I'm a petty beefy guy. Have been for most of my adult life. I'm changing my eating and hitting the gym again to get healthy, but I don't think I'll ever be super thin again.
There seem to be a decent amount of men who find plus size women sexy, which I think is fantastic. But as a man, I can't say that my experience has been proportional or at all similar. Outside of fetish communities, I've not encountered a woman who was sincerely attracted to someone with my body type, and thats... hard.
I don't want to be a fetish. I don't want to be in a feeder-type relationship. I want to be healthy, but I also accept that healthiness for me might still be a hefty body type. The BHM communities I've found on reddit are very sexually oriented. I'm not here to kink shame anyone, but that's just not me.
I'm a man with a deep capacity for love and connection. I'm very connected to my feelings and really would like to find a meaningful relationship based on mutual interest, attraction, and compatible personalities.
I just don't know where to find women who would be interested in dating a guy like me. The apps are out. So are the popular dating sites. I just feel like modern dating isn't made for the plus sized man.
Does anyone have some good advice for me? I'm a 46 year old man, who at this point, is kind of at a loss.
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Lardasses are so disgustingly grotesque
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/u/RepetitiveNeurosis how muscular are you? You say you're beefy but that doesn't say much. There are some women who like "strongfat" (and a lot more men in case you're bisexual) but extremely few women without feeder-type fetishes like "skinnyfat" or "just fat" men. We actually have a community for those rare women on this website, /h/femaledatingstrategy. You should come by some time and try your luck!
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https://old.reddit.com/user/RepetitiveNeurosis
Keking at the other comments!!
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Hmm didn't think that included beer guts
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Asking women what they want in a man is the worst way to find out what women want
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fat women dont want to date fat men but want Chads
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