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People say stuff like “oh but you made a friend!” But this is honestly like the hardest thing to deal with. What has worked for me is to immediately move on to someone new. Just start thinking about ANYONE you find attractive. Redirect the energy. Also stop talking for a little bit if you can. In like a month you will be over it if you do those things.
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Im literally her ONLY friend. she never had a relationship before and is a very anti social and sad person (I can fix her) and im the only person who talks to her besides her family.
Im coping but maybe she is afraid to enter a relationship or smt? I mean if I leave her she is gonna be completely alone.
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Be direct and honest if you decide to break it off, which you should. She will prob take it badly if you weasel around it.
Say that you had a great friendship but that your feelings developed over time and now you've crossed the Rubicon by telling her you can't go back to how it was, but you don't regret doing it because you would have hated yourself if you didn't.
If you're smooth you can flatter her a little to make it more bittersweet, but otherwise just affirm her positive attributes, wish her well and evaporate from her life and onto the next one.
Make sure afterwards you lift weights and get a good job so you become “the one that got away” and lay the groundwork for your future rejection of her and her subsequent spiral into depression. That'll teach the b-word for rejecting you.
Us neurodivergents need to reward loyalty because it's not easy putting up with our shit but some blessed people choose to do it anyway.
I want to be rich arm candy to make my foid happy, but it's also because frick you Kaylie, I could have been yours but you just wanted me to clap your cheeks and then ghosted me after you normie hooer
There is a bit of schadenfreude as others hit age milestones and look you up. When one of my exes turned 30 I received a friend request but then no follow-up messages once she realized I was in a relationship.
There is also the humorous awkwardness running into an ex randomly at Target when you are carrying a baby with your two older kids standing next to you. She's still single and forced to tell you how cute your kids are. "Oh thank you! I'm sure it'll happen for you too someday!"
Like the great phylosophiser Michael McDonald said but go off
But what a fool believes, he sees
No wise man has the power to reason away
um I know you wont listen, but shes not totally into you dude, and Shes not gonna change her mind, and Its not going anywhere, and Cut bait for your own sanity
It's funny, because she's actually trying to help, but men's and women's dating experience is so different that it's totally useless in practice. If he was the type of dude that had the options of an attractive woman, then this would all be a moot point. But he isn't, so here he is posting about his oneitis.
Also stop talking for a little bit if you can.
Actual good advice, but stretch little bit to forever.
True true, for women it might be easier, and it might feel better at the time, but even then it's awful advice long term. The solution is to learn how to cope with feelings of rejection and be happy by/with yourself, otherwise you just drown your problems in the next person who will inevitably leave you too. I used to do this when I was younger, it's like a teenager coping mechanism.
Fair, tbh I didn't even engage with the validity of the advice. It's kinda like Shaq giving a quadriplegic dunking advice; even if it's correct, they can't do shit with it anyway
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People say stuff like “oh but you made a friend!” But this is honestly like the hardest thing to deal with. What has worked for me is to immediately move on to someone new. Just start thinking about ANYONE you find attractive. Redirect the energy. Also stop talking for a little bit if you can. In like a month you will be over it if you do those things.
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Im literally her ONLY friend. she never had a relationship before and is a very anti social and sad person (I can fix her) and im the only person who talks to her besides her family.
Im coping but maybe she is afraid to enter a relationship or smt? I mean if I leave her she is gonna be completely alone.
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Be direct and honest if you decide to break it off, which you should. She will prob take it badly if you weasel around it.
Say that you had a great friendship but that your feelings developed over time and now you've crossed the Rubicon by telling her you can't go back to how it was, but you don't regret doing it because you would have hated yourself if you didn't.
If you're smooth you can flatter her a little to make it more bittersweet, but otherwise just affirm her positive attributes, wish her well and evaporate from her life and onto the next one.
Make sure afterwards you lift weights and get a good job so you become “the one that got away” and lay the groundwork for your future rejection of her and her subsequent spiral into depression. That'll teach the b-word for rejecting you.
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The last point is so true lmao
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A life full of spite is a life well lived
Us neurodivergents need to reward loyalty because it's not easy putting up with our shit but some blessed people choose to do it anyway.
I want to be rich arm candy to make my foid happy, but it's also because frick you Kaylie, I could have been yours but you just wanted me to clap your cheeks and then ghosted me after you normie hooer
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There is a bit of schadenfreude as others hit age milestones and look you up. When one of my exes turned 30 I received a friend request but then no follow-up messages once she realized I was in a relationship.
There is also the humorous awkwardness running into an ex randomly at Target when you are carrying a baby with your two older kids standing next to you. She's still single and forced to tell you how cute your kids are. "Oh thank you! I'm sure it'll happen for you too someday!"
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Like the great phylosophiser Michael McDonald said but go off
um I know you wont listen, but shes not totally into you dude, and Shes not gonna change her mind, and Its not going anywhere, and Cut bait for your own sanity
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Oh no poor foid will have to get on tinder for Chad thundercoxk, poor lady
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It happens to literally everyone, and like Just keep truckin, and Youll probably look back 5 years from now and not even remember her name
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This is terrible advice lol
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It's funny, because she's actually trying to help, but men's and women's dating experience is so different that it's totally useless in practice. If he was the type of dude that had the options of an attractive woman, then this would all be a moot point. But he isn't, so here he is posting about his oneitis.
Actual good advice, but stretch little bit to forever.
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True true, for women it might be easier, and it might feel better at the time, but even then it's awful advice long term. The solution is to learn how to cope with feelings of rejection and be happy by/with yourself, otherwise you just drown your problems in the next person who will inevitably leave you too. I used to do this when I was younger, it's like a teenager coping mechanism.
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Fair, tbh I didn't even engage with the validity of the advice. It's kinda like Shaq giving a quadriplegic dunking advice; even if it's correct, they can't do shit with it anyway
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