history.
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Any Buddhist would tell you the need for external validation is ego, and that it never ends well.
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The constant need for validation leads to self-destruction. Look at social media addicts and Instagram foids, they all fall apart within a moment of not getting attention or validated. Trains expect that everyone else validate them 24/7. It only ends in disaster. It also creates narcissism and self-absorption.
The true chads of human society are the ones that don't need attention and don't attach everything to external validation and ego-reinforcement.
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Maybe they are real women after all
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I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY LMAO
https://old.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/uo73p3/woman_said_she_could_tell_i_was_trans_because_of/?depth=9&sort=controversial
This post is
The trains entire history is worth a read, hilarious
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He is like beardfinn-lite with the way he writes and presents his "cases" as evidence. I like how he made up two different hand stories that basically followed the same beats and just swapped out characters and scenarios. Possibly him in real life (before transition to heckin' valid, of course)
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Those have gotta be some huge hands
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Yeah but the boxing gloves and mittens make your big hands look small
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God it's just such a good bit, this transwoman whose hands are always covered getting puzzled and angered that she is getting clocked as if it's the only revealing thing about her. It all just sounds like these transwomen could be having friends and getting laid but they push everyone away who dares open their eyes
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What does this person think is happening? They can't actually tell?
Newsflash buddy: if they know, they arent making it up, because nobody ever thinks that of straggots.
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Another user, so yeah they are convinced people can't tell.
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Idk whole thing reminds of the lawyer with small hands bits from. It's always sunny.
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Their very first sentence
Immediately followed by
You can't make this shit up, it's too good
Everyone who unironically uses the term "microaggressions" (and can't even spell it properly) needs to be sterilized. Fortunately, the cute and valid seem to actually agree to that.
I don't even have anything witty to say about this. Just
He's doing everyone around him a huge favor, so probs for that
Lol, it's funny how they try their absolute hardest to enforce the gender stereotypes they so vehemently swear to fight against
Literally what?
Well maybe if you develop any kind of personality beyond being cute and valid that's gonna happen
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So you didn't wear snow mittens the entire time?
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"Hey! You! The woman with the big hands and broad shoulders and massive armspan! Help me carry this 65" TV!
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We know she's a real woman when she gets offended by the idea of doing work
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I've met women (russian) here who I would absolutely ask to help me move lmao. Sorry bud, you just look the part, woman or not.
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It feels like It's been years since I've seen that word. I figured it had fallen out of favour with these types as they upped the rhetoric to 'any sort of disagreement is now hate speech'.
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It's literal violence.
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It's so subtle as if it wasn't even there.
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No you dont understand, the order those commercials came on proves the CIA is using them to control my mind
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Well, just like how s dress in clothes that are at least a decade out of style, they pick outdated wording from the garbage, too.
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Huh. Guess you really are a foid
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lmfaooo based butcher surgeons grifting their patients
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The reason people who transition are disproportionately neurodivergent is they take people who say "trans women are women" at face value. They think it means they can become 100% pure woman, not that it's tantamount to "Sure, I'll humor you by saying it, even though you'll always be a trans-woman as opposed to woman."
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alienate your friends and family by blowing everything out of proportion and being generally insufferable
"coincidentally" surround yourself with superficially supportive internet friends
???
profit
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Theyre simultaneous, not consecutive.
I had a couple friends come out as gay and nobody in my friend group gave a shit. But they "distanced themselves" when they started bringing their new mentally ill friends around and they didnt immediately fit in.
And not mentally ill because they were LGBT, but actually mentally ill AND lgbt and would actually start screaming and throwing stuff on mic when they died in video games.
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kek s seething because they can't change people's minds. they want to control what everyone thinks of them but they will never be able to, everyone including their hecking allies will always see them as the freaks they are
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Im betelguese winonia ryder was depressed and suicidal because her stepmom was a b-word. This allowed her to see ghosts for some stupid reason. This reasoning is far more solid than anyone trying to explain why neurodivergence matters.
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Heathers also predicted the media encouraging teen suicides
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And also had Winona ryder
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She was also on alien resurrection a movie series about men giving birth.
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Time to turn up the toxic positivity to 11 otherwise my entire life is in jeopardy
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🚨Bard bot (near miss) alert!🚨
I'll let it slide this time, but I'm watching you...
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TRANSMISIC ACTORS BTFO
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I don't even know what this means.
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It means he wants to frick this girl. She used him as an ATM when he was a man (he still is, but he used to be, too ) because he is a simp. So, despondent, he thinks, "Well, if she doesn't like me as a man, surely she'll like me as a woman!" He transitions, but his simp status doesn't change. He will never get a crumb and he will never stop trying until he goes broke and she finds some other sucker to sponge off of.
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Wait, so like they go to a club and she just yoinks his credit card? Bros, if you're an uggo and need to rely on beta bux to get some you must always hold the card, they need to come to you for beta bux. Giving the card up is the last thing you should do. Why this b-word don't have her own card?
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Why buy milk when you have a cow to do it for you?
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Op made the right choice to transition but she should be slobbering over peepee and avoid the foid.
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I think they are admitting to having a weird dynamic where they are paying this chick to be "her" friend and be allowed to go out with her.
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You couldn't pay me to platonicly accompany foids.
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Translating into above a 3rd grade writing level, they're mad that they've been correctly pinned as a paypig simp by their friend, lol.
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Women (female) exploiting orbiters
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Maybe you just want to see it.
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It's extremely sad we still live in a society where people have not rewired their brains to make sure they don't perceive humans by their basic senses and patterns. What your eyes, ears or nose tell you is irrelevant, what other people say should be the only thing affecting your perception.
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Snappy?
Snapshots:
undelete.pullpush.io
archive.org
archive.ph (click to archive)
ghostarchive.org (click to archive)
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They always think it’s solely because they’re trans. Back when I was still active-GOP I started a friendship and then “like-liked” with a woman in Colombia (she looks exactly like 1990’s Sean young); she had remarked that despite the “issues” she was so thankful that she waited until later in life because she was able to be a parent and wait until after divorcing and his daughter was older. Total opposite of “I left my7 children to age-play as a little girl).
She had published in Nature. Never gets hostile or aggressive, and was doing this in Colombia (infinite hard-mode). I’m not woke and prob 95% straggot but I was both sexually and emotionally attracted (not the stereotype).
What do think is going to happen when they cocoon with redditors. they would never tell you if you’re fricking up and that’s if the the thread isn’t ‘yalled.
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its funny because if you're truly a woman you shouldn't care about what other people say you are, since you clearly know what "being a woman" feels like
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I think internal agony posts are my favourite
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